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Thanks dude.

I almost forgot. I have a question for y'all.

I posted on Facebook "today I have 13 months sober. I'd like to thank my higher power, my sponsor, my family and my friends. If anyone wants what I have, I am available to sponsor and show you how to work the steps. I would love to share this amazing feeling"

52 people liked it. It was the most likes I've ever gotten for anything. Well, I feel like my motives were pure. I simply did it hoping that it may inspire or help someone.

This old-school messaged me saying not to post that stuff. That it breaks the anonyminity and puts unnecessary pressure on your program.

I asked another friend about it and she said that's bullshit and it goes back to "don't believe anything that you can't refer back to the big book" ..

What do you guys think?
 
lol it sounds like you are accepting a Grammy ;) I would say...attraction not promotion, be careful about sponsoring your friends, and we meet so that people who are interested in getting sober know were to find us. just my 2c
 
It could be viewed as "promotion" possibly and violating the 11th tradition as a whole "our fellowedship is based on attraction rather than promotion. We need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films." (NA 11th trad. Though I know AA is similar wording).
went over step 3 with my sponsor today, moving on to step 4. Made a God box, and got a job interview tomorrow I'm psyched about (might pass on the job offering down in Texas lol)
 
And you'll do fine speaking. You articulate well in BL so I'm not worried about your vocabulary or grammar. Just be honest and partition your speech well with balance of your using past (to gain identification) and recovery (to share the message). Depending on meeting format make sure to leave time in the meeting for others to share/ask for help/thank you. Don't prep too much for it, just pray to HP to guide you and you'll do fine. Already put you in my godbox :D. I've spoke on two occasions and it was humbling. Once when I graduated rehab, and once after I got my year clean. You'll like it. Plus you get to feed a bit of your selfcenteredness (we all are a bit selfcentered) as the meeting as to listen to you lol.
 
I have. The boss treated us to lap-dancing clubs a couple of times after work does. I've never felt so uncomfortable in my life, was truly cringe-worthy. I felt like a dirty old letch abusing the girls that worked there even without having them dance for me and trying to paw at them. I hated it. Awful places, couldn't get out of there fast enough.
 
was an alright day today. I'm stuck on this girl who did me dirty back in February, but I'm sure some of you know how it is: you have every excuse to resent this person yet somehow they still captivate you. ugh. then an ex is still wanting to be fuck buddies so I might cave to her offer lol. ill talk to my sponsor more tomorrow about all this shit going on. love all you guys. gnight. didn't see you post SS hope all is well for you my brother.
 
^^good deal man. I got the opportunity to chair H&I at a youth treatment center I'm looking forward to. a good friend (and bluelighter) just celebrated a year clean as of midnight eastern us time. been an awesome day.
 
I grew up in a house where Bill W and Doctor Bob were practically religion. I used to like to say I come from a long and distinguished line of alcoholics. I myself became one as well. But that wasn't good enough. I had to find another outlet for my mental warpedness (just made that up).

And now I find myself here, at another cross road where the 12 steps of a program that I hated as a youth will be one of the drivers of my recovery. Now that I have to play with both decks, I'm really not looking forward to working two programs.

There aren't a lot of AA support groups where I'm at, and I'm about to find out how the NA groups look as well. I'm interested in hearing if any of you have experience with both paths (both alcohol and drug abuse).

And if I could change one thing, it would be that AAers allow for conversation outside the normal boundaries of their disease. I always got irritated in a meeting where someone would bring up a topic outside of alcohol and someone would crap all over them saying this place was only for AAers and that NAers should be in their own meetings. MEH!!! Oh, and it's officially 72 hours clean and sober. Now I'm going to go sit outside in the sun and try and clear my thoughts.
 
I've attended both fellowships and I choose NA as my home. AA states in their literature "remember we deal with alcohol: cunning, baffling, powerful." by not adhering to that, the person is disrespecting what the fellowship stands for. its like walking into a Judaic temple and saying "hitler wasn't really so bad, we got Volkswagen and the Autobahn from him, lots of advances in modern medicine, etc". NA is a lot more free when it comes to discussions as NA is about addiction which can be superimposed over various lifestyle addictions and struggles as well. we in NA do not address the drugs as the problem, but merely they were a symptom of something deeper that we need to look into. I do go to a private AA meeting once a week which consists of my sponsor, his sponsor, my sponsor's wife, and the various sponsees whom we all go to both fellowships so more or less its just a "12 step" group centered on getting better. I recommend checking out NA, each fellowships fits better with certain people. I've been to heroin anonymous, cocaine anonymous, marijuana anonymous, al-anon, alcoholics anonymous, narcotics anonymous, emotions anonymous, and families anonymous. NA is my chosen home.
 
Crap...instead of hitting post quick reply I hit post reply (does that even matter???). I'm confused and strung out. God I hope I get some sleep tonight...sigh...

And again, thank you Serotonin, I really appreciate the knowledge.
 
And I would like to apologize for the flippant comments. I'm going to give myself a pass on that one, I hope you all can too. It also points out another area that I'm going to have to work on which is my past. I think I'm headed to a therapist once I get my sea legs under me.

How can I move forward if I won't even deal with my past?
 
you'll deal with your past in steps 4-9. no need to rush ahead of the game and take on too much at once so early. and no worries about your comments bud. we're all entitled to our own views. Congrats on the 72hours (96 now?) and keep pushing on. things do get better. that's a promise.
 
People talk about drugs a good amount in the aa meetings I go to. I've heard that it is an East coast West coast thing.
 
Yeah. I go to AA meetings everytime and say "I'm Matt and I'm an addict" and never have any problems. It's a mix. Both are the same in our opinions.

Just replace alcohol with your DOC in the 12 steps. Same thing. Same brilliance. Same miracles.
 
^^^depends on the area for acceptance of "addicts" in an AA meeting. here it's frowned upon. ymmv.
 
96 hours!!! I'm almost human again.

When I lived on the west coast it was frowned upon (norcal) and out here in Texas it's not as bad, but the support groups aren't nearly as many as they were out on the west coast (at least here in the greater Austin area). There was one group that I considered my home group, but it was a smokers meeting and I don't smoke. I felt like I was sucking up enough nicotine to kill an elephant. But really good sobriety in there. I think I'm going to hit a meeting tonight. Wow, I haven't said something like that in some time now.
 
96 hours!!! I'm almost human again.

When I lived on the west coast it was frowned upon (norcal) and out here in Texas it's not as bad, but the support groups aren't nearly as many as they were out on the west coast (at least here in the greater Austin area). There was one group that I considered my home group, but it was a smokers meeting and I don't smoke. I felt like I was sucking up enough nicotine to kill an elephant. But really good sobriety in there. I think I'm going to hit a meeting tonight. Wow, I haven't said something like that in some time now.

Congrats bro! C'mon, you live in AUSTIN TEXAS! Not only does that city kick absolute ass, but I'm sure there are millions of badass meetings and some cool motherfuckers in recovery who can not only help you get clean, but take you places!
 
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