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People are rude.

Man oh man. Bluelight Social was the wild west. I knew better than to post, but I loved to read.

I like how TL is run now, but it is toothless compared to what it used to be. Meaning that the mods are running a tight ship, good on 'em.

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Lysis said:
... Most of the people I talk to are online, and I think it's like you said - I can close the online chat at any time and don't have to catch shit for wanting to go home or not wanting to go out or whatever. I'm not tied to online chats, so I prefer them. If someone chats me up in gmail and I'm not around, no one gets upset, because that's the way it is.

OP, how old are you? I think people go through this period after school where friends aren't available as much anymore. Work, family, whatever get in the way, so it's not all fun and games and they aren't free every weekend, so people see it as rude, when it's just a busy life.
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This is a good point. I'm not necessarily a shut in but I'm not connected with the type of people I really want to be close to either so I often avoid going out because it ends up coming with all these strange strings attached. I would like to find a serious girlfriend but I'm not going to get serious with just anyone so until then I'm fine with doing my own thing. People give me too much shit for not staying out late or answering every phone call, especially when I'm working. So, they make it to hard to socialize, not me. Sorry, I'm about 30, don't party anymore and don't want to stay out and watch people get drunk and run around and feel like shit the next day. It's definately not fair when they get pissy with me and talk shit about me staying home cause I don't make fake plans or promises. I tell them straight up what I'm gonna do and I still catch shit for it. I've got plenty of friends who have moved on and I only talk to them once a year but we don't dislike each other for it.

You seem like a cool person Apple Core, so if nothing else I'm sure lots of people on here are interested in what you have to say.
 
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Today I'm pretty sure I was wearing a sign on my forehead that says "PLEASE BE AN ASSHOLE TO ME BECAUSE YOU CAN". I don't even know if I have any energy left to rant about it all and let it all out here in this thread but let me just say that OP I FUCKIN FEEL YOU MAN. Ugh. To paraphrase, I would not speak to another human being like that let alone a customer, client, patient, coworker, etc. I don't get why people feel the need to be rude or hateful to others for no reason at all. Sure if you have a good damn reason then I can understand. But seriously why shit all over someone's day just because? How does that benefit you at all? Jesus christ. I don't do anything to hurt you or affect you in any way, so what motivation do you have to comment or make fun or belittle any part of me? I don't go picking apart your life and telling you what I don't like about it. Ok this is gonna turn into a looooong ass rant if I don't stop myself lol.



RAAAAAAAAAAAAWR.
 
TheAppleCore said:
A few examples:

The other day, I was chatting with my sister, and mentioned some odd trivial factoid, and she cut me off -- "nobody cares." I almost started to cry.

Last Friday, two people promised to call. The phone didn't ring once.

I made plans with a friend to get together one morning. After being totally unable to contact him that morning, he tells me he forgot about the plans and overslept.
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My best advice I can think of would be this :

Although that kind of stuff can be hurtful, those are common things and happen often. More often than not, the other person is not trying to be as rude as they sound and probably are the ones with an issue, not you. Just take it in stride and ignore the rude stuff and you will start to hear a lot more positive things than you ever thought.

Keep your headup man

oh yeah and stand up for yourself! If someone tries to be an asshole, make them regret it and it reflects.
 
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I thought one of the main parts of becoming well adjusted and growing up was to be able to understand when a person is just fucking with you.
 
firefighter said:
Today I'm pretty sure I was wearing a sign on my forehead that says "PLEASE BE AN ASSHOLE TO ME BECAUSE YOU CAN". I don't even know if I have any energy left to rant about it all and let it all out here in this thread but let me just say that OP I FUCKIN FEEL YOU MAN. Ugh. To paraphrase, I would not speak to another human being like that let alone a customer, client, patient, coworker, etc. I don't get why people feel the need to be rude or hateful to others for no reason at all. Sure if you have a good damn reason then I can understand. But seriously why shit all over someone's day just because? How does that benefit you at all? Jesus christ. I don't do anything to hurt you or affect you in any way, so what motivation do you have to comment or make fun or belittle any part of me? I don't go picking apart your life and telling you what I don't like about it. Ok this is gonna turn into a looooong ass rant if I don't stop myself lol.



RAAAAAAAAAAAAWR.
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i know that feel of sign on forehead
 
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