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Right before I was about to call my ex, I checked my email and her mom finally replied to me. I was pretty excited about that... then I read her reply to my heartfelt multi-paragraph message, and all it says is "I will let her know you emailed". I suppose it makes sense that she would want to be on her daughter's side, but I still feel hurt about it. I outlined the situation and that I felt bad about contacting her but that I felt it was my only recourse remaining before hiring a lawyer and serving her with divorce papers. I was hoping she'd talk to her and get her to understand that it's okay to sign the papers. Disappointing. Also it makes me think she has a problem with me or something, that she wouldn't engage me in conversation at all, even to tell me she isn't going to interfere or something. I love her (my ex's mom), so it hurts. So, now I have to call my ex anyway but she has a heads up.

All I want to do is curl up into a ball and sleep. I feel so fucked. I know it'll get better but god damn. This fucking DUI has turned a stressful period of time into something nearly unbearable.

I guess the mum is always going to take the daughters side, blood is thicker than water and all.

Hope this gets resolved, mate. <3
 
Sorry to hear about the DWI, totaled car and divorce problems, X. :( All will pass..

^I stopped trusting 'noids cause the development outpaces even the theoretical research apparently.. There are plenty beyond the JWH's but that's basically where they lost me, not sure if you implied it's the same for you

YYW that's well tapered already @ the benzo's.. well done! The last bits are hard but you can do it with the right support. :)

I regret not checking in here more often.. while this is a vacation period my life is pretty scattered right now over different projects, work (still unpaid damn it) in different places and orienting on prospects. Am also more on shroomery cause of growing stuff but also wasting time there and I've done that here too. No offense, I just mean by that like hanging around the forum overly long even if it's not actually productive. Talking with you guys is always good though.

I had a great meeting this morning at an institution / project which helps facilitate startups and the guy was interested in my research plans which have a very good affinity for what they focus on (I aim at biomaterials and sustainability, but also medicines from fungi). There will be a selection procedure and you could say plenty could still go wrong... but I think it's really cool especially since I am bad at the business side of things but building my own company, researching biomaterials like from fungus or SCOBY and marketing it somehow would be perfect! And with guidance like that I would have a sort of structure which is essential for me to function in general.
If this moves forward it might bump my project to grow fungi at the art acedemy a bit but I contacted the director immediately and we was really understanding, even offered to help with a potential company. :)

I'm kinda scared though, I am barely reintegrated and am also anxious about possible success. Am still so used to being able to afford letting go of myself on a regular basis which is not healthy but it's a way of coping with doing things in spite of my limitations i guess?
On the other hand in this last year I have already seen I can clean my act up, especially when motivated properly like that. So you see how I will be enjoying this summer very much, who knows it might be my last relatively free one. I also plan on trying mesc again very soon since I haven't taken it in years and was waiting for a turning point career-wise to maximize the purpose of any spiritual guidance it might bless me with.
 
I guess the mum is always going to take the daughters side, blood is thicker than water and all.

Hope this gets resolved, mate. <3
How are the roos doing?
I watched a show on youtube about the roos invading inner city canberra and it makes me wanna go there so bad.
They dont have urban kangaroos in melbourne do they? Thats where i wanna go if i ever get the chance to add aus to the llamaz world tour
Im smokin reefers. I like smokin as an adult and living where i do cause i can just sit out back and smoke cause i dont live outside the city that i live in anymore
Im 3 bowls in since i came out like 15 or 20 mins ago but i only have a shitty tiny glass bowl that gets hot and obviously has a small bowl
Im bout to pack another
I got a goldie b2b kemistry and storm set from like 1996 jungle vibezzzzzzzz shit is so hot.
I am gonna get the metalheadz tattoo ive wanted once i start work. I never got a tattooo before.
 
Hey Xor sorry to hear about the DWI. We're in the same state so maybe I can help you out since I've had several friends go through this before.

The first offense isn't going to reflect too badly on you given your record and the situation. Just go in there and do what the lawyer says and take the classes. You'll at worst be facing a few months without driving privileges but this depends on the judge. If you get stuck with that terrible punishment take it serious and just camp the house for a few months. All they're going to do is charge you around a thousand dollars to get your full license back. Just don't fuck up again and get another DWI/DUI because they really start screwing you over. You can get at most two charges for it before they start hitting you with jail time.

It isn't really as big of a deal as they'll make it out to be. They can tell the difference between a drunkard and someone that just had a lapse of judgement most of the time. They're mostly concerned with repeat offenders when it comes to this stuff but they aren't above citing you for it because it makes the state a lot of money. This is why I don't go anywhere near my car when drunk even on my own land.

