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Most of the "chill" girls I've known, and sometimes fallen for, ended up being like "female players". I'm like "Oh sweet they're all laid back like a dude, and oh shit they just played my ass like a stereotypical dude"
 
Swerlz said:
Maybe back in high school lol

I have plenty of female friends. If they act like a clown, then im out. But most of them are chill as can be.
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im talking on a more deep level.
Its like ingrained in there DNA.

ive been out of high school for 7 years now and girls got older but not much different.
In high school i actually had a lot more girl friends than i do now.

Its just easier to be friends with guys.
 
CatfishRivers said:
to take it a step further... I usually end up feeling that dogs (actual canines not bitches) are even better friends than people even.
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With my dogs the bitch is just as friendly.
Though it may just still be puppy syndrome.

but she is definately more down to cuddle and shower me with kisses than the older, boy dog.

EDIT: the boy dog is more loyal and much smarter though.
i like haveing both for the
balance.
 
Delsyd said:
With my dogs the bitch is just as friendly.
Though it may just still be puppy syndrome.

but she is definately more down to cuddle and shower me with kisses than the older, boy dog.

EDIT: the boy dog is more loyal and much smarter though.
i like haveing both for the
balance.
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my girl dog acts aloof and is more cat like than dog like, and is only interested in me when it's supper time lol

the two boy dogs are definitely more fun and they enjoy the outdoors a lot more than the girl...she loves the pool tho and the boys won't touch the water...one of the boy dogs tho rises above them all in terms of loyalty. He's the type that will come flying out of nowhere to throw himself between me and danger. He's the best. Just thinking about him warms my heart :) Just like if I had a son covered in fur lol
 
I was about to quit weed today, but I woke up in a shitty mood and that blew it off. I need to not let that happen. No excuses!

I'm quitting weed partially to get my communication skills back up to par. I would love to investigate this influx of beautiful women on campus. I haven't gotten any action or really meet any cool since I've been at school and that's very disappointing. I'd love to meet a cool chick, be it for a friendship relationship or for something a little bit more romantic. I'd rather have the latter.

I not sure how to even approach girls that I find attractive. fuck if I know what to say. I don't really understand social protocol, or the fact that social interaction is so fucking random. :|
 
Delsyd said:
thats okay because IMHO girls suck for the most part.

I mean, i love having a gf. Its great to have a companion in life, a person to make love to and care for, and have those feelings resiprocated.
And girls are obviously sexy.

But i cant seem to be friends with girls. The way their mind works is too different from the way mine does.
Being friends with girls involves drama, bitchiness, irrational thoughts, PMS.
Guys are usually much more laid back.

Alot of girls i know also prefer to have boys as friends for pretty much the same reasons i listed above.
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Yeah, my wife has mostly only been friends with guys for these reasons through her life. It seems to me that there are two main types of girls: the ones who don't "get" guys at all and mostly are friends with girls and they're all into the drama of everything watching them it's like they're in relationships with each other minus the sex, or they're the type that has a lot of guy friends and isn't into drama. Although to most males, any female at all appears to be into drama, of either type. =D

It's pretty awesome to have a female companion (or rather a companion of the opposite sex) for a lot of reasons. Mostly I think it's a yin-yang sort of thing... males have some great qualities and some not so great ones and females as well, but the two combined in a healthy relationship sort of create a better, more functional unit and fill in each others' spaces. The right match does this anyway (not without lots of struggle too though... it's also kind of a clash of opposites).

Relationships! :D I think they're probably always intense with plenty of moments where you're like, ahh! Why the fuck am I putting myself through this?? But in the end I find it's mostly ego clashes and if you can work with it with selfless ideas in mind, such as lifting you both up into better people through each others' strengths, then they're exactly what you need. In the wrong one, you tend to use each others' weaknesses as prey for your insecurities or to enable yourself to act in unhealthy ways.

nearjat said:
Most of the "chill" girls I've known, and sometimes fallen for, ended up being like "female players". I'm like "Oh sweet they're all laid back like a dude, and oh shit they just played my ass like a stereotypical dude"
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Yeah, I'm guessing when you get a little older things will look better. :) You're more mature than most people your age and even then you're still a kid... most of the people around you just aren't in the right place to know how to have a relationship. That's why most high school and earlier relationships just don't work... because you don't know how to find what you really need and probably have no idea how to provide someone else with what they need. I look back on high school relationships (I went out with a girl for 2 years in high school) as practice, like when you're in grade school and you have a "girlfriend" and you hold hands and walk down the hall and talked on the phone a couple of times. Except on a much more mature scale than that. But it's still a bunch of kids playing in the sandbox, essentially. :)

In case that sounded condescending or anything, it was supposed to be encouraging. :) You're transitioning out of the sandbox now and I think you'll quickly start noticing that about the people around you as well.
 
nearjat said:
You hit it right on the head. Fucking going to treatment makes it very hard to be comfortable using any drugs... even in a responsible manner. It was very helpful and I learned a lot about myself but it really is a thorough brainwashing.
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That's basically how I felt about addiction treatment when I went, the brainwashing line specifically. It's basically designed to be a replacement for your drug habit, because if you follow what they say exactly it takes up your whole life. I don't see how the strict abstinence from ALL drugs approach is going to work in every situation. I also saw alot of false humour and judgment in my councilor, which from what I read in the Dark Side is very indicative of the system in general.

