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***Singles Thread*** - WE LOVE IT.

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Doppelganger said:
Fear is always a weakness, albeit a natural one that few sane human's are exempt from!
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I don't agree with that as a generalisation. I think some fear is healthy. :) Certain fear, sure, it's a weakness, but not all. For instance, you're about to be mauled to death by a Polar Bear (who love to eat their prey alive)...is it weak to be afraid...hell no.
 
samadhi said:
I don't agree with that as a generalisation. I think some fear is healthy. :) Certain fear, sure, it's a weakness, but not all. For instance, you're about to be mauled to death by a Polar Bear (who love to eat their prey alive)...is it weak to be afraid...hell no.
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I think fear carries with it the potential to do some rather wonderful things for society! It pushes people do more, be more... to evolve further. Still, I think the ultimate goal should be to overcome the root cause of that fear.

We fear death simply because we're conditioned to do-so, and as a result excuse ourselves from trying to overcome that fear! It's natural and socially acceptable in Western Society - however, this isn't so much the case in the Middle East, hence all the suicide bombers.

I'm not saying we should aspire to become like Islam, because they do what they do out of fear of Allah anyway [and the state of the Middle East is sickening!] But certainly, we could try to be more courageous!
 
DG- I don't think i'm confused out of fear. What exactly am i fearing? and what is a stale mate? Maybe we are on different topics here?

Its a perfectly normal reaction to be confused about your sexuality.

I do not have one gay/bi friend who hasnt at some stage gone through questioning themselves & their choice. You will come out of it with a clear decision - its not a weakness to be afraid of the consequences when they will subsequently be life changing
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yeah, that's what I think. sexuality is fluid alot of the time after all.
 
doofqueen said:
DG- I don't think i'm confused out of fear. What exactly am i fearing? and what is a stale mate? Maybe we are on different topics here?
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A stale-mate, in this context, is when you can't make up your mind.

And I don't know what your fears are DQ! I was just saying I see no other reason why someone would end up in a stale-mate regarding their sexuality. To be confused, assumes you're having to question, to have to question, assumes you've had to doubt, to have to doubt, assumes you've had to fear.
 
I think im finally 'ready' to have a committed relationship.

I dont think i've ever got that feeling before.
mind you, i just woke up and im really tired and... do you get in a reflective mood when you just wake up? i do.
 
ruski said:
^^ MG2S: No need to disclaim at the end of all your posts. You often make very valid points, its not neccessary to discredit yourself. Let other people do that if neccessary (and you'll find they most likely won't).
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OK, thanks :)
Would say more/respond but yeh brain ain'tworkin here either. Think it's time for zzzzzzzZZZZZZZZZZzzzz
 
^^^Wtf. I knew I shoulda signed up with the nick needdrugsmynamesjohnsmithat41samuelstreetelsternwick3021
 
needsupplier86 said:
hahaha a singles thread.
sorry i just had to laugh im new to the site!! and yeah lol
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You may want to rethink your posting strategy, perhaps not the best way to introduce yourself and have yourself liked/not banned.
 
Doppelganger said:
A stale-mate, in this context, is when you can't make up your mind.

And I don't know what your fears are DQ! I was just saying I see no other reason why someone would end up in a stale-mate regarding their sexuality. To be confused, assumes you're having to question, to have to question, assumes you've had to doubt, to have to doubt, assumes you've had to fear.
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I get what you are saying. I see how you think fear only comes from self doubt and confusion but I have to disagree. Things are not always so black and white. My sexuality (and everyone else's for that matter) are not always black and white. You don't always know what or who you want and when you don't that doesn't mean you are scared of anything other than trying to work yourself out and maybe not hurting anyone in the process.
 
^^^Backed up 100%...

Apart from being a lesbian with a big boob fetish trapped in a good looking guys body, I'm fine with my sexuality.

Fear has nothing to do with confussion, not in this sence anyway. You don't have to fear or doubt something to be confused about it, you may be in a situation where you've got two roads ahead of you, and obviously one needs to be chosen. You don't doubt yourself this needs to be done, and you don't at all fear it, all you know is that this is a place you ahvn't been before. I say jump in, i did, and now I've come to the conclusion, i love boobies.
 
What I described was the complicated way - the root cause - not the black and white way.

Fatz - Well then tell me why you'd be confused? Why not just pick a path? The answer, to me, seems that choosing may assume some form of loss from the alternate option. And that's what we all fear. Hence why we're stuck in a stale-mate.

Feel free to dispute this, but so far all I've received in response is basically "just coz" or "you just know/ don't know." Give me some logical reasoning to help me understand why you feel the way you do!?

I know your booby comment was a joke, but of course it's not relevant... I highly ever doubt you were confused as to whether you liked them or not ;). I'm not saying that every decision we make is a constant uphill battle.

What you guys are essentially saying at the moment, is that you're just confused... but afraid of nothing! If you're afraid of nothing, why ON EARTH would you choose to remain in a state of confusion, rather than move forward? What's stopping you from moving forward? Surely you don't find that state of confusion pleasing?
 
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But the loss of an alternate option isn't always something to fear, especially when the excitement of the better option has proposed itself. Hence the confussion, I'm not saying picking a path is black and white, I'm saying it's not something that as you put it everyone fears it. That's deffinatly not true at all. Not everyone would fear something that by your previous expereinces you have, that's what I'm disputing.

And for you to say that we're saying we're affraid of nothing is crap, because NO ONE has said that in this thread to date. What I can gather most people are saying is that they have a choice to make. And they aren't fearing that choice, thier just confused about the path that has been laid out before them.

I'll give you an example, when you got to the ice cream shop, and you're confused about whether to chose Choc Chip or Honeycomb(obvious choice) are you afraid of making that choice? Are you scared? You like both flavours, you've had both flavours before, you know what you'll missing out on, but you know that you'll be making a choice, may not be as successful as the other, but you were able to over the confusion of the two choices, not overcome the fear of it.
 
FaTz said:
I'll give you an example, when you got to the ice cream shop, and you're confused about whether to chose Choc Chip or Honeycomb(obvious choice) are you afraid of making that choice? Are you scared? You like both flavours, you've had both flavours before, you know what you'll missing out on, but you know that you'll be making a choice, may not be as successful as the other, but you were able to over the confusion of the two choices, not overcome the fear of it.
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The reason you're confused [if you could call it that?] over your ice-cream is because you know you're missing out! Exactly my point!

Now we all know that picking an ice-cream is a relatively small thing... apply the 'missing out' part to something significantly more important! Hopefully you'll finally get it...
 
Hopefully "I finally get it?"... I'm pretty sure from reading through the thread, everyone get's it but yourself.

But missing out isn't always something that should be fearful of a choice when there's a benefit to both choices hence the confusion. I still can't fucking believe u said that, read through again, if the majority disagres, you have what right to say thier wrong? I'm not saying you don't have an opinion, but don't come out and say someones' opinion is incorrect, that's not only stupid but also the opposite of what a "Forum" is.
 
^ The only people who have argued this particular point are you and DQ. Samadhi and Trancegirlie were arguing that it's not a weakness to be afraid --their argument had merit!

What you're argueing, however, is that you don't have to fear or doubt something to be confused.

I provided a logical analysis, here it is again:

"To be confused, assumes you're having to question, to have to question, assumes you've had to doubt, to have to doubt, assumes you've had to fear."

Unless you can dispute that with some equally logical reasoning...I feel completely justified in assuming I'm correct. Because all you and DQ have given me is excuses that prove you're unable to grasp simple reasoning patterns.

I'll stay away from this topic now!
 
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