_IF_ they decide to be an ass and make an example of you (which they probably won't given it's your first DUI and you have a lawyer) you'll be facing: classes, probation with urine screens once a month, at most a week in jail. I seriously doubt they'll stick you with jail for the first DWI but probation is possible. It'll be a monitored piss test but you'll know on what date it's coming so you can still mess around a little if you want. Up to you to take the chance on that because if you fail things can get bad for you. Most of the things you talk about liking here aren't tested for so just stay away from pot for 3 months and you should be okay.
 
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Talked to my ex yesterday and made a deal. I didn't threaten her with contested divorce since she gets vindictive when angry, and she called ready to make a deal. She said that if I ship all her stuff back to her at my expense, she will sign all the papers. I feel that since she's not asking for alimony or anything, that it's fine. My wonderful parents actually offered to pay a mover to do it just to get her out of my hair... they're so worried that we're still married, that she's going to do something to fuck with my life. She was trying to say that she needs her stuff to actually arrive before she'll sign the papers and I said no, I need the papers next week before I leave to visit family, so I got her to agree to sign and send them once the mover is paid. Hoping it goes smoothly but the end is in sight.

Yesterday I was almost crippled with anxiety but I started feeling better in the evening after I had talked to my ex and told my mom about things. And my girl came over and just being around her always makes me feel better. Today I started making a list of tasks I need to do and I signed with the lawyer and paid him half the fee. Makes me feel better to be making progress. I also took some phenibut, don't feel it yet but it'll be nice to feel confident and happy for a day or so, I need a little pep right now. :)

1500 is cheap for a DUI lawyer. Ur gonna be on probation with prolly monthly bill monthly drug test.

Hey Xor sorry to hear about the DWI. We're in the same state so maybe I can help you out since I've had several friends go through this before.

The first offense isn't going to reflect too badly on you given your record and the situation. Just go in there and do what the lawyer says and take the classes. You'll at worst be facing a few months without driving privileges but this depends on the judge. If you get stuck with that terrible punishment take it serious and just camp the house for a few months. All they're going to do is charge you around a thousand dollars to get your full license back. Just don't fuck up again and get another DWI/DUI because they really start screwing you over. You can get at most two charges for it before they start hitting you with jail time.

It isn't really as big of a deal as they'll make it out to be. They can tell the difference between a drunkard and someone that just had a lapse of judgement most of the time. They're mostly concerned with repeat offenders when it comes to this stuff but they aren't above citing you for it because it makes the state a lot of money. This is why I don't go anywhere near my car when drunk even on my own land.

_IF_ they decide to be an ass and make an example of you (which they probably won't given it's your first DUI and you have a lawyer) you'll be facing: classes, probation with urine screens once a month, at most a week in jail. I seriously doubt they'll stick you with jail for the first DWI but probation is possible. It'll be a monitored piss test but you'll know on what date it's coming so you can still mess around a little if you want. Up to you to take the chance on that because if you fail things can get bad for you. Most of the things you talk about liking here aren't tested for so just stay away from pot for 3 months and you should be okay.

Actually I just signed with the best DUI lawyer in town. He said I definitely would be very unlikely to win in court so I should plead guilty, and that I should expect the following, he will work to mitigate the punishments as much as possible:

-48 hours of community service
-1 year suspended license (apparently that's always the minimum if convicted according to him and everything I've read)
-About $850 in court fees plus $100 to get my license back after the year, which is about what you estimated
-Unsupervised probation for a year or two, which means no probation officer, no check ins, no drug screens

I also had my DUI assessment by a drug counselor and got ordered to do 48 hours of group drug/alcohol counseling which I have to pay for, but I'm gonna try to find a place that will take my insurance so it'll just be copays and not the full amount. I was quite honest in my assessment which was probably a mistake. The guy is really cool though. The test they made me take is supposed to cover the entirety of your life, not just recent times. He said that if he hadn't just interviewed me, he'd order me to in-patient rehab just based on my answers (I had to answer the same way I had just talked to him in the interview and it was mainly the opiate addiction related stuff), but that he realizes that stuff was in the past, but he still gave me the highest amount of hours before it starts to be out-patient rehab. :\

So my car is dead... but I'm thinking that, since I work at home, I'm just not going to have a car until my suspension is up. That way I can save money to buy a better car, and not be paying insurance on a car I don't use (my insurance rate is going to skyrocket). All I would be able to drive to is treatment and church (8)), they won't even let me get groceries during the year suspension, and it costs money to get the limited privilege as well as to lease the breathalyzer thing that lets you start your car. So I'll just end up saving a lot of money this way. My girlfriend is spending most days here with me now, and she's moving in in September, and my awesome friends are all offering me rides.
 
