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I just read the posts you made and I wont pretend to know your situation and I mean no disrespect. Just from the little information you provided it seems to me as if you daughter is semi well established in using dope. IV use most often starts after smoking/snorting has run its course and making that step for some people can be pretty big. When I was 20 yrs old, nobody could tell me a thing about anything and I did what I wanted. When I was pushed about using heroin, nothing positive ever came out of it. Speaking for myself 'tough-love' would have been a sure death sentence.
First thing I would look at is what could be the reasons behind her use? Divorce? Does she feel peer pressure? Does she feel something is lacking from her life? Is it an escape? Does she just like to use it, I would hedge my bets that 'her' answer would be the last one. All of those answers relate back to one simple thing, how she is feeling. My advice on this matter would get her into some sort of counceling/therapy/family therapy, etc. on the condition that she is not forced to go. Some how try to get past the heroin issue and bring the problem back home to the underlaying causes. Its hard to get a 20 yr old interested in some thing she might not understand, I have no experience with children and wont pretend like I do.
Once you and her 'possibly' find out why she is using, you can 'work' on trying to remedy the issue. You already have a few of your ducks lines up because you daughter is perusing actions to help her to get & stay clean, very positive right there. The only person that is going to change her actions and get clean is herself there is absolutely no way that you or anyone else can force getting clean on a person. You can suggest but ultimately it is her that makes the decision. Making that choice is a HUGE step and it doesnt always work in the fashion that you envision it but it will eventually work.
Changing... 'People, Places, and Things' is a massive order but it is the backbone of a good recovery. Being 20 yrs. old has many external pushes that make one want to use, number one being friends. You can talk to her about things, people, places that make her want to use
In my opinion is that you can not come down like an iron fist you have to be able to have open communication with her and for the both of you to be comfortable. Establishing this type of relationship greatly improves the chances. I dont know anything about you or her life and I am just kind of rambling. Suboxone is a very very good opiate replacement therapy and it can sometimes take quite a long time for a person to become stabilized on it to the point of not even wanting to use heroin or thinking about it, at that point it is time to slowly get off. At this time it is hoped that she will have changed persons, places, and things that 'triggered' her to pick up the drug in the first place. Hopefully she will realized why she used and taken steps to work on that.
I am a recovering heroin addict with over a decade and a half of IV heroin use. I have been thru countless rehabs, I have been on methadone, I have been thru the jails, I have been thru 'institutions', I have tried every last half-baked remedy to kick heroin, I have been on Suboxone maintenence, I have tried geographical cures, i.e. moving, I have had a couple of dozen friends pass on thru the years, I have had countless friends end up doing long jail terms, I have been there and done it and the only thing is that SHE makes the decision to stop using heroin and when the time will be when she is ready to make that decision. I will say that Suboxone most likely gave me the possibility to stop using heroin in a semi-comfortable fashion and be in the mind set to examine why I couldnt stop using heroin.
It is a very rough road to walk down and make one examine one's life in a introspective manner that many people simple dont have a clue about. I have been clean from heroin for 4 years come Mothers Day and I have been on Suboxone for the last 8 years. I have graduated from college and returned to finish up a 2nd degree [still not done yet], I first used heroin for the first time at the age of 14-15'ish. I have kicked a 8 year benzodiazapine/tranquilizer habit, I have finally come to terms with the detrimental effected continued use of ANY drugs will have on my life.
My life is just now starting and the gates are wide open and I can only go up from here.
I am 32 years of age.
Peace,
Seedless
Hope I didnt ramble on to much
I just read the posts you made and I wont pretend to know your situation and I mean no disrespect. Just from the little information you provided it seems to me as if you daughter is semi well established in using dope. IV use most often starts after smoking/snorting has run its course and making that step for some people can be pretty big. When I was 20 yrs old, nobody could tell me a thing about anything and I did what I wanted. When I was pushed about using heroin, nothing positive ever came out of it. Speaking for myself 'tough-love' would have been a sure death sentence.
First thing I would look at is what could be the reasons behind her use? Divorce? Does she feel peer pressure? Does she feel something is lacking from her life? Is it an escape? Does she just like to use it, I would hedge my bets that 'her' answer would be the last one. All of those answers relate back to one simple thing, how she is feeling. My advice on this matter would get her into some sort of counceling/therapy/family therapy, etc. on the condition that she is not forced to go. Some how try to get past the heroin issue and bring the problem back home to the underlaying causes. Its hard to get a 20 yr old interested in some thing she might not understand, I have no experience with children and wont pretend like I do.
Once you and her 'possibly' find out why she is using, you can 'work' on trying to remedy the issue. You already have a few of your ducks lines up because you daughter is perusing actions to help her to get & stay clean, very positive right there. The only person that is going to change her actions and get clean is herself there is absolutely no way that you or anyone else can force getting clean on a person. You can suggest but ultimately it is her that makes the decision. Making that choice is a HUGE step and it doesnt always work in the fashion that you envision it but it will eventually work.
Changing... 'People, Places, and Things' is a massive order but it is the backbone of a good recovery. Being 20 yrs. old has many external pushes that make one want to use, number one being friends. You can talk to her about things, people, places that make her want to use
In my opinion is that you can not come down like an iron fist you have to be able to have open communication with her and for the both of you to be comfortable. Establishing this type of relationship greatly improves the chances. I dont know anything about you or her life and I am just kind of rambling. Suboxone is a very very good opiate replacement therapy and it can sometimes take quite a long time for a person to become stabilized on it to the point of not even wanting to use heroin or thinking about it, at that point it is time to slowly get off. At this time it is hoped that she will have changed persons, places, and things that 'triggered' her to pick up the drug in the first place. Hopefully she will realized why she used and taken steps to work on that.
I am a recovering heroin addict with over a decade and a half of IV heroin use. I have been thru countless rehabs, I have been on methadone, I have been thru the jails, I have been thru 'institutions', I have tried every last half-baked remedy to kick heroin, I have been on Suboxone maintenence, I have tried geographical cures, i.e. moving, I have had a couple of dozen friends pass on thru the years, I have had countless friends end up doing long jail terms, I have been there and done it and the only thing is that SHE makes the decision to stop using heroin and when the time will be when she is ready to make that decision. I will say that Suboxone most likely gave me the possibility to stop using heroin in a semi-comfortable fashion and be in the mind set to examine why I couldnt stop using heroin.
It is a very rough road to walk down and make one examine one's life in a introspective manner that many people simple dont have a clue about. I have been clean from heroin for 4 years come Mothers Day and I have been on Suboxone for the last 8 years. I have graduated from college and returned to finish up a 2nd degree [still not done yet], I first used heroin for the first time at the age of 14-15'ish. I have kicked a 8 year benzodiazapine/tranquilizer habit, I have finally come to terms with the detrimental effected continued use of ANY drugs will have on my life.
My life is just now starting and the gates are wide open and I can only go up from here.
I am 32 years of age.
Peace,
Seedless
Hope I didnt ramble on to much
