I swear to god, I've tried all this "kinky" stuff and it really doesn't do much for me, it just feels a bit "fake" and forced, imho...
I'm all for passionate, slow, fast, sweet or rough sex but, when stuff like this comes into play I just go "ho-hum"...it's all in the other person's head.
whatever works for you anyway, as long as no one gets hurt...