It's partly the phenibut talking, but I feel much better today. I'm going to take this opportunity to get healthier again. No alcohol, no tobacco products (haven't had any cigs or dip since the accident, except one cigarette someone rolled for me 2 days ago), no stimulants. Just weed and occasional psychedelics, like it should be. I'm also gonna go to the gym again today after work, and start doing that regularly again. I think in the future, looking back, this will be something I consider a blessing in disguise, a much-needed event to catch myself. I've been thinking I need to cut down my vices and be healthier for quite a while now.
 
Good call man, sounds like you're pointing yourself in the right direction. I like that you're committing to the gym, getting lots of physical exercise is such a cornerstone to health imo. We're generally so lazy in our comfy society cause it's just so easy to not be active, but we cheat ourselves of so much quality in life by staying home on the couch or whatever. I've been doing a ton of running lately and it feels so good, my whole life is better because of it. I've shed about 20lbs of fat in the last 2-3 years and gotten faster stronger and happier.

Hope you can continue to make time for music!
 
Yeah, I was hitting the gym very regularly for years after I did ibogaine, totally transformed my body. But I've been slacking for a couple of years now and I'm in way worse shape than I was then. I'm really looking forward to getting back in shape, it feels so good in every way,

This is going to end up being the year where Xorkoth gets some chronic stresses off his plate. :) I'm thinking about employing a divorce lawyer, $500 flat fee for no-fault divorce, but I can be 100% sure everything will be good. I called one today, and he said it seems like I have some misinformation, and that if she doesn't return the property settlement agreement I can still file, which will protect me from her filing by surprise in Illinois after July 26th which is what I'm mainly afraid of (as she would get half of everything I own and have worked for).

It boggles my mind though... she's so nuts. The same thing is happening right now that has always happened with her. All the negative things she does, and all the negative things in her personality, she projects onto others and convinces herself everyone else has the problem. She's trying to frame this like I'm being ridiculous and demanding for trying to push this stuff through, for trying to simply get her to sign off on a mortgage refinance. She got me to agree to pay to move all her stuff to her... she literally said to me "I don't know why you think it's my responsibility to get my stuff". Uh... why isn't it your responsibility? It's YOUR stuff. YOU left it here. You, in fact, broke up with me. You told one of my best friends you had feelings for him. You did this shit. But whatever, I'll pay to move her shit if it gets her out of my life forever. Can't fucking WAIT for that day. I'm gonna have a divorce party! And once it's all signed, if she ever asks me for anything again, my response will be "fuck off".

One thing that sucks is that a lot of my furniture is hers. Fortunately not my beds or couch, but over half the chairs, and my kitchen table. And my piano. I think of it as mine now but it's hers. That'll be the worst thing to give up, but it's in kinda bad shape, like 12 of the keys won't make sound, the foot pedal is messed up and the speakers are messed up. So I'll just get my own that isn't fucked up and it'll be a net positive. I'll miss that instrument though.

Man I feel really good right now. Phenibut is so nice. I hope I can carry this forward because I've been really, really anxious lately. But I'm clearing stuff off my plate one by one. And getting used to the DWI stuff and not driving. It's a lot but I just need to breathe through it and keep moving. It's been nice having a day where I feel confident and good, it's so much easier to get things done.
 
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One thing that sucks is that a lot of my furniture is hers. Fortunately not my beds or couch, but over half the chairs, and my kitchen table. And my piano. I think of it as mine now but it's hers. That'll be the worst thing to give up, but it's in kinda bad shape, like 12 of the keys won't make sound, the foot pedal is messed up and the speakers are messed up. So I'll just get my own that isn't fucked up and it'll be a net positive. I'll miss that instrument though.

In my city there are tons of free, nice pianos on craigslist, as long as you're willing to move it. I think you can move a piano yourself with the right dollies a truck and some homies, no need to hire expensive piano movers.
 
In my city there are tons of free, nice pianos on craigslist, as long as you're willing to move it. I think you can move a piano yourself with the right dollies a truck and some homies, no need to hire expensive piano movers.

Huh crazy. Well I'm looking more for an electric piano with fully weighted keys. But I'm open to a real piano, too.

Nixiam has returned! Thanks buddy.
 
