Received a threatening text message....Now what?

[slackhands]

Basically the other night me and a pal scored some drugs for which I lent him some money (£90), on the condition he would pay me back around £30 each week, as has happened in the past (though he missed several weekly payments I'll add which cost me alot through selling my XBox)

However I ended up missing my last train home from his Uni which was mainly due to this friend insisting on using my laptop to watch some adult entertainment following his epic binge . I attempted to go back to my friends student appartment but my friend wasn't answering and my phone was off to call.I was then escorted off the property by Student Security as I had no I.D or card. I was now stranded around 50 miles and my only way to get back to my house was by Taxi. I knew I had no money left but soon enough realised I had accidentally took my friends debit card, which I had been using as a tool earlier that night for.... yep You've guessed it8) I knew the Pin as I he had used it earlier that night to withdraw a small amount of cash that he had owed me. However between that moment and this, more money had been added to his account from a family member which he did tell me about earlier. So I withdrew all this money (£80) and used to get a Taxi home. Technically it was my money that he owed me and I did give him £10 the next day to get food etc, and tried getting him more for this week. Now I've been getting text messages from one of his mates saying I'm going to get battered

Basically this guy has cost me alot of moey in the past, and although I feel bad for putting him an awkward situation I still feel a bit....'meh'?

 

[THECATINTHEHAT]

I hate to break it to you, he's not your friend.

 

[Miss Kirsty]

yep he aint your friend dude...hes a drug friend...the drugs are gone and so is any thought of concideration to you!....You still should not have removed cash from his account...it would be classed as theft here and we have cameras on our ATMs that take your pic when you withdraw cash...ummmm...he could charge you no?...I hope he wont but would he have just cause...i mean just because he owes you the money dosent mean you are allowed to take it out from his bank IMO...Though i do see your predicament...Ive slept out cold before and i personally would do it again before i took someones cash from their account man...or i would have hitched...
So really, i do feel for you but i thijnk you used the wrong method to get you money mate...

 

[RedLeader]

Technically speaking, it's not your friend's fault that you missed the train. It's not like he held a knife to your throat and insisted that you let him spend all of that time watching adult entertainment, right? I think you're trying to justify your actions by finding something over which you can blame him for what you had to do. I'm not saying that you made the wrong choice, as you were without many options. I think your best course of action would be to apologise, sooner than later, for taking the money and hopefully he'll say that you are financially even. It does sound like he's using you for money, so I'd back away from this friendship, at least until he gets through the worst of his habit.

And upon reflection, realise that (1) you shouldn't expect to ever see money you loan to people so that they can buy drugs again and (2) you need to plan ahead so that you don't have to end up making rash decisions which come with unknown consequences. Live and learn. I hope that your friend gets the help that he needs.

ATMs that take your pic when you withdraw cash...ummmm...he could charge you no?

What you want to watch out for is something along the lines of "Hey slackhands, I'm going to go to the authorities about this unless you give me back some outlandish figure." I was set up in a similar scam one upon a time, and to be honest I had to hand over money . Just be careful, as he sounds like a drug-addict who scammed his family member into wiring more money, and because you got in the way, he's now coming after you. I'm not exactly going to suggest anything upon you, but if the message is threatening enough, then you've got something on him as well. If it went to the authorities and they saw both sides of it and inferred that it was at all drug-related, they would probably tell you both to stop wasting their time.

 

[Vaya]

slackhands - This is your third time posting this exact same thread.

The first one was wisely moved by muvolution to SL&R, where it is a more proper topic. I see that you closed that thread - that's your prerogative.

You re-posted it here in TDS, and, given that it (at that point) existed dually in TDS and SL&R, I closed that thread.

Less than 1 hour later, you posted this thread, for a THIRD time, in TDS.

This thread is being moved for the third (and last) time to SLR. Do not continue to repost threads in forums from which they have been re/moved.

~ Vaya

 

[Lysis]

Stick to one thread, please. If you make a thread and choose to delete it, fine, no problem. But deleting threads, creating a new thread in the other forums, and then doing it AGAIN is really annoying. Pick a thread and stick with it.

So, just let this thread play out and leave it alone.

 

[slackhands]

Technically speaking, it's not your friend's fault that you missed the train. It's not like he held a knife to your throat and insisted that you let him spend all of that time watching adult entertainment, right? I think you're trying to justify your actions by finding something over which you can blame him for what you had to do. I'm not saying that you made the wrong choice, as you were without many options. I think your best course of action would be to apologise, sooner than later, for taking the money and hopefully he'll say that you are financially even. It does sound like he's using you for money, so I'd back away from this friendship, at least until he gets through the worst of his habit.

And upon reflection, realise that (1) you shouldn't expect to ever see money you loan to people so that they can buy drugs again and (2) you need to plan ahead so that you don't have to end up making rash decisions which come with unknown consequences. Live and learn. I hope that your friend gets the help that he needs.



What you want to watch out for is something along the lines of "Hey slackhands, I'm going to go to the authorities about this unless you give me back some outlandish figure." I was set up in a similar scam one upon a time, and to be honest I had to hand over money . Just be careful, as he sounds like a drug-addict who scammed his family member into wiring more money, and because you got in the way, he's now coming after you. I'm not exactly going to suggest anything upon you, but if the message is threatening enough, then you've got something on him as well. If it went to the authorities and they saw both sides of it and inferred that it was at all drug-related, they would probably tell you both to stop wasting their time.

Great advice, will definitely take this on board fella. Remember though, this guy had just had a few grams of 'coke' in less than a few hours, and his behaviour was very erratic/intimidating. Again I'm not solely holding this action responsible, but when I combine that with his delayed payments in the past costing me and so forth, I feel I made the logical decision IMHO. There was no way I could hitch hike as I was in the countryside and high as a kite, and sure as hell wasn't going to sleep rough when I didn't have to-That's just how I role mate


Also he used my debit card and Pin, so he couldn't go to the Police about it, and I wore a hoody.

 

[slackhands]

Stick to one thread, please. If you make a thread and choose to delete it, fine, no problem. But deleting threads, creating a new thread in the other forums, and then doing it AGAIN is really annoying. Pick a thread and stick with it.

So, just let this thread play out and leave it alone.

Sorry for some reason since I let this friend use my laptop, my page refreshes or goes backwards- maybe that's what caused it...

 

[Missykins]

Technically, what you did is called theft and if you did it to me, I would report you to the police. The police would not care if I owed you money or not, all that would matter is that you withdrew funds from an account that was not yours, using a bank card that did not belong to you.

 

[ech0s85]

thats what we call "a friend without the r"