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Share Something Positive from Your Day vs. It's All Around You

Finished my practicals and think I did quite well, but still have to do my last aftertalk. This last week wasn't as good as the others, but that was because my ADHD made it nearly impossble to get things finished.
 
Managed to delete more than 2 000 updates from my email!!
Could not just delete them all as some of them were actually from work.
 
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It's a gorgeous day, so much fog!!

I completed an essay (not to a very good standard, but I'm SO GLAD it's done) I've been stressing over for 3 weeks. I got my first official grade of the year back, a 1st (the highest grade you can get) in a presentation. Only 2% into a 1st, but a 1st is a 1st and I'm ecstatic!
 
My son will be here next weekend! I am so excited I can't contain myself. I haven't seen him in 19 months! <3
 
Wow! That's great!! Kids grow so fast. My son is already talking about his future travels. He's just 12! :)
My daughter has moved out already.
I'd miss him a lot though..<3
 
Good thing that happened today?
I got confirmation from my boss that he is paying for my passport and flight ticket so I can go to the Bahamas with him and the crew for a month long carnival. My first year on the midway and they already love having me there. It makes me feel included. I feel like I'm at home when I'm at the carnival. We are a family of freaks :)
 
^ That's a good start! ;)
Had a very cool dinner with my new gym friends today.
Trying to re-adapt.
 
I really enjoy the job I just started. I am nearly OCD when it comes to structured placing / fitting of stuff, like putting dishes into a dishwasher (exact pattern,) or stacking plates (in order, based on size.) My job is to first count some of the stuff in the shelves and then fit the delivered products in a way that it appeals to the customer and makes it easy to restock from nearby shelves, by the sales people.
 
^I have a similar OCD when stocking shelves or packing a suitcase. When my boys were little we played a lot with Legos and we were all 3 quite OCD about separating all the different categories of pieces LOL.:)
 
When my kids were small I wasn't so patient. Now that they are older I'm there for them 24/7.
They are moving on a bit faster than I had predicted.
I'm missing their earlier excitement, their 100% willingness to be with us no matter what.
I guess it's the other way around now.

Positive about today? It's Thursday and I have managed to get out of my job on time.
 
Erikmen said:
When my kids were small I wasn't so patient. Now that they are older I'm there for them 24/7.
They are moving on a bit faster than I had predicted.
I'm missing their earlier excitement, their 100% willingness to be with us no matter what.
I guess it's the other way around now.

Positive about today? It's Thursday and I have managed to get out of my job on time.
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I remember my mother describing adolescence thusly: they go to sleep one night saying "I love you mommy" and the next morning they wake up and hate you. While that is a humorous exaggeration (I never hated my parents) I do remember quite well how irrelevant they became to my happiness for a while. It's as if the hormones kick in and suddenly the world of childhood holds no allure--only your peers matter. A book you might be interested in is Gabor Mate's Hold Onto Your Kids: Why Parents Should Matter More than Peers. It's an interesting look at modern acceptance of adolescent alienation from the family. Personally I think this is a graver problem in america than it is for european cultures but this is just my superficial observation.

At any rate, your kids will remember how you were there for them at this stage of life--whether they appear tpo appreciate or not right now. It took having kids myself for me to truly appreciate my parents. Now I realize that that I got a gift not everyone does: I was deeply loved and valued for who I was, as were my siblings. In the end, that has to be one of life's greatest gifts despite any minor parenting flaws along the way.<3
 
Thank you so much for this Herby! <3
My greatest gifts ever.

I know you are right and I really trust your experience.
My son would randomly call me "dear daddy" at all times (in his language). It was so spontaneous, and funny.
The feeling of appreciation of who I truly am. That's what was beautiful about those moments.
Now it's just a casual "hey" .. I respect his teen years. Trying my best! :)

With my daughter is a bit different as she's a 'grown up'. But in the end, the same thing.
They know I'm here for them, no matter what. And at all costs.
Thanks a lot for sharing Herby, it really made my day!
Erik
 
Had a really amazing session with a mental health nurse, one of the first mental health care sessions I've felt worked with rather than against.
 
Got all my chores done despite being in alcohol withdrawals and feeling out of my mind.
 
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