Cherry, my heart goes out to you. I am so very, very sorry.
And to the man, may you rest in peace and may the humor, the humility and class you put into your username continue to shine on in a world sorely in need of that.
There are not any words I can think of to ease your pain. Death is such an awkward situation in our lives. We all know we must die, but when one of us dies, we are always surprised and blown away by the grief.