ABetterWay
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Along the lines of someone suggesting to tell yourself you're going to be ok...
And given that you are fighting *thoughts*....
These are basically affirmations. Commands you are giving to yourself.
I won't post the following technique for that without crediting where I heard this idea, so it's a gentleman named Richard Grannon on YouTube. You can search for his name if interested. He's great. Talks a lot about narcissistic abuse and related topics. Anyway, to get to the point now:
Instead of phrasing things like a command, which can at times either create a contrarian response, or evoke anxiety (ie, "...I'm really having to fight with my mind, i'm telling myself I am ok over and over and then the other part of me is like but you are ok stop saying that!!"), or other undesirable effects, phrase it as a suggestion. Example: "I don't have to feel so anxious, really. I can choose not to."
This tends to evoke less of an anxious response - if that's what can happen to you - so you may instead respond more along the lines of something like,"Yeah, that's true." or,"I *can* choose to not feel anxious." etc.
Best of luck to you Peace
And given that you are fighting *thoughts*....
These are basically affirmations. Commands you are giving to yourself.
I won't post the following technique for that without crediting where I heard this idea, so it's a gentleman named Richard Grannon on YouTube. You can search for his name if interested. He's great. Talks a lot about narcissistic abuse and related topics. Anyway, to get to the point now:
Instead of phrasing things like a command, which can at times either create a contrarian response, or evoke anxiety (ie, "...I'm really having to fight with my mind, i'm telling myself I am ok over and over and then the other part of me is like but you are ok stop saying that!!"), or other undesirable effects, phrase it as a suggestion. Example: "I don't have to feel so anxious, really. I can choose not to."
This tends to evoke less of an anxious response - if that's what can happen to you - so you may instead respond more along the lines of something like,"Yeah, that's true." or,"I *can* choose to not feel anxious." etc.
Best of luck to you Peace