First off, i'm bi, and probably split down the middle more than average in terms of liking/relating to either sex. I came out (being bi) about 5 years ago, didnt even have feelings for men until my mid-late 20s (which seems REALLY late, but w/e). The questions I have tho are not related to women, so here goes.
1) Are most gay men bottoms? I ask because the ones i've met, along with most of the ads on sites like CL are for bottoms, or submissive acts. I have never gotten this: istm that gay men would be nearly evenly split 50/50 just like men/women are. Am I getting a skewed perspective or is this how it is (I'd guess 75% are 'bottom', and 25% top).
2) What % of gay men never or rarely engage in anal? again, istm that many/most prefer mutual j/o, oral, 69, rimming, etc, but no fucking.
3) Are gay men put off by bisexual people? if so, why?
4) wtf is with the dicksizing? I have seen and heard WAY more of this with gay men than women. e.g. "if it's not 8"+, dont even bother...". I do have hands attached to arms, so if my exactly avg dick isnt big enough for you, i could fist you.
5) probably the biggest thing that scares me is the amount of guys willing to do anon/bareback hookups. I know we are horny dudes, wanna fuck anything that moves, and anything that doesnt move, fuck it to see if you can make it move, but goddamn! I'd rather live on a desert island than have herpes on my junk or HIV. Is this shit typical?
It also seems to me there are degrees of homosexuality. If you are perfectly comfortable with your partner, you (I) would do pretty much anything they asked. am I being naive here? I know some (many) people are in the closet, and some are just finding out, but to me, if you have 2 guys naked in a room for any kind of sex, it's gay. and that's not a bad thing, but why the reservations about certain things, like a lot of body contact, kissing, or anal? To my way of thinking, taking it in the ass is way less personal than giving a bj: you dont have tastebuds or a gag reflex in your ass, yet you'll find 50 guys who'll suck your dick for every one that will take (or give) it in the ass.
Last question, sorry if this is insulting: are gay men passionate? I've been with exactly one man that was passionate, the rest, meh. Is this a fault of men, gay men, or (gasp) me? I'm not an ugly dude by any means. Is it possible my being bi has affected my relationships with gay men?
Someone PLEASE tell me that my experiences are NOT the norm. Ive very limited access to IRL gay friends to ask advice on atm.
Last question: what is with the very limited "types' people have? shaved/hairy, older/younger, fit/chub, etc. I have my preferences as well, but very few things I exclude. Seems very shallow to me.
thoughts?
1) Are most gay men bottoms? I ask because the ones i've met, along with most of the ads on sites like CL are for bottoms, or submissive acts. I have never gotten this: istm that gay men would be nearly evenly split 50/50 just like men/women are. Am I getting a skewed perspective or is this how it is (I'd guess 75% are 'bottom', and 25% top).
2) What % of gay men never or rarely engage in anal? again, istm that many/most prefer mutual j/o, oral, 69, rimming, etc, but no fucking.
3) Are gay men put off by bisexual people? if so, why?
4) wtf is with the dicksizing? I have seen and heard WAY more of this with gay men than women. e.g. "if it's not 8"+, dont even bother...". I do have hands attached to arms, so if my exactly avg dick isnt big enough for you, i could fist you.
5) probably the biggest thing that scares me is the amount of guys willing to do anon/bareback hookups. I know we are horny dudes, wanna fuck anything that moves, and anything that doesnt move, fuck it to see if you can make it move, but goddamn! I'd rather live on a desert island than have herpes on my junk or HIV. Is this shit typical?
It also seems to me there are degrees of homosexuality. If you are perfectly comfortable with your partner, you (I) would do pretty much anything they asked. am I being naive here? I know some (many) people are in the closet, and some are just finding out, but to me, if you have 2 guys naked in a room for any kind of sex, it's gay. and that's not a bad thing, but why the reservations about certain things, like a lot of body contact, kissing, or anal? To my way of thinking, taking it in the ass is way less personal than giving a bj: you dont have tastebuds or a gag reflex in your ass, yet you'll find 50 guys who'll suck your dick for every one that will take (or give) it in the ass.
Last question, sorry if this is insulting: are gay men passionate? I've been with exactly one man that was passionate, the rest, meh. Is this a fault of men, gay men, or (gasp) me? I'm not an ugly dude by any means. Is it possible my being bi has affected my relationships with gay men?
Someone PLEASE tell me that my experiences are NOT the norm. Ive very limited access to IRL gay friends to ask advice on atm.
Last question: what is with the very limited "types' people have? shaved/hairy, older/younger, fit/chub, etc. I have my preferences as well, but very few things I exclude. Seems very shallow to me.
thoughts?