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wiggi said:
^ That's one thing that I am struggling with since quitting opiates. I used to be able to go up and talk to any girl with the motivation of opiates, but it's hard now to even get up the courage to talk to a girl. I was far from a ladies' man back then but I just lack the confidence to talk to new girls now.
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Me too, even if it's as simple as making a new friend. Opiates would make me so outgoing, but now I have to adjust to not relying on them anymore, especially in social situations. My confidence is 0/10. Not that Im looking for a relationship or whatever with someone where I live, but it's just the point.
 
If you love yourself and others unconditionally the universe will give you whatever you need. This is especially true when it comes to relationships. just my 2c



Also, I've got to chime in that hanging with my sober buds is so much more fun than obsessing over my next drink or drug all night long. We have a blast and i'm sure that people always wonder what all of these sober dufuses have in common when we are causing a ruckus!
 
badfish45 said:
Hello everyone:) Badfish here, just Ended my spring break and im sitting here in trig... I hate this class with a burnig passion. It'll be the first D or F on a transcript for me, Im not too worried but I never plan to take a class this hard again in high school, I suck at math.

Hows everyone's life been going? Ive been trying to start writing a chores list for myself everyday to make myself a more productive and organized person before I go and sit my ass on the couch. Potential flaws include forgetting something, intentionally not adding something because Im a lazy fuck or... Well thats pretty much it :P Any ideas on how to help maintain this?
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Badfish!!
 
badfish45 said:
Hello everyone:) Badfish here, just Ended my spring break and im sitting here in trig... I hate this class with a burnig passion. It'll be the first D or F on a transcript for me, Im not too worried but I never plan to take a class this hard again in high school, I suck at math.

Hows everyone's life been going? Ive been trying to start writing a chores list for myself everyday to make myself a more productive and organized person before I go and sit my ass on the couch. Potential flaws include forgetting something, intentionally not adding something because Im a lazy fuck or... Well thats pretty much it :P Any ideas on how to help maintain this?
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I cheated my way through Trig. I don't recommend taking that path, but I managed at least a C. %)

Glad to hear from you man!
 
LOL captain we get online homework and I've cheated on every single one of those, it's the only reason I have a passing grade in the class :)

Nice to see you two! I'm jealous of your patience to meditate soundsystem.
 
soundsystem00 said:
I draw. I do a lot with it though.. Photoshop, prisma colors, sharpies..

Lately I have been getting big chunks of wood, and covering them with designs using sharpies. that seems to sell lately.

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thats tight , i like that.. Nice work:)

Captain.Heroin said:
I cheated my way through Trig
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Cpatn.. what hapnd when you had to use it.. In the next math class, ha probably the same thing as me.. yep had to learn it, ah but made it through calc 3, but yeah I hear you when you spend your time and $ at a college/uni its just insane to cheat 8(
 
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soundsystem00 said:
Bro.. I know, but it's totally possible. These encounters just seem to happen.. I just looked up and boom were talking and engaged in stimulating conversation. You don't even have to try man it just kind of happens. Trust me.

There's hope. I promise. Keep doing what you're doing and you will be surprised what kind of people cross your path.

Here's an example :

Saw this beautiful, tall girl with tattoos all over her. Her leg had one that I especially liked. It had a bandaide on it. So I just said "hey I like your tattoo, but why is there a bandaid on it?" And she told me a huge story about how she hurt it, and I look up and she is in my bubble, about 3 CM from my face. It's that easy.

Another chick was dancing around and I thought "damn she's out of my league" .. Well I posted up and she walked over to me and we started talking about music. I ended up getting her number. Like I said things just happen, and if your patient they will cross your path just like that.
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Yea, I mean I am fine with random encounters like that and I have dated one girl while being off opiates. I guess I need to focus my efforts on myself before looking to talk to girls, but that's next to impossible in all reality.
 
wiggi said:
Yea, I mean I am fine with random encounters like that and I have dated one girl while being off opiates. I guess I need to focus my efforts on myself before looking to talk to girls, but that's next to impossible in all reality.
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Focus on helping others. You've been clean a long time. You have a lot to offer.

I've found, the more I get "out of self", the more things just seem to fall into place.
 
