Oh sweetie, you've just listed some of my favourite activities! I've discovered how much I like BDSM with my last bf, and have been a submissive to several doms over the last few years. I have to say that each and every one of the men I've been with has been respectful, caring and super-considerate of my limits and boundaries. This includes sex-only arrangements, fwb and my boyfriend, who could be very loving or very abusive, depending on our mood

there are guys out there who are actual misogynists and who would virgin/whore complexes, but they're immature assholes who aren't worthy of your time. I really think you should go online and chat to people on websites like Fetlife, you'd be amazed at how many strong career women, feminists etc. are into erotic degradation, play-rape scenarios etc. Totally normal. The main thing is that the guys is PLAYING and doesn't mean any of these things for real. You HAVE to trust your intuition - any bad gut feelings and you're out. Play safe and establish boundaries before you do anything; spent time in a public place chatting to establish he's trustworthy, or go to fetish play parties with a girlfriend to find someone who is a member of the fet community so you know he's safe to play with. There's a whole world of sensual, sexy, enjoyable pleasure to explore without shame. Enjoy - and btw, many guys are kinky and settle for vanilla girlfriends/wife, so any sane guy who meets you will know he's really fucking lucky to meet a girl who's a freak in bed - I know any kinky guy who's dated me couldn't believe his luck

just remember to respect YOURSELF!