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Lost Ego

Lost Ego

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My GF has been getting extremely jealous over the last week. It's over very little things like the way i talk to our waitress or because a random girl added me on facebook. I love her and won't leave her over something like this but idk what to do, i've always been the jealous one and never had to watch what i said or did. I keep making small slip ups that piss her off and i'm afraid it's ruining our relationship Idk how not to make her jelly and avoid her mood swings. Besides not wanting to cheat on her because she makes me so damn happy - even if i did wanna cheat i couldn't possibly; i work all day, drive home and spend the whole day with her - i have no free time to do such a thing.
 
Sounds like something must have happened that made her feel insecure and it may have been something you weren't even aware of. If she has never been this way before then something caused it. And once some little thing put some doubt or worry in her mind she may well jump on every little thing you say or do no matter how silly or innocent it may seem.

If you haven't already you definitely need to sit her down and talk. Tell her you can tell something is bothering her and try to get to the bottom of it. Reassure her exactly the way you said that here about how happy she makes you and you would never cheat/leave. Maybe even show her this post if that's possible.

Talking to her and reassuring will work wonders (as long as you really aren't guilty of anything that upset her).

Good luck.
 
She needs to open up about this. How can you make things better if you don't know what's bothering her?
 
Ignore her comments. Don't feed into it because it'll just make her more mad.

If you catch yourself making an inappropriate comment, apologize simply like "Sorry, didn't mean it like that!" and give her a corny compliment, "you know, you're the only one in my heart". If she still insists, apologize again and then change subject.

If you make a comment that she felt was inappropriate, ask her to explain herself (if she hasn't already or you don't understand). Have a good conversation with her about it, defending yourself on why you think it was appropriate. During your explanation, make sure to reassure her that you only have eyes for her and would never EVER want to make her upset or jealous. This was NOT your intention and never will be. Apologize for the misunderstanding and explain that you didn't mean it like that. Change subject.

If 3 instances happen during your time with her, figure out: Is it your comments or her overreacting?
 
Lost Ego said:
Didn't go as well as planned
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What happened?

I was going to say, cook her dinner, take her out, get her drunk, take her home and make love to her. Wake her up, take her to a salon, open a bottle of champ, and get her a full body massage, and a facial. My guy did that, made me feel so special.

I wonder what set her off?
 
Pretty_Diamonds said:
Ignore her comments. Don't feed into it because it'll just make her more mad.
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Ignoring the fact that she's jealous/insecure is the worst thing to do.

Like missmeyet said, something has triggered her to be insecure or feel like you're not giving her enough attention. Talking to her is the easiest way to work out what is wrong, but if it didn't go as planned, what happened?

Morphling said:
I was going to say, cook her dinner, take her out, get her drunk, take her home and make love to her. Wake her up, take her to a salon, open a bottle of champ, and get her a full body massage, and a facial. My guy did that, made me feel so special.
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This is a great idea, surprise her with a day pampering her, give her all your attention, but make sure you're enthused about it as well, she'll be able to tell immediately if you become bored/uninterested when it's supposed to be all about her.
 
So what happened when you talked to her?

If this is a new thing, think back to what has happened around the time when she started getting jealous. That's where you should probably start looking.
 
Lost Ego said:
My GF has been getting extremely jealous over the last week.
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I've read enough: find a new girl.

Jealousy is always a sign of mental weakness. You cannot allow yourself to be with someone who is jealous even in the slightest sense.

Talking to her is the easiest way to work out what is wrong, but if it didn't go as planned, what happened?
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Not to be a dick, but you can't talk away jealousy. It's a personality flaw that people don't easily give up. Jealous people cling onto their feelings of jealousy harder than they do happiness.

You have to get into people who are into being HAPPY. Like legitimately, genuinely happy.

Jealous people do not embrace happiness, they embrace all of the negative stuff in life. You can't be jealous and happy at the same time; point in case.
 
I never said you could talk away jealousy, I said talking is the easiest way to work out what's wrong.

Just because you haven't been able to work things out if a someone got jealous doesn't mean that's the case for everyone. Jealously is not a sign of mental weakness.
 
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