Frankthetank41
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I've been looking this up for a while now and have read many posts regarding this topic. I've read a lot of good answers but I feel I should tell my story before coming to a conclusion with the help of your thoughts/comments/suggestions...
My girlfriend and I (both 22) have been dating for over two years. She lives at home still and I in the dorms at school (until the late summer where ill be renting a house with 2 roommates). I want to say in the last like 5 months or so, we've had sex 3 times if I remember correctly. During that time we would occasionally fool around, but roughly 90% of the time, she would never finish the job. I've gotten blue balls more than any two people I know. And if you've gotten blue balls, or been left with a wet vag, you know it is quite devastating and is just. Pure. Evil!
A few nights ago, I opened up to her about it, telling her how I felt about the issue. This is in the ballpark of what I told her:
Why don't you ever want to do anything sexual with me anymore? I understand that you aren't comfortable with me having roommates, but no matter where we are or what we're doing, even when nobody is around, you never want to do anything. Ever. I've pretty much 100% stopped trying to get intimate or in a mood with you. Yeah I obviously get horny around you but I never go after you like I used too. 99% of the time we fool around, you start something and you never follow through with it. It's honestly one of the most frustrating thing I have ever encountered in my lifetime. It's why I shoo you away from my dick all the time; you'll never follow through with whah you started. I have gotten blue balls more than any person I know, twofold. I'm not telling you this so you do stuff out of guilt, cause ill feel absolutely terrible and not the poin of this talk, but if you're not gonna follow through with something, just please don't Even do anything. I can't handle the backup every single time.
She got really defensive. She tells people she loves sex, but I'm like, babe...we never do anything. Ever. Why would you say that and give the impression you like doing something you actually don't?
I know she loves me and can tell she absolutely cares about me (as everyone tells me all the time) but if something doesn't get fixed or can't get past this, I'm afraid of cheating or just breaking up with her. Am I putting too much pressure on this? It's more so the fact she doesn't want to get intimate rather than "my needs" being met.
Being a guy, i know we're visual creatures but the constant rejection and lack of getting intimate is blowing my mind and I'm getting close to calling it quits because it's getting very frustrating and tough to deal with.
I understand sex not being the only thing in a relationship, but it also delivers another special type of connection and communication with your partner. Ill let the pot stir and see what happens in the coming weeks but it is, like I said, quite frustrating. I am always respectful towards her and her feelings about this, since it's a sensitive topic for her and never have spoken to her about this until recently because I felt like it was a pressing issue.
Are other girls like this?
Does anyone get blueballs on the daily?
Do you ever get tempted to cheat because you're not being physically satisfied?
Do you get teased all the time? -_-
Ladies, would/do you do this to your boyfriend?
Is it a douche bag thing to break up over? Saying your needs are not being met?
Dahhhhh. I hope I got it all out
My girlfriend and I (both 22) have been dating for over two years. She lives at home still and I in the dorms at school (until the late summer where ill be renting a house with 2 roommates). I want to say in the last like 5 months or so, we've had sex 3 times if I remember correctly. During that time we would occasionally fool around, but roughly 90% of the time, she would never finish the job. I've gotten blue balls more than any two people I know. And if you've gotten blue balls, or been left with a wet vag, you know it is quite devastating and is just. Pure. Evil!
A few nights ago, I opened up to her about it, telling her how I felt about the issue. This is in the ballpark of what I told her:
Why don't you ever want to do anything sexual with me anymore? I understand that you aren't comfortable with me having roommates, but no matter where we are or what we're doing, even when nobody is around, you never want to do anything. Ever. I've pretty much 100% stopped trying to get intimate or in a mood with you. Yeah I obviously get horny around you but I never go after you like I used too. 99% of the time we fool around, you start something and you never follow through with it. It's honestly one of the most frustrating thing I have ever encountered in my lifetime. It's why I shoo you away from my dick all the time; you'll never follow through with whah you started. I have gotten blue balls more than any person I know, twofold. I'm not telling you this so you do stuff out of guilt, cause ill feel absolutely terrible and not the poin of this talk, but if you're not gonna follow through with something, just please don't Even do anything. I can't handle the backup every single time.
She got really defensive. She tells people she loves sex, but I'm like, babe...we never do anything. Ever. Why would you say that and give the impression you like doing something you actually don't?
I know she loves me and can tell she absolutely cares about me (as everyone tells me all the time) but if something doesn't get fixed or can't get past this, I'm afraid of cheating or just breaking up with her. Am I putting too much pressure on this? It's more so the fact she doesn't want to get intimate rather than "my needs" being met.
Being a guy, i know we're visual creatures but the constant rejection and lack of getting intimate is blowing my mind and I'm getting close to calling it quits because it's getting very frustrating and tough to deal with.
I understand sex not being the only thing in a relationship, but it also delivers another special type of connection and communication with your partner. Ill let the pot stir and see what happens in the coming weeks but it is, like I said, quite frustrating. I am always respectful towards her and her feelings about this, since it's a sensitive topic for her and never have spoken to her about this until recently because I felt like it was a pressing issue.
Are other girls like this?
Does anyone get blueballs on the daily?
Do you ever get tempted to cheat because you're not being physically satisfied?
Do you get teased all the time? -_-
Ladies, would/do you do this to your boyfriend?
Is it a douche bag thing to break up over? Saying your needs are not being met?
Dahhhhh. I hope I got it all out
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