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should I be worried?

Oh that's right. Whn you're on Bluelight you put on a fake persona because you don't like the person you are in real life.
 
KoreyS said:
Not really. I'm not stereotyping. I never said this should be applied to every girl. Infact, I hate when people make close-minded generalizations about people like the example you provided. Like I said in my very first post, it's pretty vague from the get-go. He knows more about the situation than anyone here does, and he says he got angry.

But whatever. It's all good
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i'm not even going to dignify this with a respones you've already contradicted yourself enough.
 
KoreyS said:
Sure, she has the right to, but just because she can doesn't mean she should. She's obviously doing something
that doesn't respect her boyfriend's wishes or else he would have never made this thread. It has nothing to do with being controlling or possessive and everything to do with respecting her own boyfriend's wishes. He has the right to not be happy with her contacting people in his personal life, provided the only reason she would have in the first place is because she became midly aquainted with that person through him. Nobody is trying to say she is his property. The issue isn't her wanting to be friends with his friends; it's the way she's going about doing it.

It might seem like a bit of a stretch, but what if you came home and your bf was having a random, private phone conversation with your brother or your parents or your grandparents. Or what if he started phoning up your employer? Would you say "well he can talk to whoever he wants"?

Like you said, she might have thought the OP wanted the friend there, but judging by this thread he didn't. It's not a big deal. I would just ask her to please not do that again and be more courteous about me keeping these two world's seperate. Why would any of that annoy you? I find that a little strange. If I had a girlfriend I would probably not introduce her to my family or friends and would hope that she would take the hint. Again, it's no biggie. Everybody's different and some people just enjoy their privacy like that
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I'm not talking about the OP's question specifically. I'm talking about your 'my girlfriend shouldn't contact anyone without my approval'. Plus, the OP doesn't make it sound like he said his girlfriend couldn't contact his friends...and even if he did, wtf? 'He has the right to not be happy with her contacting people in his personal life', this really does sound very possessive dude.
Honestly if I came home and saw my boyfriend speaking to my brother, I'd just be thrilled he got along with my family.
I had an ex who didn't want to introduce me to his family like you said, and didn't want to be introduced to mine, which is fine at first but after almost 3 years together it really gets to be a bit much.
 
KoreyS said:
Worried? Hmm, possibly. Angry, yes. Or at least I would be.

Your post is pretty vague but if I were you and my gf contacted one of my male friends without my consent who she has absolutely no sort of rapport with, I wouldn't be happy.
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sounds pretty massively over the top to me.

She is just talking to him(!!!), ask her how she knows him.
 
Pagey said:
I'm not talking about the OP's question specifically. I'm talking about your 'my girlfriend shouldn't contact anyone without my approval'. Plus, the OP doesn't make it sound like he said his girlfriend couldn't contact his friends...and even if he did, wtf? 'He has the right to not be happy with her contacting people in his personal life', this really does sound very possessive dude.
Honestly if I came home and saw my boyfriend speaking to my brother, I'd just be thrilled he got along with my family.
I had an ex who didn't want to introduce me to his family like you said, and didn't want to be introduced to mine, which is fine at first but after almost 3 years together it really gets to be a bit much.
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This.
 
I think I would need more information.

How long have you two been dating? How long has she known this friend? How many times have you guys all hung out with each other? Did you know if they exchanged numbers? Facebook? Do you know how they contacted each other? How did you find out she invited him to this thing since she nor the friend told you. Did he just show up? Maybe they assumed the other one told you.

Anyhow, you really should just talk to her about it and find out more about their relationship. Don't come at her angrily with accusations. Be calm and just be open and understanding.
 
All i read was your thread title and, no. You will. But don't. just don't fold, and 1 of these days you'll be care-free
 
javie said:
So I had plans with my girl and it turns out she invited one of my friends to hang out with us. She didn't make sure it was fine with me, she doesn't talk to him (at least she says she doesn't) but she knows we are good friends. He doesn't have a girlfriend and she knows that, she only invited him without a date. I got mad and she thinks there is nothing wrong with it. Am I overreacting. Keep in mind I knew nothing of it, he didn't tell me and she didn't tell me, he also never mentions that he talks to her.
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That's rather suspicious. If it were me, I'd be super annoyed.
 
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lol our differing opinion on the OP's situation aside, the two quotes clearly do not say the same thing at all. Mine speaks of "one of my male friends [...] who she has absolutely no sort of rapport with". How is that the same as "my girlfriend shouldn't contact anyone without my approval"?
 
Okay, sorry then - 'my girlfriend can't contact whoever she wants without my approval'. A few different words, same problem.
 
Pagey said:
Okay, sorry then - 'my girlfriend can't contact whoever she wants without my approval'. A few different words, same problem.
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Not really. It's not the same problem. Being upset with her contacting anyone is not the same as being upset contacting specific individuals that would cause an unwanted invasion of my privacy. I would feel the same thing about a male friend. If he called up my dad or sister when the only reason he knows who they are is through me I'd be pretty damn pissed. Of course people can't just contact "whoever [they] want".

Edit: And when I say consent I mean approaching me beforehand to see if I'm comfortable with it. I personally can't comprehend how anyone cannot see that as common courtesy.
 
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I kind of get what you're saying, but I don't think it's reasonable to suspect she's doing anything wrong. It's not like she set up a meeting with him behind your back, she invited him to join the two of you. I like the women I date to get along with my friends. She could be acting in your best interest to include your friends so they don't feel pushed out by the new girlfriend.
 
KoreyS said:
Not really. It's not the same problem. Being upset with her contacting anyone is not the same as being upset contacting specific individuals that would cause an unwanted invasion of my privacy. I would feel the same thing about a male friend. If he called up my dad or sister when the only reason he knows who they are is through me I'd be pretty damn pissed. Of course people can't just contact "whoever [they] want".

Edit: And when I say consent I mean approaching me beforehand to see if I'm comfortable with it. I personally can't comprehend how anyone cannot see that as common courtesy.
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Thats funny, your father never seems to have a problem with my late night phone sex calls. Maybe he doesn't tell you about them or something. Makes me kinda jealous when he orgasms and screams your name out though. I wish I still had a loving dad. :( Oh well, you don't know what you've got until it's gone.
 
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