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not attracted to my 'girlfriend'.

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Pagey said:
Dude I barely even get the point of this thread! You're not attracted to her, you don't feel good when you're around her, you just globally don't much seem to like her...why are you with her? Just break it off already! Tell her you're sorry but you just don't think this sort of relationship between you guys is gonna work out or something.
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Well, the guy needs shelter. The girl needs him. He does not want. That's the point, if I'm not mistaken.

DeathDomokun said:
You know what to do...
*licks teeth*
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I lold.
 
^ That and this whole thread
Really, D's?

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Break up with her now. You are wasting this part of your life by being with her. Life doesn't last forever. Go out and make a new life for yourself even if it takes some time.
 
I'm curious...how does SHE see the relationship? Does she introduce you around as her boyfriend? Is she in love with you?
Bottom line...you are using her and that's not right. Obviously you feel enough for her to not want to hurt her feelings but don't lead her on. And after you tell her that you don't see her like that...find somewhere else to live. If she really does love you she is going to take encouragement from every little thing you say or do.
But don't lie to her or lead her on anymore. She deserves better from you than that. She's been a friend to you.
 
motherofearth said:
Tell her you don't like to piss in your well, ie fuck your roommates. She'll understand.
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She may not take it so well if they've already had relations and sleep together. OP, do you have your own room? Not trying to pry but it would be easier to spend more time alone in your room. Otherwise, it's going to be awkward just cutting her off.
 
Thanks for the responses guys, I told her last night that I want to take things REALLY slow because of my last relationship i was in(told her sad story about the breakup etcetc). so should buy me enough time to figure out something different, and somewhere else to live.
I don't know what it is about this chick.
The thing that bothers me is that she's madly in love with me. when I say in love i really mean it, she cooks for me, cleans, does my laundry, etcetc. so thats not the bad thing, the thing thats bad like i mentioned before is she's not physically attractive.. i mean she would be a good house mom/wive, but not for me.. she never goes out with her 'friends', she stays home doing god knows what(she has no internet), so i'm pretty much the only 1 in her life. well besides her family, i rarely see her spending time with them. All her sisters are fucking hot, like holy shit hot. but when i look at my 'girlfriend' i wonder what the fuck happend to her, she must have gotten more of daddys genes then her mom. hell even her mom looks better then this chick.
the thing that annoys me other then the teeth licking and loud nasily breathing is she acts like 'Bella" from the movie Twilight. she's so obbsesed with that movie it's not even funny. minus all the edward/%acob posters.
it's always my luck that this shit happens. i fail in love with the wrong person.
 
^ i think it's too bad that you chose to continue lying to her. i can only see that making this end more terribly than if you just manned up and told her how you really felt...

alasdair
 
alasdairm said:
^ i think it's too bad that you chose to continue lying to her. i can only see that making this end more terribly than if you just manned up and told her how you really felt...

alasdair
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She's a really good friend, I've known her since 2nd grade. I want to keep our relationship 'friends' instead of boyfriend girlfriend. I think she got the impression of when i moved in with her that we were automatically going out, and when the time comes I'll let her know how I really feel.
 
When you said you wanted to take it slow, that definitely indicates that it's going to be a relationship in the future.
You have to tell her NOW.

It is OK not to be attracted to her but still like her as a friend. Yeah, she may be the "perfect girlfriend" in a sense but you can't help it if you don't feel it! She's probably the perfect girlfriend for someone else - that includes someone else being physically and emotionally attracted to her as well.

Best tell her now, if you really care about her as a friend, before her feelings get even more hurt.
 
lol Oh D's. How do you always get involved with the ..ahem...rotund females? xD

Have you thought about asking her if you can just be roomies? Will she kick you out if you just keep it business?
 
the question really is how long do you feel the need to keep up the charade? You obviously arent attracted to her (if its the thing from Tinychat god bless you man) and if she is going to kick you out if you "break up with her" then id suggest working on an exit strategy ASAP. Or just embrace fat chicks, some guys are into that
 
Well..can you at least do your own cooking and cleaning and if she has a sofa maybe you should sleep there. Otherwise you are just lying and taking advantage of someone who took you in when you were about to be homeless. Are you really ok with treating her like that?
 
Its a very tricky situation if you try and suggest something to your girlfriend to make her look more attractive she may take it as a insult.What you have to ask your self is do you really want to be with this person.If you come to the conclusion that you dont you should end it now to spare the girls feelings.Just staying with someone because you dont want to be alone is a selfish thing buddie im only being straight with you .The time why you are just sliding along you could both be looking for relationships you both feel comftable in.Listen to you head and heart dont make it any harder than it needs to be buddie good luck!!!!
 
D's said:
she acts like 'Bella" from the movie Twilight. she's so obbsesed with that movie it's not even funny. minus all the edward/%acob posters.
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Oh God run away NOW.

Not attractive and loves Twilight?
Dude you can find hot girls that will fall in love with you too...
 
pillboxskid said:
Its a very tricky situation if you try and suggest something to your girlfriend to make her look more attractive she may take it as a insult.What you have to ask your self is do you really want to be with this person.If you come to the conclusion that you dont you should end it now to spare the girls feelings.Just staying with someone because you dont want to be alone is a selfish thing buddie im only being straight with you .The time why you are just sliding along you could both be looking for relationships you both feel comftable in.Listen to you head and heart dont make it any harder than it needs to be buddie good luck!!!!
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I am just going with what I'm reading here but I'm guessing that this girl with a weight problem and some unattractive habits may suffer from low self esteem and thus is not going to be put off by anything this guy says or does to her. She is enjoying the attention and in her head building a relationship. I'd be willing to bet she would put up with anything to keep him around. And he knows it. As long as he is there with her she thinks he's working on building a life with her. Poor girl has no idea he has one foot out the door.
 
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