Simple Theory About Relationships

[airsh0w]

The feelings we naturally experience we attribute to natural agents in our lives simultaneously while reacting emotionally normally to some extent.

If you watch someone who is bipolar they will pick one person or a group of people as good/wonderful and another as bad/horrible to justify the emotional polarities.

I bet we do this to some extent as well or perhaps it's just a mood disorder thing.

 

[morpher001]

I think that refers to a borderline personality more so than a bipolar one?

People have two forces acting on their conciousness when making a decision. Reason and emotion.

Reason requires logic and facts. Emotion does not. I feel we have likely evolved to have these sometimes conflicting drivers to help us in situations where one or the other would have failed us. For instance an action which seems quite reasonable might provoke a strong emotional response which reverses the decision.

The amount of weight given to the reasoned and the emotional response in reaching a conclusion naturally varies from person to person.

This variation across individuals helps us survive as a race in the same way as it balances our actions on an individual level.

The practice of scapegoating you are alluding to is likely an unfortunate byproduct of this evolutionary social glue.

 

[Lysis]

I'm not sure what the question is here. Is there a question other than the statement about emotions? Because this is bloggy material.

 

[Captain.Heroin]

I'm not sure what the question is here. Is there a question other than the statement about emotions? Because this is bloggy material.

I think he's saying, we are in relationships because we feel good things about people, and hence have to act positively towards them to justify why we feel SO AMAZINGLY ATTRACTED AND SEXUALLY OBSESSED with someone we're crushing on... instead of merely "poking on facebook" and letting the other party take the ball in hand without CONSTANT EVER-PRESENT DESIRE they're going to answer any second from now.

I think he's implying because we feel such intense emotions towards people, is why we date them, then when things go south, its' why more than half of marriages end in divorce, adn eveyr 2nd-3rd + marriage is even less likely to work out in the long run.

Humans also have an uncanny ability to be completely unable to see where they need to personally progress in between relationships so they end up making the same damn mistakes they always did in the first relationship they likely don't even remember, because some people chronically repress all problems in life.