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Should I break up with my girlfriend

rollsolo said:
The problem is bigger than the incident. Lying is not easy to forgive because suddenly all of the memories, experiences created become a castle built on thin air. I can sympathize and understand your frustration. And that is why I have come to a conclusion that is painful, but perhaps the most honest decision I have ever made. You are free to leave me if you wish to do so. You are free. I personally need to work on this NOW or my demon will continue to haunt me the rest of my life.
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Ulterior motive. Break up with her. She is no longer emotionally committed, and will continue to lie to you. The above is bait, if you do accept, she can blame things ending on you.
 
Thats a bit to late. Was hanging with my boy who just came home from Seattle. She called me at 4am spoke till now 6:40am. She confessed to seeing a guy who is the director at her work place. Here and PA before she left. He has a family and is in his 40s. She said.they had foreplay or oral sex. That means she had sex. She also.said.her ex came.by to see her mom. That means she had sex with him even though she denied it. Then she admitted to going to dinner once with the guy in California and for coffee aftee I left in February. She probably had sex with him too.

I told her see her dad.abondoned her when she was a child. They weren't in good relations at all. Begged me for an hour to start fresh. I said no, why? It doesn't make sense. She asked for a second chance and to take time and think about it.. Ive been 100% faithful to her and didn't see anyone. But even before California she was doing her dirt. Sucks it has to end this was but I have to break up with her while she begged me to give her another chance. Sucks she had just just till June and we were gonna link in CA together. So many.memories gone to waste. Sucks to deal with something like this. From this I learned to trust your gut, it never lies. Hmmmm day off and gym time?
 
Memories don't have to go to waste man. Keep the good ones and lay the rest to rest.
Ya, sounds like both of you have other interests and neither of you seem to have that 'za za zoom' that keeps a strong union together so ya, move on right.

Wish her well, she'll wish you well, it will be amicable and then your both free and clear to go where ever the heck you like, be it where the Sun don't shine or other orifices mentioned in earlier posts. just be gentle.

take your time, have a good ol ride on that bike and watch out for pot holes.

Next time, i'll say it again, jealousy torches/add some water or have a toke before allowing doubts to F___ things up.
good luck
 
Thanks for the help on this. I thought things through and relized that we can't be together and pull this. Id have a hard time with being able to look.her in the eyes and get past this. I love her so much, and it's really sad that it had to happen this way. I believe I invested and overdelivered if you will in this relationship. I visted Cali three times stayed a while, communicated thoroughly and made an effort. She was screwing around the whole time. Never wrestle with a pig, you both get dirty but the pig likes it.
 
t's really hard to do this and break everything off. We had many plans for next week and when I arrived to California. We spoke for several hours last night as I explained what needed to be done (Broke it off). She continued to beg me for forgiveness telling me that she suffered from passive aggression and purchased a book to help her out and is seeking counseling. I appreciated her effort to repair herself and what is damaged along with her confessions but it doesn't change what conscious decisions she made before doing what she did. I almost wish we were able to work things out for the greater good and give her a second change I just feel like I would have a problem always seeing and speaking to her without thinking about what she did. That would cause resentment on my part. She asked to see me next Sunday when she arrived and I said no, I don't think that's a good idea as I'm planning for a cross country trip mid May. She then said she didn't want to be with anyone else and that she wanted to tell me everything so we can start from a clean slate. This is hard because she is a kind person (at least I thought), and yes I do still love her after all she has done. But I just don't think I have it in me to pursue the relationship at the time. I'll be in California in June and she asked to meet with me then. I said I wasn't sure because I'll be preparing for a cycling race in mid July. This really sucks, how do you get past this, how do you forgive someone on these terms, do you? How do you come to reason for someone you truly care about and see believe that they can change? How have you all done it because I know it's been done before. I also understand that situations like this make you a stronger person.


In light of meeting the girl this evening at 8pm, I will be going to hangout. I'm not trying to mislead or get into anything right now at all. But she is a nice girl and would be cool to hang and change tap.
 
So I hung out with the girl I met in the park. We went to one of her favorites for dinner. We ended up having an awesome time. She text me shortly after I walked her home that she had a nice time and would like to go out again soon. She looked so much different than she did on the bike last weekend. She's beautiful, anyway. I text her back in return saying I had a wonderful night, and suggestions for going out again. To bad I leave for my trip to California in three weeks. I think she was digging me. She emplied going back to my place but I had already moved out as I'm relocating. How do you handle this situation when it's time to smash? Do you suggest going to her spot?
 
So to follow up last Thursday I got back to my spot an hour later and said I had a wonderful time and would like to take you out again. I said I'd like to take you for a day hike in the mountains next Saturday. This text was late and she got back to me in the A.M. saying Yes! Saturday I am free, let's go hiking!. That text I received on Friday morning and haven't responded back since we already have that scheduled now.

It's a week later and So I ended up texting her at around 12:48pm this afternoon. I was off today and getting some work in planning my trip in a few weeks. She hasn't gotten back to me and it's now 7:30 lol. Would you say I got blown off haha. Not trying to jump to conclusions but it's pretty funny I'd say. I mean it's still early to tell. What would be the best thing to do, wait, try again tomorrow evening with a call or text or count it as a blessing? will keep you posted as things progress.
 
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