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Lysis said:
Oh and mariposa how did it go with new dude who got caught?
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He was rather surprised to say the least. He was expecting a relaxed evening watching TV. I handed him the papers. Quite a look of shock...

There was no reason to go nuclear or anything like that. I simply related to him that I need to be with someone I can trust, and that this sort of behavior is incompatible with what I want. He was very embarrassed. I said "well, I think I'll just head home now" and he got tears in his eyes. He asked if I'd have a beer with him to talk, said sure. We talked about a lot of heavy personal stuff that would alone make it necessary to be platonic. It ended on a positive note inasmuch as possible. I agreed to be his friend as long as I could trust him with that.

I suppose it worked out as well as could be expected. I don't want or need any drama. As I said before - I really don't know this guy that well yet. Time will tell if we can have a friendship. I got safely home, thought about it, got up and went about my day. :)
 
I think it's better to find this stuff out early than when you get your feelings involved. At least you got a clean break!
 
Eh, the dating game just sucks sometimes. I was talking to my team lead about my love life (only person at work who knows my relationship status and I know his), and he's married and wants to get back IN to it. I told him...I dunno man, it really sucks sometimes. Be ready for some shady ass games.

ETA: I should say, it sucks for people who are relationship people (me). If you just want to fuck around, then it's probably fun.
 
Lysis said:
I should say, it sucks for people who are relationship people (me). If you just want to fuck around, then it's probably fun.
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This. Getting 'played' would imply that I treat a relationship like a game. Not my style. I also hadn't had sex with him. Maybe he got tired of waiting and wanted an easier ride?

He sent me an e-mail last night about how he really feels like a tool and wants to take me to dinner this weekend. I haven't yet replied. I may not. It just isn't a very auspicious start to things. Time for a different approach, which is to concentrate on work. Definitely no hot guys there, lol.
 
Went to some nice place for the weekend with my gf. We had a splendid weekend. We did a lot of romantic things. We had lots of sex. I suppose we were very intimate those days.

Yet, now that the weekend is over, I feel so horribly depressed. I just want to be alone now. I don't want any contact for the next days. Is this normal behaviour?

I don't dislike her or something. I just want to be alone... I am normally a very introverted person that needs a lot of ME-time. Maybe three days constantly together was too much for me too handle... And maybe the depressed feelings are similar as the day after taking MDMA, where the peak of serotonin is followed by some depressive feelings?

We really had a nice time. But, now, I want to be alone. I am making up excuses to meet with her. I feel a bit like a jerk. I don't want to say "I don't want to see you today" because that will not do any good. Probably everything is back normal in a few days. Just need some alone time, I guess. I don't think it necessarily means I dislike her.

Is this normal behaviour?
 
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I always used to get like that after spending a few days constantly with my ex. I think it's perfectly normal. Just wait a few days :)
 
Mariposa said:
This. Getting 'played' would imply that I treat a relationship like a game. Not my style. I also hadn't had sex with him. Maybe he got tired of waiting and wanted an easier ride?

He sent me an e-mail last night about how he really feels like a tool and wants to take me to dinner this weekend. I haven't yet replied. I may not. It just isn't a very auspicious start to things. Time for a different approach, which is to concentrate on work. Definitely no hot guys there, lol.
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Yeah, I'd probably let him take me to dinner but then I'd be really cold. lol As soon as I lose trust, I can't even help it. I'm just cold towards the person.

If I were in your shoes and I knew that I could resist kissing or anything romantic, I'd let him feed me and get me tipsy. lol Fuck 'im. He can spend money on me in his effort to apologize. You know he isn't getting laid, but he can spend money thinking he might.
 
One of the girls at work was like, "oh this book is perfect for you" it was "Virgin Cures". I deserved it because I say some terrible things to her ('nice beard' and such harmless but hurtful jokes), but it is saddening to put out a 'virgin vibe' just because I have no girlfriend. :(

Mariposa said:
This. Getting 'played' would imply that I treat a relationship like a game. Not my style. I also hadn't had sex with him. Maybe he got tired of waiting and wanted an easier ride?

He sent me an e-mail last night about how he really feels like a tool and wants to take me to dinner this weekend. I haven't yet replied. I may not. It just isn't a very auspicious start to things. Time for a different approach, which is to concentrate on work. Definitely no hot guys there, lol.
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I don't know the full story, but it kinda of sounds like because you were not exclusive, he was just keeping his options open. Kinda hard to fault a guy for shutting down all potential romantic friendships just because one wonderful lady might be the one or whatever.
 
Lysis said:
lol you so deserved it, kaywholed, if you did in fact say those things to her.
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i call her fat, dumb and hairy.

insult your beautiful subordinates, that way they won't sleep with you and sue for sexual harassment.
 
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