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Online Dating for the Doper

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nachomommasfumanch

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So I have been trying to meet a FWB online but it's proved to be much more difficult than I anticipated. My thing is that I want to get high and then immediately engage in sex, but I absolutely would want the other party to be aware of and ok with my drug use. Of course this isn't something you can announce on really any website freely, and once communication happens with a particular individual as soon as I let them know I use they run for the hills...any suggestions for me?
 
It might just take trial and error before you meet someone who wants to do both. Finding someone who is mainly interested in sex but also seems open about life in general seems to be the first thing you should be looking for. Once you meet the person, then see if they are okay with the drug part of things.
 
Yeah I agree with the trial and error. Don't publicly announce, but maybe subtle hints on your page? I'd talk to them a lot through private messages to get to know them and their views on it better.
 
I think it would depend on what you want to do. If I knew someone who wanted to let's say do LSD, shrooms, then OK, I'm interested, but if the guy wanted to shove a needle in his arm and do heroin..uhhh yeah, no.
 
lol i highly doubt anyone shooting heroin would be interested in sex afterwards. I'd think the OP is referring to meth or another stimulant, which of course makes sex much better. I think most people would be a bit sketched out if someone asked them if they did drugs over the internet or not but in person it's a whole different story and i think many more people would be okay with it. If stimulants are your thing then i would just get coke, i highly doubt any random girl who is looking for sex on the internet is going to turn down coke or not be cool with it.
 
I think I seen on the DRUGS INC. Meth episode the gay guys use the term "party and play" to let the others know they wanna do meth and fuck.

that may just be a gay community thing, since their hookups are a lot easier, but maybe just say that you wanna have a "pregame party" or something dumb like that.

Then you dont have to subtly work it in.It'd be an immediate notification of your intentions. You get less contacts, im sure, but the ones you do get will have a higher success rate I bet
 
Absolutely would have to meet in person first and feel out the mood. If some stranger that I never met in person propositioned me with sex and drugs that would be a no. If I met the guy and we hit it off, then I would probably say yes to E or maybe coke on occassion but not everytime. No needles for sure, I am phobic of that.
 
ugh, i am also in the same predicament. i had/kinda have (in process of breaking off) a great, awesome, fantastic FWB who we use together, and then have some amazingly kick ass sex, then some good chats, and off with the day.

I need a new one, and it's realllllly hard to find. First of all, I'm too picky now, and secondly, the 'typical' tweaker kinda dudes/people are ones that I don't really dig on. So when I make an ad indicating somebody who 'likes to spin' or 'is friendly with tina' I get either zilch/nada/nothing or some weird goofy tweakery fuckers.

ARGHHHH!
 
I wish I could find a girl who just wanted to fuck, do drugs, and then go about our days lol!! Sadly, I have'nt had something like that in a long long time. :(
 
I don't know if it's still here (I have a strong suspicion it's been done away with), but there used to be a state/regional roll call thread on BL. I didn't use it for "hookups," but considering this is BL, we did have a bit of open-mindedness in common...
 
shLong420 said:
I think I seen on the DRUGS INC. Meth episode the gay guys use the term "party and play" to let the others know they wanna do meth and fuck.

that may just be a gay community thing, since their hookups are a lot easier, but maybe just say that you wanna have a "pregame party" or something dumb like that.

Then you dont have to subtly work it in.It'd be an immediate notification of your intentions. You get less contacts, im sure, but the ones you do get will have a higher success rate I bet
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Normally listed as PNP or 'chem friendly' - PNP seems to give people the impression that is Purely meth sex -so people also use 'chem friendly' include smokers, rollers, trippers, ket users. It really depends on the person and their preferred DOC - just make sure that you discuss your drug of choice before hooking up.

The other problem with 'some' of the gay PNP'ers they also want unsafe sex. A lot of party guys don't really see HIV as that much of a problem!
 
There's lots of chicks who like to watch sports on online dating. Online dating is extremely wack IME. You'll meet many girls with a unique combination of ultra lameness combined with shadiness. good luck...
 