You can have my little piano though C3 does not work :\

Desperately need to either fix or discard this yellowed key beast.
 
I'd love your piano but I think shipping costs would be exorbitant. =D

Nah, I'll probably take a grand or something out of my mortgage refinance and buy a nice used one.
 
Hey man sorry to give you misleading information thinking back on what my friend went through you're right. The first one was a year without a license and the second time is when the urine screens started.

I'm not much for alcohol myself so it has never been a problem but I've driven drunk before, on LSD through the middle of your fine city on New Years Eve as all the music halls let out, on opioids/benzos with no memory, even on a third plat. DMX trip once. I've managed to get really lucky and now I know better than to touch my car when I'm on drugs because I've seen how much it screwed over my friends. I'm the guy people trust even when I'm tripping hard so I have to watch that they don't talk me into doing something stupid. I've been known to take a chance when I want breakfast after a night of being in the clouds. ;)

I'd go insane without my car because the need for speed was definitely the first high/addiction I experienced. Should be dead from all the risks I've taken with driving and I'm not talking about drugs I'm talking about being 100% sober and riding/driving on the limit. I actually went through a suicidal stage in my teens where I went as fast as I could hoping to lose control but never managed to do it. I always managed to correct and could just find more speed in the corners. I blame/thank my Dad for all that skill.

We're here for you bro and you've got the right idea. You're better off than most because you don't need the car for work. Just camp that house and take some time for yourself and the girlfriend and think of it like a mini-vacation from life. At the end of this you'll be driving again and you'll find another car to fall in love with. I know the pain of losing your favorite, you'll always remember it fondly but eventually you'll find another one you like just as much if not more. :)
 
Thanks man, I appreciate it. :) I'm feeling better as everything sinks in. Not owning a car/paying for gas/paying for insurance/property tax/registration/car repairs for a year will be cool. Last night I had a dream that I was hanging out with some friends, my oldest friend and some guy who isn't a real person but was my friend in the dream, and we were all drunk. I was driving my car, and then asked him if he could drive because I thought it was a bad idea, but in reality it was a bad idea for him too. He was driving fine while on the road, but every time he tried to park or something he was all over the place. We were almost to my house and then he decided to pull over for some reason, I was like dude, keep going! He started to keep going again and then, way back, there were police lights. I was like oh no, oh no... this friend was like dude, this is your car and you asked me to drive, I'm gonna tell him you were driving. I was like fuck, fuck! Then the cop got out of his car and started walking up, and this friend gritted his teeth and sped off. We were like oh shit dude, what are you doing?? But he actually left the cop in the dust. We pulled onto my street and it was different than normal, there were a bunch of houses and people parked and there was like a block party going on or something. We pulled into a parking lot, I guess it was supposed to be my house but there were other cars there. I was so scared we would see the cop, but when we turned, he wasn't even in sight. We turned the car around so the license plate wouldn't be visible and got out and went inside. After a few minutes I heard a loud pounding at the door and saw the cop there, but then no one answered and he got back in his car and left. Then I woke up and was like... whew...

In a short bit I'm gonna make an appointment with a divorce lawyer who was nice enough to talk to me extendedly yesterday. Gonna pay him $500 to handle my divorce. Should get my ex to cave and sign the stuff, if not, I've got a lawyer. Either way I won't be caught after July 26th getting filed against in Illinois by surprise and losing half of everything I own and have worked for to that bitch. Can't believe her nerve. I was telling stories last night to my girlfriend about how it was with her and she was horrified... the more time that goes on the more I realize how fucked up that was. A few of my trip reports I have re-read and some of the stuff I was describing and the way I was rationalizing it make me sick. She gradually turned me into a pathetic shell of a man. And now she tries to act like I'm being unreasonable, to want her to approve my mortgage refinance and get the divorce we have agreed upon (at least she's been telling me she agrees) for 4 and a half years? Get the fuck outta here. Sign this shit, or lawyer up. :)
 
pictures from my vacation to the Upper Peninsula... mostly of Tahquamenon Falls. a bit of Macinaw City, including my tour of the decommissioned icebreaker ship museum... NSFW for size

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the cute little out of the way hotel we stayed at:

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Tahquamenon Falls:

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apparently stone stacking is a thing there:

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St. Ignace (city on the north end of the Mackinac Bridge):

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we climbed way up HERE:

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bonus picture:

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I enjoyed living vicariously through your photos pharm.

I am drunk.

Took the missus out for a night with some friends. Drove with the top down everywhere. She trusts me so much I realized.

In a strange place in life. At the point of great transition or great failure.
 
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