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not attracted to my 'girlfriend'.

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hey, so i'm having a hard time with this. the girl that i'm with isn't attractive looking at all. she does this thing where she ALWAYS licks her front teeth, she's really overweight, she does this thing where she breathes out loud. all in all, im not attracted to her in any form.
is there something i can do to make her more attractive?
 
If you have to use quotes around the word "girlfriend", maybe she shouldn't be your "girlfriend".
 
How did you get together with her if there was no attraction? I've been friends with guys who I'm not physically attracted to. But they did not become my boyfriends. I wouldn't take it to that level because it's just not being fair to the person.

To answer your question, no you can't make her more attractive. If she's so repulsive to you, do her a favor and break up with her before you break her heart.
 
yeah, well that has helped my in the past, but things are a little different now. sure when i had my own place i didn't mind it. but now that i'm living under her roof it changes things. she wants a romantic relationship but i don't see it happening. i try to do romantic things with her, but don't want to honestly. like your supposed to get that good feeling when your with a girl, this is the opposite. there is no good feeling(love) when we do things like hold hands.

well we've known each other since like 2nd grade, and shes the only one i really talk to from school days. i mean shes cool and all but theres no 'love' there like a girlfriend?, yet its very bothersom.
 
Oh so you're bumming shelter from her and asking how you can make her more attractive so that you can deal with it? Haha, come man let's take a step back.
 
Oh so you're bumming shelter from her and asking how you can make her more attractive so that you can deal with it? Haha, come man let's take a step back.

yes, thats it. but the thing is shes wanting to get romantic, and im not feeling it. is there something i can tell her ? i want to be friends, and thats it. but dont want to upset her. should i say something i want to take things slow?
 
I got one for ya:

Dear Readers,

I have a boyfriend who borrows money from me and never pays me back. Plus takes my car to go pick up other women.
Our quality time is spent together with him picking his nose all day and farting really bad.
How can I make him less of a pig? I need answerz please...k-thx
 
I help her with rent, take her doggys out, do dishs/puts clean dishs up from dish washer, takes out trash. so im helpful around the place, i cant seem to get romantic with her.
 
I help her with rent, take her doggys out, do dishs/puts clean dishs up from dish washer, takes out trash. so im helpful around the place, i cant seem to get romantic with her.

I see your position but if her expectation is "boyfriend" you need to have a talk with her.
Find a gentle way to tell her this is not what you want and hope for the best.
 
What would happen if you told her how you just want to be friends/roommates and not have a "relationship" or have sex with her anymore?
 
I see your position but if her expectation is "boyfriend" you need to have a talk with her.
Find a gentle way to tell her this is not what you want and hope for the best.

Sounds simple enough right? She has a history of cutting herself, and things of that sort. so I really don't want her to have a relapse on cutting because of me. The longer I 'play along' the shittyer I feel about the situation. I want to let her know that I'm not really wanting a relationship, afraid that if I do then she will put me out.

yea, i could keep it at 'room mate' standards. I don't get it though. Shes really nice to me, probably the perfect woman.(she cooks, cleans, etc). theres no attraction other then that i have with her.

i dont want to lead her on longer then i already have.
 
say you wouldn't want to tarnish the friendship, as great friends are hard to come by.

indeed, i don't want to tarnish our friendship over something silly like this. and its true that good friends are hard to find. I want to tell her in a friendly way about how i feel about the two of us.
 
Would you feel differently about her if she stopped the annoying habits and lost a bunch of weight?
I mean, anything's possible. Liposuction or a treadmill, Christmas is around the corner you know
 
I honestly believe that it is important to have a partner that you are attracted to in a physical sense. I put 70% emphasis on emotional but I need to still have that feeling when I am with a man. There is no reason why we ever should settle on physical looks if we don't have to. I don't care of the age, circumstances, emotional obligations to someone. I think that a true friendship lies on honestly as long as we don't hurt the other person in the long run. Of course, you are entitled to express your opinion and be open; however, in this case I think you should try to back away without lowering her self-esteem. I am sure that she feels your discontent in regards to her look/behavior. Women feel things....LOL but you don't have to state the obvious. You never know what you have in store for you unless you make yourself available for the next person to come along but u must open yourself up first.

If the friendship is powerful and you choose to continue your "relationship" then I suggest that you two join a gym and make the best out of what you dealt for yourself. As far as the behavior goes, that's a hard dilemma (I am stumbled). If you don't like her behavior and her body, it sounds to me like you don't like her as a "girlfriend".
 
Dude I barely even get the point of this thread! You're not attracted to her, you don't feel good when you're around her, you just globally don't much seem to like her...why are you with her? Just break it off already! Tell her you're sorry but you just don't think this sort of relationship between you guys is gonna work out or something.
 
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