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so i think im in love - help.

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MrIbis

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Hey everyone.

So i'll give some background on the latest... 6 months ago I had a spiritual awakening have since quit heroin and been clean for that 6 months. Everything in my life has become amazing, I'm djin'g and running parties - a full time musician and uni student now. I've met a girl who i'm head over heals for - 7 weeks around her and even though we've hooked up and expressed desire to fuck eachothers brains out - we haven't and just hung out as like best friends who play around a little.

So now her family loves me, including her mother and little sister - and in the last week in my head it's become a little serious - that said I have lots of girls after me and the choice of about 13+ girls - I've chosen 2 as possible candidates to maybe settle down with - both i've been good friends with for extended periods.

The last few days the numero uno has avoided me a bit, and the other one just got out of detox and is happy to spend time with me clean off drugs and wants to hang out more (and we've been close for 10yrs and it's been sexual before). Uno i'll call her from here on out, her sister has been talking to me a lot (strange i know), wants her sister to be with me for whatever reason - so i've worked it out that knowing i can have any girl really i shouldn't be as stressed as i am about it. I wrote uno a letter tonight, it's more a fb convo rant in letterish form - i feel that if she doesn't reciprocate these feelings in the next few days to a week after reading this, i will just move on and go for number 2, who I really kinda love but it's without the same kinda lustful feelings i feel for uno.

I wrote uno this;
"MrIbis 23:12 26/04/2012

ah well, spoke to your sister so i know you're avoiding me.. sorry if i was too intense, ill leave ya alone from here on out. have a good one ok [:)]

it's your life i only wanna share whats happening with me with you because i think you're the most awesome girl i've ever met.

I don't wanna use or abuse anything you are. I get goosebumps thinking about you - and i'm sure you know it, hence why you're avoiding me. I've never felt like i do for you for any girl ever - and i want you to be my best friend no matter what. Honestly if i'd have just fucked you a month ago this would probably be out of my system because i didnt feel this way before, just knew i liked something about you. Normally i just sleep with the girl and after feel like she's a slut and lose interest, usually on the first night. The more time i've spent with you the more i've visualized where i wanna go with you in life even if we didn't work out.

I dont want a relationship with any girl until like next year but I wanted to see where it might go with a girl i was such good friends with.

woops, fuck it sent, anyway i hope you read all this and understand my feelings now. talk to me tomorrow or don't the choice is yours - all i can say is it will be your loss if ya cut me out - you've never had someone as great as me, and the same goes for me with you.

good luck in all things you do - and i hope maybe you'll come around - til then i'll move on to the other girl i really like who is receptive to my feelings because we've been good friends for 10yrs now...

Lots of love,
MrIbis"

Obviously the real names have been edited out to protect the innocent ;)

Girls please give me advice.
 
MrIbis said:
I have lots of girls after me and the choice of about 13+ girls
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"Honestly if i'd have just fucked you a month ago this would probably be out of my system because i didnt feel this way before, just knew i liked something about you. Normally i just sleep with the girl and after feel like she's a slut and lose interest, usually on the first night."
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not a girl, and not trying to be a jerk. but you really come across like an arrogant douche. no girl wants to hear from a guy that if she'd fucked him (like she probably wanted to), he'd have thought her a slut and lost interest. clarifying it by claiming you'd feel differently about it now is likely not much reassurance. and again, i'm sorry if this comes off hostile, but i feel like i'm on pretty solid ground with this: 100% of people, when they hear someone say "i've got my pick of 13 girls," are going to think "holy shit that guy is a douche."

i'm not trying to say you're a bad guy, or call names like an internet tough guy. you're probably a good dude who's just over-doing it with the confidence thing. but you really need to take a step back, re-read what you wrote as if someone else had written it, and think about how that would come across to a girl.
 
^That

Forgetting for a second that you've known her for less than two months, if you were in love with her you wouldn't be saying shit like this:

that said I have lots of girls after me and the choice of about 13+ girls - I've chosen 2 as possible candidates to maybe settle down with.
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It sounds like she's avoiding you for good reasons.
 
maybe she has a choice of 13+ guys and youre just a little lower on her list than she is on yours?
 