Lysis said:
I think it would depend on what you want to do. If I knew someone who wanted to let's say do LSD, shrooms, then OK, I'm interested, but if the guy wanted to shove a needle in his arm and do heroin..uhhh yeah, no.
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What if the guy was really rich, well to do, charming, good looking, and has pain issues hence IV heroin? Versus a typical dirty broke hippy (who happens to be not as good looking nor as charming as the heroin user)?
 
^ Noooooo. Absolutely no IV users for me. Total turnoff and I don't want diseases. IV users are just that one step prior to death or rehab. I don't need that shit in my life.
 
escapingwonderland said:
Absolutely would have to meet in person first and feel out the mood. If some stranger that I never met in person propositioned me with sex and drugs that would be a no.
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i would have to agree here. HAHAHA oh my god, what was i propositioned with once? all i remember is it was as funny as cough syrup, some kind of wanna be pNper. which i was going to suggest you type in whatever dating site you want to use, which you may want to use adult friend finder. pNp is not just for gays, i have seen girls put that in okcupid pages (i search for fucked up shit sometimes for amusement. like "juggalos") anyway, meth is probably a bad way to go but also this pNp thing seems like they only for sure way to find someone like that online and they are likely to be gross. because, what? are you just expecting to not to get to know this person at all? even in messaging them online, are you just like "oh they look hot, i'll ask them to meet up and get high and fuck?" because that's gross. but if you can actually engage someone, you might eventually find someone interested in doing that later on down the line after some messages. but probably not meth if the girl is...i don't know. i have an aversion to meth and i've never done it but i've done heroin. so i won't say anything, but not even once?

i remembered what is was. it was adderral. someone was literally like, "i have bunch of adderral, do you want to fuck me and my friend". i had never had a conversation with this person. it was both disgusting and hilarious. if he finds someone desperate enough to do that just for the adderral, they probably already have at least herpes anyway. i mean, shit. adderral? i would expect even strippers to at least need cocaine, but i can't dance, so. anyway, i find the idea of having sex with anyone for drugs beyond liking them as a person kind of gross. no matter what the drug.
 
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Lysis said:
^ Noooooo. Absolutely no IV users for me. Total turnoff and I don't want diseases. IV users are just that one step prior to death or rehab. I don't need that shit in my life.
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I disagree with this. While it's true that there are a lot of IV users that are hardcore addicts and living on the streets, it's definitely not the case of all IV users. I've been using opiates for 2 years now due to pain issues as well an endorphin deficiency (symptoms include depression, lack of emotion, fatigue). Opiates have changed my life completely, without them I wouldn't be working two jobs and in school like I am now. And before I would go days without even leaving the house.. It was just no way to live. But before I switched to methadone I was IVing because my tolerance was so high at that point and dope was all that was around. I never shot up with anyone much less shared needles and I exercised daily, took vitamins, and ate really healthy just like I do now. No one in a million years would ever guess that I used drugs or shot up, I'm an assistant manager at one job and a sales associate at a clothing store as well. So I don't think you should stereotype all IV users like that though it's your choice whether or not you want to date someone who uses drugs.
 
It's your choice not to date them but you shouldn't be stereotyping IV users, it's offensive. Especially since you're a moderator on a drug site. Nice.
 
Right, because IV users are typically the most honest, loyal and disease-free folk. There is no point in someone who is not a junkie to get involved with someone like that. I don't care how charming they appear to be. On the inside and in reality, they are one step from rehab or death, and I guarantee you that a needle user cares more about the drug than anything else in their lives. No reason to pull yourself down into their rut.

Good for you for escaping that mentality, but I would bet my house that when you were IVing and using, you were indeed the stereotype.
 
its one thing to be a drug addict but its quite another to IV.

the issue is that the mind of an IV user is all about instant gratification. my logic is that its not the drug thats the problem- its your pattern of use, route of admin, dosage.

for example. i drank poppy tea daily when i had toothache this year. it was easy to come off as i tapered it slowly. i was able to go to work and function well. there is no massive rush from drinking teas. thats partly why coca tea although nice is something i have lying around the house and i can resist it for ages and have it once in a while or use it for school work/concentration. bit different from snorting cocaine even though the same drug in the same dose. speed of onset is linked directly to destructive addiction.

as for the op- bang them a few times and if they are hooked on your sexual skills then become more open about your drugs, but be prepared for people to react like low level idiots...
 
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