Talked to my ex yesterday and made a deal. I didn't threaten her with contested divorce since she gets vindictive when angry, and she called ready to make a deal. She said that if I ship all her stuff back to her at my expense, she will sign all the papers. I feel that since she's not asking for alimony or anything, that it's fine. My wonderful parents actually offered to pay a mover to do it just to get her out of my hair... they're so worried that we're still married, that she's going to do something to fuck with my life. She was trying to say that she needs her stuff to actually arrive before she'll sign the papers and I said no, I need the papers next week before I leave to visit family, so I got her to agree to sign and send them once the mover is paid. Hoping it goes smoothly but the end is in sight.
Yesterday I was almost crippled with anxiety but I started feeling better in the evening after I had talked to my ex and told my mom about things. And my girl came over and just being around her always makes me feel better. Today I started making a list of tasks I need to do and I signed with the lawyer and paid him half the fee. Makes me feel better to be making progress. I also took some phenibut, don't feel it yet but it'll be nice to feel confident and happy for a day or so, I need a little pep right now.
1500 is cheap for a DUI lawyer. Ur gonna be on probation with prolly monthly bill monthly drug test.
Hey Xor sorry to hear about the DWI. We're in the same state so maybe I can help you out since I've had several friends go through this before.
The first offense isn't going to reflect too badly on you given your record and the situation. Just go in there and do what the lawyer says and take the classes. You'll at worst be facing a few months without driving privileges but this depends on the judge. If you get stuck with that terrible punishment take it serious and just camp the house for a few months. All they're going to do is charge you around a thousand dollars to get your full license back. Just don't fuck up again and get another DWI/DUI because they really start screwing you over. You can get at most two charges for it before they start hitting you with jail time.
It isn't really as big of a deal as they'll make it out to be. They can tell the difference between a drunkard and someone that just had a lapse of judgement most of the time. They're mostly concerned with repeat offenders when it comes to this stuff but they aren't above citing you for it because it makes the state a lot of money. This is why I don't go anywhere near my car when drunk even on my own land.
_IF_ they decide to be an ass and make an example of you (which they probably won't given it's your first DUI and you have a lawyer) you'll be facing: classes, probation with urine screens once a month, at most a week in jail. I seriously doubt they'll stick you with jail for the first DWI but probation is possible. It'll be a monitored piss test but you'll know on what date it's coming so you can still mess around a little if you want. Up to you to take the chance on that because if you fail things can get bad for you. Most of the things you talk about liking here aren't tested for so just stay away from pot for 3 months and you should be okay.
Actually I just signed with the best DUI lawyer in town. He said I definitely would be very unlikely to win in court so I should plead guilty, and that I should expect the following, he will work to mitigate the punishments as much as possible:
-48 hours of community service
-1 year suspended license (apparently that's always the minimum if convicted according to him and everything I've read)
-About $850 in court fees plus $100 to get my license back after the year, which is about what you estimated
-Unsupervised probation for a year or two, which means no probation officer, no check ins, no drug screens
I also had my DUI assessment by a drug counselor and got ordered to do 48 hours of group drug/alcohol counseling which I have to pay for, but I'm gonna try to find a place that will take my insurance so it'll just be copays and not the full amount. I was quite honest in my assessment which was probably a mistake. The guy is really cool though. The test they made me take is supposed to cover the entirety of your life, not just recent times. He said that if he hadn't just interviewed me, he'd order me to in-patient rehab just based on my answers (I had to answer the same way I had just talked to him in the interview and it was mainly the opiate addiction related stuff), but that he realizes that stuff was in the past, but he still gave me the highest amount of hours before it starts to be out-patient rehab.
So my car is dead... but I'm thinking that, since I work at home, I'm just not going to have a car until my suspension is up. That way I can save money to buy a better car, and not be paying insurance on a car I don't use (my insurance rate is going to skyrocket). All I would be able to drive to is treatment and church (8)), they won't even let me get groceries during the year suspension, and it costs money to get the limited privilege as well as to lease the breathalyzer thing that lets you start your car. So I'll just end up saving a lot of money this way. My girlfriend is spending most days here with me now, and she's moving in in September, and my awesome friends are all offering me rides.