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Roommates Duty to Tell Me He's Gay?

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If you have no problem with homosexuals, unless you are not sharing a room with them, I see no issue at all - anything else is prejudice and shows you a liar when you say you not prejudice.

Unless you attract a million women and homosexuals a week, I don't think you should be factoring it in AT ALL.
 
You have every right to advertise for a straight person only if you're not comfortable sharing with a gay person, purely from a practical point of view. I don't think it's right, but if you're asking this question up front to begin with it's obviously going to make life difficult living together at some point and who needs that? Why make things difficult for yourself if you don't need to?

If you don't specify that to begin with though, you can't expect someone to tell you as if it's something they need to confess. In this case I think you have a duty to tell a prospective roommate that you're homophobic so that some poor sucker doesn't get stuck living with you and then having to feel awkward because you can't deal with him talking to his boyfriend on the phone or something...
 
You are obviously a born leader/alpha female - I see this a lot. Like women who don't have many female friends, because they clash in cat fights too much haha.
Foreigner said:
By that same logic, separating washrooms and changerooms by gender is also sexist, and living together is more intimate than that.

I've lived with women and it was a nightmare. Way worse than the guys I've lived with. I will never live with women again. Give me the guys any day. Call it sexist all you want, that's my personal experience. Just like I won't live with anyone under 25 y/o ever again.

A person's sexual orientation is not that big of a deal compared to gender differences. It would matter way more to me if they were male or female vs. straight or gay. The former is reasonable, the latter isn't really relevant. And in the OPs case he is wanting to move into someone else's place, so he has even less of a right to demand things.
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I personally used to find it hard to live with women, but it all boiled down to my dominating personality and energy really - also being more mindful.

Living with guys is easy - the bros...same standards, and "a spade is a spade" kinda communiccation, whereas most of the women I have lived with infer and place social cues a lot.

It all boils down to personalities though - not gender or sexual orientation, which is seperatism - if your personalities clash, it is fucking horrible.

I used to find it hard to live with anyone. It gets easier, the more compassion and mindfulness you exercise - Every now and then a few times a year I spend about a month living with a friend, to test teh waters again.

I am almost ready to live with someone again...but I enjoy living on my own for now.
 
No i dont think "he" should tell you "his" persnal info. Its his buissness.
You have a point yes you should know who you are living with, like a murder, robber, someone on the run from the cops...but a gay person? If you two are freinds then this shouldnt be an issue.
 
Raz said:
You have every right to advertise for a straight person only if you're not comfortable sharing with a gay person, purely from a practical point of view. I don't think it's right, but if you're asking this question up front to begin with it's obviously going to make life difficult living together at some point and who needs that? Why make things difficult for yourself if you don't need to?

If you don't specify that to begin with though, you can't expect someone to tell you as if it's something they need to confess. In this case I think you have a duty to tell a prospective roommate that you're homophobic so that some poor sucker doesn't get stuck living with you and then having to feel awkward because you can't deal with him talking to his boyfriend on the phone or something...
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That's pretty much what I was trying to say. If a gay dude bothers you so much, why put yourself or him in an uncomfortable situation and in a living situation to boot. Your home should be a safety net and a sanctuary, so if it bothers you, then yes, ask for straight guy/girls only. I don't understand why it would bother someone, but that's not really the point. The point is not about tolerance of gays or whether or not it's right or wrong. It's about being comfortable in your house, and let's face it, there are a lot of straight guys who would reeeeally not like to see two guys making out on the couch. lol
 
Hmmm....do you imagine if he's gay he's indiscriminate. Gay doesn't= wants ANYONE of the same sex anymore than straight =s wants anyone of opposite sex. Unless you'll be sharing a bed it's none of your fucking business. If however he asks to share a mattress instead of a roof then and only then do you have a right to know if he's gay. Maybe then you can sort it out without needing to be told though.
 
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