Hi all, new to the forum, hopefully in right place....
I've been with my partner for 6yrs now and for the first 4 odd yrs he's kept his drug habit very hidden. He's a great liar, hides things well and has plenty
excuses for everything. He's been on heroin for many yrs, not exactly sure how many. I still don't know whole story. We now have a 5wk old son and he keeps telling me he wants to change but i'm not seeing any changes. He loves his son and wants to give him the best. It seems his problem is oposite to most. When things between us are great, no fights, everything easy, that's when he freaks out and gets anxiety and runs to heroin. I've tried a lot of different things to get him to quit and he says he wants to, he has a lot of debt and is usually between homes. We can't live together as he just stuffs things when they're good, when bad, he just stays away. So i can't win either way. He's on suboxone, but seems he can take both within hours. I don't understand how. His dr knows he not clean, keeps writing scripts and hopes he'll stop. I think he's been on sub for about 6-7yrs if not more. He won't see counselling, went to NA for a bit, said it wasn't helping him. He has a great job and so far they are clueless. When he gets paid he's broke by the end of the day. Just last wk he's put me in charge of his money, but he's done similar in the past, but never lasts cos once he has his pay he gets nasty if i don't give him his money.
I don't know what to do. I love him and he's a very good person with a huge heart but these evil drugs are making him do things he normally wouldn't. I know if he quits it will be a struggle for life. Do i keep trying? He's hit many bottoms and i stupidly help him all the time as i can't watch him go hungry. I just want it all to end. I just want a normal life. Will i ever have that with him?
Thanks for reading...
I've been with my partner for 6yrs now and for the first 4 odd yrs he's kept his drug habit very hidden. He's a great liar, hides things well and has plenty
excuses for everything. He's been on heroin for many yrs, not exactly sure how many. I still don't know whole story. We now have a 5wk old son and he keeps telling me he wants to change but i'm not seeing any changes. He loves his son and wants to give him the best. It seems his problem is oposite to most. When things between us are great, no fights, everything easy, that's when he freaks out and gets anxiety and runs to heroin. I've tried a lot of different things to get him to quit and he says he wants to, he has a lot of debt and is usually between homes. We can't live together as he just stuffs things when they're good, when bad, he just stays away. So i can't win either way. He's on suboxone, but seems he can take both within hours. I don't understand how. His dr knows he not clean, keeps writing scripts and hopes he'll stop. I think he's been on sub for about 6-7yrs if not more. He won't see counselling, went to NA for a bit, said it wasn't helping him. He has a great job and so far they are clueless. When he gets paid he's broke by the end of the day. Just last wk he's put me in charge of his money, but he's done similar in the past, but never lasts cos once he has his pay he gets nasty if i don't give him his money.
I don't know what to do. I love him and he's a very good person with a huge heart but these evil drugs are making him do things he normally wouldn't. I know if he quits it will be a struggle for life. Do i keep trying? He's hit many bottoms and i stupidly help him all the time as i can't watch him go hungry. I just want it all to end. I just want a normal life. Will i ever have that with him?
Thanks for reading...