should I add my ex best friend on fb?

[Shootingstar22]

Looking for advice. So I was best friends with this girl for about 7 years (age 14 to 21) from grade 9 to the year after high school we were pretty similar and really close. When I turned 18 I started a serious relationship that led me down a path I'm now pretty embarrassed about- drug use and mainly involvement with drug dealing and even organized crime. I was so nieve and thought it was cool at the time. I got away from these people around age 20 but then I got into the rave scene and about a year after that my bf just stopped talking to me without warning.

At the time I was so confused and hurt. I left her three messages on her cell asking her to call me back and I never got an answer. I was really upset and hurt for many years. 12 years have passed since we've spoken. Since then I've cleaned up my act big time. I went to college, got off drugs, have an awesome career, a great house, car. I'm married and have a daughter.

We have one mutual friend from high school who I had coffee with a few years ago and this friend Also has been I'm touch with my ex bff and she told her she found me on fb and I'm doing well. I guess she seemed surprised but said that's good to hear. My question is should I add her after all these years? I feel now like I kind of don't blame her for stopping talking to me but on the other hand I'm still a little hurt. She could have had the guts to say I don't want to hang around you since your partying so much, after all we had been inseperable for 7 years.

I guess mostly I want her to see my life now and how far I've come but does it seem pathetic me adding her since She stopped talking to me? And if she wanted to find me she could through our mutual friend and I don't know how I'd feel if she ignored my request.

I keep going back and forth. I need another opinion.

Thanks

 

[Bearlove]

You don't know this person now though? You fell out and both moved on with your lives? She has not made any attempt to contact you so take this as a hint that she simply isn't interested in you.

If however you feel that you can let bygones be bygones and would like to catch up with her out of genuine interest, not just to say how well your doing. Then send her a friend request, if you get no reply then so be it.

I can't see it doing any harm - at worst she may think you have nerve contacting her after all these years and either ignore you, add you tell you where to go etc

At best you may be able to just laugh about the good times before you went off the rails etc

 

[ParappaTheRapper]

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