AWESOME DAY.. Im going to do a nightly review on here. It will not only help me, but may help someone show how steps 10 and 11 work on a daily basis

4/9 nightly review.

Self Seeking : Re-downloaded plentyoffish app and texted with women

Dishonest : told person on the phone I was physically in San Antonio when I wasnt

Resentful : Resentful at Miles for moving out of this room and cock-blocking my friend for a bottom bunk on other side of the house. / Angry at post I saw on Bluelight

Self-Pitty : Single. Girl from the art show is not going to add me on fb, I should have given her my number.. I suck. [ps she added me today lol]

Thanks to higher power for smooth day. Please help me to be less self-seeking tomorrow and stop using dating apps when I am bored. Help me to be helpful to others, and show me the way.

-soundsystem
 
Self seeking day for me. Constant flirting and kinda used a chick for sex who I knew once was in love with me but I don't feel the same. It happens. Small lapse in spirituality. Otherwise overall a great day. Can't wait to sleep tonight
 
Serotonin101 said:
Self seeking day for me. Constant flirting and kinda used a chick for sex who I knew once was in love with me but I don't feel the same. It happens. Small lapse in spirituality. Otherwise overall a great day. Can't wait to sleep tonight
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I had meaningless sex about a month ago and felt like shit the next day. The sad thing is, I'm thinking of doing it again. Very self seeking but, at the same time, I am human. Ugh.

Glad your day went well.

stimutant said:
ss00, may i ask, who/what is your higher power?
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Check out my blog, I have a page that my sponsor required I do about my higher power. I definitely have my own relationship/belief and it is my own definition.

4/9 nightly review

self seeking : almost none that I cant think of! :)

dishonest : told doner at work that we could consolidate her quarter donations into one big donation, which would limit the calls to once a year. I got a huge donation, but knew in the back of my mind she would get more calls sooner than a year.

resentful : against my dad for a fucked up facebook comment

self pitty : not much at all except a little about women and being single, as usual, but it was to a minimum

fear : phone getting stolen on bus

smooth, chill day. chill as FUCK. THanks to higher power and may tomorrow be even better. allow me and show me to be helpful to others.
 
^^SS I noticed in your lounge pics you're a lefty. *lefty high five*

Was a great day today. Went to a good meeting and saw some old friends, started on step 3 work, chatted up this beautiful girl who said ill get to see how sweet her lips are ;) mmm sero want badly. Another great day in recovery.
 
Serotonin101 said:
^^SS I noticed in your lounge pics you're a lefty. *lefty high five*

Was a great day today. Went to a good meeting and saw some old friends, started on step 3 work, chatted up this beautiful girl who said ill get to see how sweet her lips are ;) mmm sero want badly. Another great day in recovery.
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You get all the ladies! Go you ;)
 
neversickanymore said:
Cpatn.. what hapnd when you had to use it.. In the next math class, ha probably the same thing as me.. yep had to learn it, ah but made it through calc 3, but yeah I hear you when you spend your time and $ at a college/uni its just insane to cheat 8(
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That was the end of the line for me. I didn't learn any math past trig in high school. I never did really well in math classes in college.
 
I was lucky enough to be able to give up math in high school before having to learn trig. I did a diesel fitting apprenticeship instead so only really had to go to 2 classes a day to get my year 12 cert. I'd long given up on school before then.
 
ROUGH day today..

I failed a drug test for meth. I HAVENT DONE METH IN OVER A YEAR and A HALF. I told them it was a false positive. They said it is common and that they will send it to a lab, and if I did not use, then it will be okay. I still am very upset and will have this hanging over my head all weekend, and into next week.

A lot of "why me?" feelings are coming up, and a lot of self pitty. I'm trying to fight it, but its hard. In the back of my mind, my addiction was telling me "might as well go use, fuck it" but of course, I did not. Very frustrated.

to top it off, work fucking sucked.

I called my sponsor and he told me to "help others and get out of self" .. it pissed me off at first but he is right.

*sigh*
 
^^^dont you hate hearing shit and knowing they're right. Lol. I told my sponsor of my problem with women and he said "maybe you need to be single for a bit" and I was like "fuuuuck he's right, but I don't wanna hear it."
 
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