Do ex h addicts get the bitches?

i better continue my h usage into overload addiction.
 
p0ly said:
Do ex h addicts get the bitches?

i better continue my h usage into overload addiction.
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All my fellow male junkies, there is hope! Ex junkie girls like ex junkie guys (from my experience). On a serious note though, drop the cockiness. Sure some women like cockiness/arrogance but those aren't the ones you want to "settle down" with. Those are usually party girls who will leave you when "something better comes along". They just want thrills and excitement, and face it, longterm relationships are not always parties, excitement, and thrills. Typically people say they married their best friend, someone who you connect with on an emotional level, and can be completely open with, and spend time with NOT doing couple things, like biking, or studying together, etc. It's girls like that who will TREAT YOU right if you treat them right. Also, the whole "13+ girls" thing kind of bothered me. If you mentioned it here on BL, then you probably mention/brag about it to those around you. Word travels fast (especially among women looking out for their friends). She might perceive you as a player (good girls don't do players) and that could be why she's avoiding you. OR at the very worst she might know about your numero dos (#2) girl. Girls don't want to be your numero uno (#1), they want to be the ONLY ONE.

That's just a little advice from someone who has a choice of 14+ girls =P I'm kidding, I'm single, I flirt, and I have fun, I tried the married life, and at 21 it just wasn't for me yet. Met a great girl in NA though and we're going ziplining, to an amusement park, and hopefully the Chili Peppers concert soon. Try something like that. That letter could be detrimental to your cause though just an FYI.
 
I know of a guy like you, and this is just being a douchebag just like him.

Some people dont be lucky enough to "choose from candidates" , talking like that, who do you think you are anyway
 
Yeah, you're sounding a bit conceited.
The last part of the note, so you told the first girl that you had a "backup" second girl? Really?
Do they know each other? For your sake, I really hope not :p
 
Dear Men:

When trying to compose a romantic note to a female, avoid comments such as:

"I just fucked..."
"We just fucked..."
"I need to fuck..."
"I fucked.."

Your friendly BL girl,
Lysis
 
If I was to receive a letter such as that from someone who I might be possibly interested in, the last sentence would be enough to completely turn me off! And the phrase: "You've never had someone as great as me"...ugh!

You sound like a jerk. I hope she never talks to you again.
 
man who are you kidding lol you dont have the choice of anyone. any guy who would actually send a girl a letter (wtf year is it?) and write such rediculous things is only kidding themselves (you)
7 weeks and you didnt fuck this girl? and shes avoiding you so you go and spill your obsession to her? im an ex junkie too, i know what infatuation and obsession is. it happens with a song you like, food you like, activity or game you like, etc. you want it so bad till you have it then its burnt out, kinda like the H.

take some time to get your shit together. at this point you dont need some bitch running your life, which is what would probably happen. and ex junkies dont belong together, its a recipe for disaster. every single one would agree with me, unless they are hopeless romantics. i tend to be over realistic from my experience though so take it with a grain of salt.

one things for sure, you killed any future you had with her
 
Lysis said:
Dear Men:

When trying to compose a romantic note to a female, avoid comments such as:

"I just fucked..."
"We just fucked..."
"I need to fuck..."
"I fucked.."

Your friendly BL girl,
Lysis
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Dear Lysis,
I'm new to this part of BL. I was wondering if maybe you have any free time to show me around this area. After the tour, I was thinking maybe we could get together and get lunch sometime, maybe get to know eachother a bit? Judging by your avatar you must have the most beautiful blue eyes I've ever seen. More amazing than the most flawless sapphire I'd say. I was wondering if you like playing pool as well? I'm not too bad of a player, but I don't know if you'd be up for the challenge. If you think you got what it takes, winner buys a round of drinks. Not trying to brag, but I've been on quite the winning streak lately, but who knows, you strike me as a gal with quite some skills. Maybe you could de-throne me and claim the title. If you feel up for the challenge, just give me a call at 555-555-5555, or send me a text, I got unlimited everything. Hope you have a great evening. =)
~Sero

How's that for a letter? =)
 
Holy shit, no offence dude but that was the worst letter I have ever read. Seriously. Totally fucked.
 
So, if you're thinking of copy-pasting that letter to the number 2 girl and changing the names around - don't.
 
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