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I haven't been around much the last few days but I just need to come in to let some energy out somewhere.........

I'm cooking Indian food for an Indian tonight.. right now... Getting so nervous I'm using measuring cups and spoons...hahaha...

Menu:
Cashew Subji
Cilantro rice & dahl
Brinjal, broccoli, & potato pakoras with mango chutney
Papadam

ETA I feel like I'm tripping. Every move I make I stop and think about it deeply. I want to come down already :(
 
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There isn't anybody else... we conversed last night for a long while and had one of the most beautifully deep and connected talks I've ever had...
 
Hey mods can you guys get the vibrator thread goin again or bring the old one back.... or at least take it off the top of slr as its an invalid link....
Also i apologize for being uptight but its bothering me
 
Thank you tackyspiral. Those outdated links bother us too! I guess it's not so simple to remove those links specifically. Thanks to you I will do my best to make sure it happens.
 
So I'm going for drinks tonight with this guy who's literally been badgering me since september for us to go out together...he's pretty hot but I don't much like his personality so I'm really not particularly excited about this haha. I just kinda want to get him off my back and I figured I may as well give it a shot and see how it goes. I've gotta admit I'm looking forward to the end of the evening though :|
Edit: never mind, I cancelled. Just couldn't be bothered...
 
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Hey guys.
Need some help since its my first relationship and not big enough to make a thread.
I'm way too dependent on my current boyfriend.
I love him to death and I treat him the best I can but the relationship is just toxic for me at this point. He doesn't act like a boyfriend should, he treats me more like a best friend and I'm just over hurting myself expecting him to finally one day act like a real boyfriend.

Any tips on how to detach? Any tips on how to get him out of my head and realize that I deserve a million times better?
 
Pagey said:
So I'm going for drinks tonight with this guy who's literally been badgering me since september for us to go out together...he's pretty hot but I don't much like his personality so I'm really not particularly excited about this haha. I just kinda want to get him off my back and I figured I may as well give it a shot and see how it goes. I've gotta admit I'm looking forward to the end of the evening though :|
Edit: never mind, I cancelled. Just couldn't be bothered...
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You should be open minded. Especially if you are attracted to him. People have a way of growing on you, even of you can't stand them at first. Who knows, maybe you will end up liking him. You could at least get layed.


Fyasko. said:
Hey guys.
Need some help since its my first relationship and not big enough to make a thread.
I'm way too dependent on my current boyfriend.
I love him to death and I treat him the best I can but the relationship is just toxic for me at this point. He doesn't act like a boyfriend should, he treats me more like a best friend and I'm just over hurting myself expecting him to finally one day act like a real boyfriend.

Any tips on how to detach? Any tips on how to get him out of my head and realize that I deserve a million times better?
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I've never been in a situation like this but since you obviously can't detach, I would just say to keep on the lookout for something better. If someone better comes along and you end up liking them alot, it will be easier to let go and move on.
 
soundsystem00 said:
You should be open minded. Especially if you are attracted to him. People have a way of growing on you, even of you can't stand them at first. Who knows, maybe you will end up liking him. You could at least get layed.
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Well thing is I'm not attracted to him. I would be but he's extremely obnoxious and that's enough to put me off. And I know he might grow on me, which is why I agreed to the date in the first place but I dunno...I might reschedule with him. Not sure.
 
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When does she officially become my girlfriend?

While she was in town, we saw each other every other day, and hung-out mostly at bars, but also went to museums, and we go out to eat together. We've had sex a few times, and I sleep over at her place after sex (my living situation is unsettled right now). As she's been out of town for a month straight (we started this a couple weeks before she left for school's break), we've been texting regularly. She's brought up a couple times that she's "unsure of what 'this is'"...

It seems were already in a relationship, does it not?

And now that I've skirted the issue for this long, how do we (I) resolve it?
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Is this the same girl who said she doesn't like condoms and doesn't see a reason to keep up her appearance? eeek Gotta repeat PI's words: She's setting herself up to get fat and pregnant and she wants that paycheck. Wrap it up or be really good at pulling out, my friend.
 
my girls extent of "not upkeeping personal appearance" is her not wearing makeup. even then she's still fucking gorgeous :D
 
Lysis said:
Is this the same girl who said she doesn't like condoms and doesn't see a reason to keep up her appearance? eeek Gotta repeat PI's words: She's setting herself up to get fat and pregnant and she wants that paycheck. Wrap it up or be really good at pulling out, my friend.
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Truth. And is this chick in Portland, Changed? Even better chance, I hear the dole in Oregon is rather generous. This is not a nice place for single people, I never felt the level of pressure to pair up at home in the Bay as I do in Portland. Proceed with caution, please, dude. Wrapping it up should be a given.

