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I had a great practice today with my band... then I got home and my girlfriend is just in an awful mood. She's basically depressed 100% of the time, told me she hates life. Lately she's been really grumpy a lot of the time, it used to be she'd be really sweet all the time and put in effort to try to be happy even though she was struggling, but it seems like lately she's just given up. It's scaring me because I realized that she's really the only negative person in my life, and what does that say? All the other people I surround myself with lift me up, help me to be a happier and more fulfilled person. She's always negative about everything these days, like literally everything, even if something good happens she finds what is negative about it and focuses on that. It's like I have to recharge myself when I'm with other people or alone, so I can not get totally frustrated and depressed when I spend time with her. She just won't address her issues or get help. She's still good to me, she's supportive and helpful, she pulls her weight financially... but it used to be she made me feel happier and I had fun with her, lately she doesn't have fun doing anything almost ever, and she exudes negativity like a cloud. I don't know want to deal with this, but I love her. I don't even think I CAN deal with it forever, and I certainly shouldn't. But honestly looking at it objectively, I think a big part of my stress and unhappiness for the last while has been because of the stress and pain I feel knowing how miserable she is. It's really hard for me.
I try to tell her about how you create your reality by the story you tell yourself, and she rolls her eyes like it's some trite hippie shit. But it's absolutely true. She acts like she is life's victim, and yes she had a rough childhood. But she just won't do anything about it and her attitude gets worse and worse the older she gets. She constantly tells herself that everything sucks and there's no way out of it, that it's too late for her, etc. She's become probably the least happy/satisfied person I know in real life. It's a real bummer and it's really sad. I don't know what to do...
I try to tell her about how you create your reality by the story you tell yourself, and she rolls her eyes like it's some trite hippie shit. But it's absolutely true. She acts like she is life's victim, and yes she had a rough childhood. But she just won't do anything about it and her attitude gets worse and worse the older she gets. She constantly tells herself that everything sucks and there's no way out of it, that it's too late for her, etc. She's become probably the least happy/satisfied person I know in real life. It's a real bummer and it's really sad. I don't know what to do...