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Should I have a 3 some with my best friend?

Mrgethigh

Mrgethigh

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I am am very open when it comes to sex, and I want to try lots of things, including 3 somes with 2 girls and a 3 some with me and another guy.
I am not gay and I don't consider myself as bisexual but I am comfortable with who I am.

So...... One of my very best friends (a guy) told me a friend of his, (a girl) would like to have a 3 some with him and I. I am very interested in doing it but
I am a little concerned about how my friendship with my home boy would be after. I just don't want it to be weird or anything after. He said it wouldn't change or effect
out friendship but I am not sure. You never know right?

So I was wondering if anyone has done this with one of their best friends? How was it? Was it worth it? And did anything change between you two after, if so, how?
:?

Thanks for the feed back
 
If you are as good as friends as you say you are then it will not make it weird.
But I get where you are coming from bc I have been there before as well.
Its just you and him having a little fun so why not do it?
I frequently sleep w two great friends and it's made our relationship even better.
Although, one thing I will add, both of those great friends seems to think that we need to sleep together in a 3 way every time we hang out...I told her and him that our relationship is more than sex.
 
As a married couple we have hashed over this a few times with really close friends at different stages of our relationship (together 15yrs), but have always come back to refusing just in case it does ruin our friendships iykwim? That's just us though and each to their own :)
 
There's no romantic involvement so go for it IMO. Enjoy yourself :)
 
Go double penetration on her and rub your balls against his and then get her to put both your dicks in her mouth at once. Then when he jizzes in her mouth give her a nice French kiss or when you're about to jizz do it on your mate.
 
Have fun, go for it.

I know a lot of friends who have done 3some with other friends (MFM / FMF or MFFM), and have done 3some with friends myself, some years ago but we are just friends today.

it won't be strange.
 
Mrgethigh said:
Thanks everyone.. It is with out a doubt something I want to do. I just think it will be weird lol
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If you think it will be weird then do not do it. It will ruin your friendship.

I have had friends who have asked me for a 3 way or propositioned me for sex and I said no thanks since it would have been really weird, with the one friend it would have totally ruined our decades long friendship, and other times I was not sexually attracted to both people or the one person.
 
I personally wouldn't feel comfortable at all, sharing a sexual experience with friends other than verbally. If you're not sure about how your relationship with that friend will be affected, I personally wouldn't even risk it. I'd rather have a new experience like this with 2 'strangers.' That way you won't have to see them afterwards unless you want to. Nothing to loose that way.
 
Sounds to me like you need to discuss this with your friend. Perhaps his insight will help you make your final decision. It could ease your concerns or at least bring them to light before it becomes a problem.

If you go through with it, let us know how it went!
 
Yeah, if there is no sexual attraction - then don't do it. But folks, he's not talking about having sex WITH the friend - but that they would be having sex with the woman... that is different.

There are a LOT more people who do this then you think.

@Tantric : I've had no problems with it... but again, it depends on the various factors... its not something you do with just anyone. What if its the OP and two guys and he's not into guys - then obviously, that is not GOOD.

Sometimes it's usually better to do it with people you know, than strangers - especially if you've never done it before.

According to the OP, all 3 want to do it, just that the OP thinks it could be strange. Well, if you both pissed in the woods together and seen each others junk and not felt like having sex with each other - then its a non issue. Look at how many foot ball players take showers together and other athletic sports or work-out centers. Rarely is showering a sexual thing. So its fine for him to ask "will it be weird?" My first 3some was a *new* experience as was having sex the very first time. I've done FMF and MFM and didn't feel any gay vibe - well, other than the two women who having sex, etc... doing 69 while I was doing one of them, then the other.

@Mrgethigh : talk to your friend about - be clear you haven't done it before and that you're concerned a bit with the whole "two guys naked in a sexual situation means you are gay" - well, I bet you watch porn, seen lots of it... in which there is a guy or guys having sex with a woman. Did you feel gay watching that? NOPE! Yes, you're going to touch each other since you got 3 people getting nasty at the same time... but you're likely to high-five each other than to accidentally touch penis. So stick to taking turns, switch ways of split roasting (she's doing oral and getting banged in the V or A at the same time)... don't do DP on your first session.

Oh, if you 3 have a great time and do it more, then its likely she'll bring in another girl into the mix..
 
Hey she wants it just as much as you do. Will you be able to handle that his dick might touch your's?
It's even better that there's no commitments and be sure to get her to tell you what she wants from both of you.
Lucky joker you :)
 
I definitely not worried about feeling like its a "gay" situation. Like I said I am strait but I am also very comfortable with my sexuality.
I told my friend to let us 3 get together for some drinks before hand, to kind of brake the ice, that way there is no pressure, and if it
does not feel right then we can just walk away. Like I said, my biggest concern is that after hanging out with him will be weird.
I am wondering if anyone has done this and how did you handle it after. Did you just pretend like nothing happen or do you joke on it?
 
Question, do any of you 3 dance? I believe you already stated she is attractive, so you'd have no problem getting hard and having sex with her.
So make it a date night this weekend! Go out to a club or bar that is something you'll 3 should like that perhaps doesn't have people you know (so its just the 3 of you socializing - not so much "keeping the down low") and not too far from were you guys are going to end up at.