I hated how you couldn't talk about the positives of drugs, or the spiritually enlightening aspects of psychedelics without it being shot down as a "triggering" thought. You just eventually find yourself saying whatever gets you out of that situation and back into your life where you can pursue whatever you want. If it wasn't for mental strength and positivity I developed from psychedelics and integrating the experiences I doubt I would have been able to resist the pull to lapse into a very fake, stale, and inauthentic existence.

I don't know if that's what you meant by that comment, but it brought out some ideas I've been cooking up in my head lately. Those sorts of settings can make you think your drug use is something to be ashamed of, and should be hidden from any future partners. Not necessarily the case, in fact stopping and going to seek whatever help you can get is a great quality and very attractive to the right people. Just remember to seek the middle path and never just live you're life a certain way because someone tells you it's the best way. Good luck looking for whatever you're seeking <3
 
Delsyd said:
yeh, dont you wish you could just come up to a chic, sniff her ass, and if its all rosey then mount her and go at it.
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Sounds like a fun world. :D

So I'm about to go chill some and watch some apparently really good string player(s) downtown. Yay for Fridays! :)
 
Delsyd said:
im talking on a more deep level.
Its like ingrained in there DNA.

ive been out of high school for 7 years now and girls got older but not much different.
In high school i actually had a lot more girl friends than i do now.

Its just easier to be friends with guys.
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I totally agree. It was easier back then, but now it's almost discovering a new species, trying to figure them out (which damn near fucking impossible)

With guys it's easier to relate to stuff.

I wholeheartedly agree with you, Del
 
General Patton said:
That's basically how I felt about addiction treatment when I went, the brainwashing line specifically. It's basically designed to be a replacement for your drug habit, because if you follow what they say exactly it takes up your whole life. I don't see how the strict abstinence from ALL drugs approach is going to work in every situation. I also saw alot of false humour and judgment in my councilor, which from what I read in the Dark Side is very indicative of the system in general.

I hated how you couldn't talk about the positives of drugs, or the spiritually enlightening aspects of psychedelics without it being shot down as a "triggering" thought. You just eventually find yourself saying whatever gets you out of that situation and back into your life where you can pursue whatever you want. If it wasn't for mental strength and positivity I developed from psychedelics and integrating the experiences I doubt I would have been able to resist the pull to lapse into a very fake, stale, and inauthentic existence.

I don't know if that's what you meant by that comment, but it brought out some ideas I've been cooking up in my head lately. Those sorts of settings can make you think your drug use is something to be ashamed of, and should be hidden from any future partners. Not necessarily the case, in fact stopping and going to seek whatever help you can get is a great quality and very attractive to the right people. Just remember to seek the middle path and never just live you're life a certain way because someone tells you it's the best way. Good luck looking for whatever you're seeking <3
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Awesome post! <3
 
Cloudy said:
Awesome post! <3
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Thanks, I remember some of the best advice anyone ever gave me was actually a high-school teacher who said: "As soon as someone says, 'I think you should...' STOP listening to that person" Obviously meant to be taken semi-seriously, but I mean that was really, really helpful in some ways!

Just take the positive points out of what someone is telling you, consider the negatives, and try not to let you're ego take hold... and feel free to ignore what I'm saying if it doesn't apply to you ;)
 
About the rehab businses --

It definitely is a bit of brainwashing. There is a bit of compromising of the ego and the individual free will, but, see, that's part and parcel with what the agenda of drug treatment is -- which is to challenge entrenched behaviors and characteristics that are based in the ego. And the drug-addicted individual's free will relative to his substance of choice is, to say the least, already compromised, and with negative consequences. If sobriety is a better end for that individual, it's a case of the ends justifying the means.

Same story with involuntary psychiatric treatment for those who do not realize that they are mentally ill.

To just say that treatment is brainwashing because it involves a repatterning of your thought patterns and values might be literally true but it misses the point and the real reality of those who are in need of treatment. Unfortunately, not everyone in treatment needs to be there; it is often foisted upon people based on legal,social,economic and other pressures other than the pressures of genuinely having a drug proble mthat is destroying your life.
 
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