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pre- mature ejaculation= like whoa! and wtf?

Necr0sis

Necr0sis

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Heres the situation, feel free to laugh idgaf

so i met this girl, i was under the influence- a bit euphoric and very awake.
I ask my friend for a condom about 30 min earlier after i meet her since everything is going so well, we were flirting like crazy, shes maybe 5 years older and ive never been with an older woman so i was a bit shy so she putting a bit more work in than myself.

Im about to go down on her and then i realize, i jizzed myself, while making out with her. Its been 6 months since i last smashed. I had to bullshit my way out of it and say i didn't have a condom.

This wasnt a problem then but it does seem like its been a very long time. I dont know if it was because i havent had any intimacy since then but ill probably be seeing her again very soon and i have to make sure this shit doesnt happen again.

i feel like a god damn 13 yr old
advice?
 
I'd have gone down on her and ate it like a champ until I was hard again...

It happens though, man. I mean, hell, how old are you?
 
Necr0sis said:
18, i could get it back up and hard within 20 or so minutes, but i lost some confidence after what had just happened
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I hear ya, man. I've been there, trust.

The good news is that this whole phase will pass and you'll hit your stride in a couple years or so. The bad news is that, after you've had all the pussy you could possibly want (and it does happen), well, you'll have to find something new that interests you. I developed a pretty sizable heroin, uh, hobby... I wouldn't recommend it.

So, yeah, my advice to you is to learn to eat pussy and learn to eat it well.

shulginsmyhero said:
couldnt have said it better myself
spoken like a true sex maniac lol
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Yeah, I guess that I've been around a couple of times... for better or worse, really. lol
 
eating pussy isn't relevant the problem..

is there anything i can do to help it?

edit: was planning on going down on her then getting it in, i aborted after the realization
 
Necr0sis said:
eating pussy isn't relevant the problem..

is there anything i can do to help it?

edit: was planning on going down on her then getting it in, i aborted after the realization
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But it is relevant to the problem. Look, this is what I'm telling you: There's really not much you can do about it. OK? You're a young kid, eighteen years old, so you're going to shoot your wad prematurely every now and again. It's going to happen.

It's what you do about it that's the issue... so eat it... fucking eat it until you're hard again. Then, having already blown your load, having prepped this woman and put her on the brink of an orgasm, you'll likely last long enough the second time around to get you both off. Understand?
 
verso said:
But it is relevant to the problem. Look, this is what I'm telling you: There's really not much you can do about it. OK? You're a young kid, eighteen years old, so you're going to shoot your wad prematurely every now and again. It's going to happen.
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Hmmmm. I wonder if this is as common as you make it out to be. I never experienced anything like this.
 
Cevain said:
Hmmmm. I wonder if this is as common as you make it out to be. I never experienced anything like this.
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I've experienced it, friends of mine have experienced it, and if you type "premature ejaculation" into Google, I can promise you that most of the user-comments you'll read below each article are likely to be from young kids.

I think it's safe to say that yes, it's very common.
 
Everyone else is weird. I don't go down after I get of. I get harder. everyone needs to check their shit.
 
>smashed

Stopped reading right there. Fuck that word bro. You will get none of my dick control advice, return to being a middle schooler.
 
What's so terribly wrong with that word, "smashed" ? What word would you prefer? Fucked? Banged? What?
 
you really cant overlook your pet peeve for just a second?

i just thought it was unusual since i had the previous misconception of pre-ejaculation occurring only after penetration (but very early never-the-less) or over-stimulation to the penis (through grinding, dry humping, etc,)

oh and i lmfao'd at the jizzed in my pants - dont tell your friends or ill say your a slut LOL
 
Right - OP I would carry on from what I suggesteed by telling you to look up tantric sex. You can find a lot of information on PC muscles, different strokes to use, and other things to help you only premature ejaculate the first time you have sex in an evenings session, if you haven't fucked in a while.

I'll give you some tips I've learnt though - they become second nature after a while of conscious practice...

1) do PC muscle exercises - breath in, breathe out - both around 4 seconds. On the exhale clench your perineum muscle and keep it clenched for around 2 seconds...then slowly let go on the inhale. Do 3 sets of 20 everyday.

2) when you're fucking breathe in through your nose, very deeply from start to finish of the session - as long as your breathing doesn't get shallow or in through your mouth, you will be fine to last a lot longer (mouth breathing alerts your body to panic and survival mode kicks in).

3) try this - 3 shallow thrusts: 1 deep. When you feel yourself coming up to an orgasm, withdraw so your still inside her, but at the mouth of her cunt, then clench your PC muscles and suck your abdominals in til the sensations/contractions go away...if you're really in trouble, pull on your ballsac (fingers round the top of your balls in a ring shape) hard, maybe even while massaging your perineum. The orgasm while subside...and you can start again slowly with the thrusting etc.

There is another one I'vve tried using but it's never worked in the past - I will try again soon - when you feel the urge to cum, pull out and verrrrry firmly squeeze the head of your dick. While practicing the deep breathing - this would work well in conjunction with the perineum massage too.

Tried and tested taoist/yogic methods - for thousands of years. There is at least some starting material for you, which you can use with masturbation. Make sure when you masturbate you take the time at least once outta 3 times, to touch your body all over, making it a slow and loving process.
 
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Title was edited, I didn't think it was pre-mature ejaculation but something else

And thanks jack, will definitely practice the exercises

Cheers
-necrosis
 
From what I've been told, those exercises can actually weaken an already healthy and strong PC muscle, thereby making premature ejaculation worse. And for someone OP's age, there's no reason for why his PC muscle shouldn't already be healthy and strong.

I've tried all of those suggestions before, and I can honestly say that I saw very little improvement in my ability to last longer. It comes with time, young grasshopper, time...
 
hiphophippy said:
Everyone else is weird. I don't go down after I get of. I get harder. everyone needs to check their shit.
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+1. I stay hard for awhile after i've gotten off. Also if you want to last longer, it's all in the mind.. just breath, relax, and don't get caught up in the fantasy in your head.
 
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