DO NOT "okay, get naked and suck my cock" - that is kind of "whore"-like... no romance or sexual energy.
Don't ignore someone saying no.
Don't get too drunk. Also don't have 100% expectations that it'll happen... and if it feel wrong, then yeah - walk away. Do make sure all of you are STD free.

Take turns dancing with her. Talk sexy, ask "what are your fantasies?" tell her some of your ideas. This will help you know what she likes (two guys sucking on boobies, anal, hair pulling, dominated or dominating).

You can also bring in one of those "adult games" like dice or spin the wheel while taking a shot on doing something.
Since your #3 and the other two already have something "going on together" - let them take the lead.

I've got about 15 years under my belt of expeince, not that its a daily, weekly or even a monthly thing. Personally, I think if it was daily or weekly, it would lose some of its "spark". A married couple in their 20s who are friends of ours who are very open. I'd, phantom they may do it with others weekly, sometimes more - sometimes less. Sometimes he's at home doing work while she goes out on date with another guy or woman to club and fuck. That's their relationship - we didn't know that for the first year or so we knew them and it didn't change what we thought of them. Just found out another friend of ours, who my wife has known for over 10 years that she and her husband are swingers.

So when I think of the friends of mine who are guys that we shared a woman or two with, which I would put around 5 or so. When we get together, we've never brought up sexual past - we talk about whatever is at the moment... business, work, movies, politics, or "check out that babe walking by". It a "moment" thing usually. Partying, drinking, having fun and being horny and someone is adventurous. We don't bring it up not out of shame or embarrassment - I mean, it has come up to go "wow, that was fun" type of conversation at most. Why talk about a threesome you did a few months ago when you can do another tomorrow? ;)
 
I don't have any experience with threesomes, but I do have experience with entering casual sexual relationships with guys I was originally just friends with, its happened 3 times and in all 3 the friendship was never quite the same again after. First ended up being destroyed completely, second we remained friends but it was never quite the same, not sure it was worse for it, just not the same, and the third made it very awkward and distant pretty much ending the friendship, just not with any ill will like the first.

My opinion, if you're at all concerned it might change your friendship and you don't want that, I'd seriously reconsider. Maybe it'd be fine, but it's a risk. 2 of mine were casual sex that was ongoing, the other, the one that became distant and a little awkward, was a one time deal, but that one was the result of passionate ill advised impulsivity on both our parts. Maybe a one off threesome would be different, but still, it's a risk.
 
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I wouldn't because you are good friends.

I have had 3 somes with women. Sometimes it ended with someone upset as one of the women having srs feelings for either me or the other woman in the 3 some. It never got emotionally hurt in a 3 some but I did get a bit frustrated once cuz this one bitch just wanted to dominate the whole thing but that really does not apply.

I suppose talk to your friend and see if you are both on the same page. If you are then it might be good but if either of you have feelings for that chick or each other well than it will fuck up your friendship. It could get gay and well either you or his feeling get hurt and than things could get weird. Since you are friends that is the worse case scenario so yeah if you are going to do it definitely talk first before making the final decision.
 
JessFR: You had sex with those friends of yours. That is different than sharing a sexual experience with a friend. If Mrgethigh's friend suddenly shoved his dick into Mrgethigh's mouth or ass "I always loved you" etc etc. That would be fucked up. That would end the friendship. Even if they were spit-roasting the girl and the friend reached forward and starting kissing mrgethigh who would reject such advances - that too would change the friendship.

Dopemaster: I think you are correct, mostly. Well, as stated - if it turns gay or changed feelings, then its a problem. As stated earlier, make clear no gay goals but touching is bound to happen. There are 3somes in which the girl is getting DP, there is even a thread on it here = http://www.bluelight.org/vb/threads...here-been-DP-d-(Double-Penetrated)-Was-it-fun

Many are V & A, but some are double V and the guys are not gay. There are sex groups on the subject, okay there are sex groups on ALL subjects. Doing DP mean balls will be touching, and if doing two in one hole - well, that is your condom covered dick rubbing up against another. I've never done DP myself.

Other thing, if the friend does have gay feelings and using the 3some as a way to introduce such feelings/sexuality at the OP - then that is a way to show there is a PROBLEM with that friendship anyway. That he's hanging around to maybe have sex or relationship with the OP. But that seems fare more complicated that it would need to be and I doubt most gay men would want to have sex with a woman so he can have sex with a specific man.

@Mrgethigh: have you meet this female friend already? The recommended plan and what you talked about "breaking the ice" is the correct way to go. Make it a fun night like you would on any date.

I also recommend that the both of you, especially you do NOT disrespect the girl. Don't high-five each other. Don't treat her like a whore.
After sex, the 3 of you chit chat, have a beer outside with maybe some little foreplay. Massage and cuddle as well. The nature of a good threesome can easily go on for 3~6 hours as you recharge your batteries. You can have 3~5 ejaculations in that period alone.

Have a good breakfast afterwards.
 
Guess it went badly. Could have been that the girl was really a dude and then things became awkward.
 
Yes I have met her a few times. She is very sexy and cool.. She is the one that asked my friend to make it happen with us 3. She is the one that wanted to include me in her fantasy.. She is moving out of town this would be kind-of her going away present.. I am down with sleeping with her of course, but I want to still be able to look my home boy in his eyes and still be cool with each other.
 
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