Retaining trust and love but having a threesome?

[Shady's Fox]

Chip, I doubt that, I saw couples who never watch porn even though they have like 3 or 4yrs since they're together. But if she plays this game with him, remember this is his wife, they have 10yrs, right.. I would just break up with her, all these mind-games.. that's why I hate the woman brain, their brain functioning backwards. Overthinkin.

My girl doesn't do these shits, I don't deny when we were first flirting you know she tested some shits with me but when we've got together, done, no more useless shits. Sad anyway.

 

[CoastTwoCoast]

I'm into monogamy. Yeah, you'll find other people attractive, but being in a monogamous relationship means you commit to that person no matter what. That's just me though.

It will more than likely be a disaster if you choose to do this. Your wife having jealousy issues will be a problem.

If you go through with it, make sure you pay more attention to your wife instead of the other woman.

Would your wife be ok with you penetrating the other woman? Maybe she'd feel better if you didn't. Maybe it should be where you only penetrate your wife and let her play with the other woman. Just a thought.

 

[Cream Gravy?]

Would your wife be ok with you penetrating the other woman? Maybe she'd feel better if you didn't. Maybe it should be where you only penetrate your wife and let her play with the other woman. Just a thought.

This has been discussed and I think would likely be the scenario should it ever occur.

I'm into monogamy too, C2C. My wife has only ever been with me. She never had a chance to explore. Neither did I really. We're high school sweethearts. We love each other dearly and want to continue but sometimes these sexual desires flare up.

 

[CoastTwoCoast]

This has been discussed and I think would likely be the scenario should it ever occur.

I'm into monogamy too, C2C. My wife has only ever been with me. She never had a chance to explore. Neither did I really. We're high school sweethearts. We love each other dearly and want to continue but sometimes these sexual desires flare up.

Understood. Yeah, it's different if she never had the chance to explore. I have, there's no one out there worth it for me so far. That's why I'm celibate.

 

[jose ribas da silva]

That's dangerous, because she can fell bad if you like too much the other girl

 

[thujone]

IME there's never really a "we" when it comes to this kind of stuff. Either you're both 100% sure or 100% unsure; no in-between. Even if she's 99% sure, that still leaves 1% your-dick-better-not-even-exist-in-the-same-zip-code-as-another-woman,-buster

 

[wizardknight17]

If you both have fears beforehand one of you is guaranteed to have a bigger one after

IME there's never really a "we" when it comes to this kind of stuff. Either you're both 100% sure or 100% unsure; no in-between.

^^^^^^
First off... what they said. That being said, not me personally, but I have known 2 separate couples who have invited a 3rd.

One of the couples regularly went to orgies and even invited me to join them (both at the orgies and with just them at their house)

The other couple regularly invited women to join them at their house as well as having an open relationship, separately with other people after that. They've been married longer than 10 years now.

Ask yourself if you're prepared for whatever way it goes down.

Wife leaves you.
You leave her.
You guys regularly attend orgies together.
Ect....

You should discuss it and at the point where both you and her are either
1. Comfortable with ANY outcome. Or
2. Don't have any fears about doing it

Then you should be ok to proceed.

 

[Cream Gravy?]

My wife and my discussion of this has been put on hold recently due to outside circumstances, but I would continue to appreciate anyone's input/experiences in regards to this matter. It's bound to resurface for us when things in our life change back to normal.

 

[tracedwards313]

Personally, the whole 3some idea is not worth bringing into a committed relarionship.

IME, 3somes are usually overrated to begin with. But they can be fun and work best with as few strings attached as possible. I have done it both ways, multiple times.

My Ex and I had a 3some. We brought in a girl that we both knew and were "kinda" friends with, i didnt really care because she was hot as fuck.

It was fine but ultimately wasn't worth it. Its basically having a single sexual experience that has a huge potential to cause a ripple effect somewhere down the line.

Thats the bad part. It will appear that everything is all good, everyone is cool, and no worries. Then later, it could be weeks, months, or longer, some bullshit happens and all the sudden you have problems that are fucking complex and serious.

My advice is you are better off not doing it. Obviously, I dont know you or your wife so its judgement call. But, the odds of something negative happening is substantially higher than nothing at all.