^ That it does.
So I called up this girl a bit ago, asked her what she was up to this weekend. She said not sure right now, what do you have in mind? I suggested the waterfall, or dinner. Then she told me she's dealing with a lot of stuff right now and feeling really weird, and she's not sure if she's up for anything but sleeping. So I said, listen, if you don't want to hang out with me right now, you can just tell me, I'll be bummed but I'll understand. And she said she honestly doesn't know if she wants to or not. Then she said she'd like a drink because things have been crazy, and I asked if she meant with me or just in general (because it was very ambiguous), and she said I don't know that either. And she apologized and said she's sorry but she's just all over the place, really confused right now, and she said "who knows what I want? I sure don't". So I just left it at, "Well, I'm here if you need someone to talk to or spend time with... if you give me a call that will be great but I really do understand if you don't. And I hope you can sort things out and feel better."
I really don't think she's lying, or get the sense she is... I mean if she just plain didn't want to see me, I gave her an out. I think my initial intuition about it is right, that she is more hurt by her divorce than I am, and that her husband got back from active duty temporarily and it threw her for a loop. Probably there's other stuff too that I just don't know her well enough to know about. But I think she's conflicted because she does like me, and she isn't sure if she should do that or feel that way right now. I respect that. I actually feel better now because I realize it isn't me, it's life stuff. Of course I hope she calls me even if she just wants to have a drink and talk about stuff. But either way it puts my mind more at ease. It makes sense why she'd not feel distant and then suddenly feel distant. It just had me so confused because it happened without any communication and her energy towards me shifted dramatically from one day to the next. I didn't know how to respond externally or internally. Now I know that I should give her space and that she is confused and not sure how to go forward, not that I did something, or whatever.
So I guess it's still a "we'll see", but in a better way that I can deal with.
I still hope it can work out though.