I'm settling into single life as I approach my busy season at work. I kind of feel like I should be doing something else, but I'm not going to bang the wrong guy for me. I do such a good job at compartmentalizing my life that I think I've forgotten how to live it. I would like to be in a happy and stable relationship. I don't want to make another mistake in the sense of letting a guy into my body or my heart, even as a friend.

Something also happened recently that made me fully crept out - how is it that I didn't talk to a fling for 2 years now and then he came out of nowhere to bother me? It's gotta be seasonal affective disorder, because if it's actual jackassery and bullying, I'm not going to tolerate that. It fucks up my vibe when a broke-ass wannabe hipster that I haven't spoken to in forever rears its ugly head. I can only imagine what he does to people that matter to him. :(
 
Pagey said:
So I'm going for drinks tonight with this guy who's literally been badgering me since september for us to go out together...he's pretty hot but I don't much like his personality so I'm really not particularly excited about this haha. I just kinda want to get him off my back and I figured I may as well give it a shot and see how it goes. I've gotta admit I'm looking forward to the end of the evening though :|
Edit: never mind, I cancelled. Just couldn't be bothered...
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You might be surprised by his personality. If you don't know him that well you are only scratching the surface of what he projects of himself, he might be a really decent bloke, but fucking shy so it comes out in a edgy kinda way. Give a brother a chance! :)
 
B1tO'RoughJack said:
You might be surprised by his personality. If you don't know him that well you are only scratching the surface of what he projects of himself, he might be a really decent bloke, but fucking shy so it comes out in a edgy kinda way. Give a brother a chance! :)
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True, true. I do feel a bit bad about cancelling, I might call him up again some time this week.
 
Lysis said:
Is this the same girl who said she doesn't like condoms and doesn't see a reason to keep up her appearance? eeek Gotta repeat PI's words: She's setting herself up to get fat and pregnant and she wants that paycheck. Wrap it up or be really good at pulling out, my friend.
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I hear you guys... I'm not sure what's what here, really. I don't think I have painted an accurate picture of her online, to you guys. In reality, she's very nice, hasn't had more than a couple sexual partners, and is clearly devoted to me. She's Latina, so she's naturally not skinny-- which I think is what she was referring to.

Actually, two nights ago I told her about this girl that I met in Portland last summer, and that she asked me to come see her again. My current girl instantly got a little jealous, which I thought was cute, and I asked her what I should do about the situation? She asked me if I'd be her boyfriend (Jesus, this sounds childish... we're mid 20's), and I told her that I'd been thinking about it and I wanted to be-- because I actually want to be.

The condoms thing... well, to tell you the truth, I don't like condoms either. I've never used them, but I've only been with one girl (that was my girlfriend), and she quickly went on birth control after we started sexing daily. Finally, we aren't even having sex at the moment. I told her last night that I'd only slept with one girl, and that I am a little awkward until I can get comfortable-- she was cool with it. A little embarrassing, but fuckit-- transparency is the best policy.

So yeah, the saga continues.
 
Have you dated a Latin before? They are realllly jealous. Most of my BFs have been latin. The dude I see gave me shit for a G+ comment I made about Matt Cutts and how I have a crush on him (something like that). He said "You're talking about crushes with some other guy! That's BS!" and proceeded to give me shit for it. I have a lot of history with this guy, so I basically told him it's a joke, Matt lives in California, he's married, and only knows me as the girl who jokes around about sexually harassing him. lol I'm definitely not going to curb my fun talk for some dude. He hates it though. However, he jokes with me about the girls who he interacts with all the time face-to-face and makes moves on him. Hypocritical BS, but Latins are just that way.

Latin girls don't usually believe in abortion either FYI. Most of them are catholic.
 
I'm hungry...I could really go for nomming my cute S/O as a before dinner appetizer.

So lysine, why Joo always date wetbacks gooks people of Hispanic background if they so jealous?
 
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Lysis said:
Latin girls don't usually believe in abortion either FYI. Most of them are catholic.
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Growing up in Miami, my momma always told me to be careful about dating Hispanic girls, because they don't get abortions.


And you wonder why I'm so fucked up. Not appropriate conversation to have with a 6 year old.
 
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