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not attracted to my 'girlfriend'.

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The longer you keep this up, the more shes going to get hurt in the future and less likely a friendship will be salvageable. Seriously GTFO of the relationship now if you really care about yourself and her. The relationship looks like a disaster from our point of veiw, and its clear you really have no desire to be in the relationship.

Also, according to most state laws, you can't be immediately kicked out of your house, so you should have time to make sure you have some money and can find a place to move to.

Seriously GTFO of the relationship.

Its not your responsibility if she starts cutting herself, or engage in distructive behaviors if you break it off. You can't put that on yourself, and she has to take responsibility for her own actions. She clearly is stuck on you to the point where your the only thing in her life. You say she doesn't hang out with her friends, she doesn't do really anything like hobbie that you can tell, she's letting her health go down the drain, etc. That is all her fault. That is all problems she needs to fix if she wants to even have a successful relationship. Who knows, maybe if you break it off with her, she'll actually start getting her life back together at some point, meaning you might do her a favor in the end.
 
I thought this post was trolling at first :\

c'mon man.... let the girl down gently and get out of her living space - pronto.

only real logical move here I'd say...
 
You want to end it with her but you don't want to hurt her feelings?
You have to leave her with all the power. And it's not easy to do. What I suggest is getting romantic with her, really sell it that you're into her too, and at the crucial moment when you're in bed together you need to shit yourself. Like actually shit all through the sheets. Get really embarrassed and loud and defensive about it, then get the hell out of there. Cut all contact for a few weeks, over which time she will make like it's ok and she wants to see you, but use this to your advantage and give her space. She will just assume you're feeling terrible about the sheets. Eventually you can see her and continue the friendship, which you may even enjoy, but by acting weird and hurt by your past she will never venture to share her feelings with you again.

Ah the old 'soil the sheets' technique. Do it OP, nothing works better than a turd in a bed sheet.
 
Hate to sound vain. But me personally, if there is no "physical" attraction, then I certainly cannot be with that woman. I am kinda weird. If I were to be dating a girl who is really fat, or really ugly, and I were to walk into a restaurant, people would be staring at me and thinking, "what the fuck is this guy doing with this walking piece of hot trash." Maybe I am vain, or maybe I am just observant, you can decide; but i cannot live with this kind of judgment on a daily basis from people.

And the way I know this, is because I have this REALLY fat girl (female) friend who is attracted to me, and whenever I go out to get some food, people ALWAYS think we are dating. And people fucking STARE at me while I eat, as if they are in awe, or shocked. And this doesn't happen to me at all when I am with my real girlfriend, who is a normal weight, and is quite an attractive young lady (cute as hell, really). You would think people would be staring MORE if there was a hawt girl at the dinner table. But if its a whale, and a semi-decent looking guy, appearing to be "dating" eachother, then that is just not acceptable I guess.

But this still doesn't discuss the fact that I would be repulsed to sleep with someone like this. I'm sorry, I care too much about my weight, and what I eat, to ever be able to respect someone who doesn't care about themselves, specifically, morbidly obese people.

My girlfriend has a little bit of a tummy, when she sits down, but by no means is she obese. She is the most beautiful woman in my eyes. But, then again, shes not morbidly obese and unattractive.
 
And to answer your question, I think you know what you need to do.

Sit her down, and just EXPLAIN to her how you feel (not about the teeth and the fat thing of course).

Or, make something up; say that you are just not ready for a relationship, and that you just want to stay friends.

Hopefully she wont go all fucking vampire on your ass.

And dude, you can't feel responsible for her "relapse" on "cutting" if you "dump" her. You need to live and let live. You are not responsible for her actions. That is, unless you continue to stay with this chick for longer and play her heart. Than you have to take a little more blame for your actions I'd suppose.

The sooner the better my friend, the sooner the better.
 
Or just blow you.

Use your imagination!

The man has a point! You don't wanna end up on the street! Watch some porn to get your mind right for the ordeal ahead and....Get ta work son!!!
OP, I love your honesty, fuckin' beautiful!
She licks her teeth? Sounds like tweaker shit! And yet she's on the heavy side?!
No offense ladies, I love me some big asses!
 
b4rd, does seem somewhat vain on your part that you can't even be seen with a fat girl in public in case people think you're dating and I'm convinced no one stares at you that much (really can't be that interesting), but whatever...
In any case it's certain a relationship can't work out without mutual attraction and as has been said many times here, OP the sooner you get out, the better. You're just pushing back something that's going to need to be done eventually anyway so why continue to rest precious time now?
 
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