Tarsarlan
Bluelighter
A few of you are prolly wondering why I havn't had my say in this thread yet 'cos I know at least a few of you know how I feel about this subject... Well basically I havn't had a chance to write a proper response yet and I didn't want to just say "Yeah I've got plenty to say, but I'll say it later" 'cos that would just be a wasted post...
Anyways...
I havn't had much luck with relationships in the past, mostly because I was too hesitant and too unsure of myself... It's only really been recently that I've been able to take that extra step and try to get what I want, rather than waiting for it to come to me... Where girls are concerned, things havn't worked out the way I'd have liked, and yeah, in one case it might have been because I was lacking in confidence and didn't make my feelings known when I should...
I don't believe I should have to be any less considerate, kind, helpful, caring, generous, honest, loving, compassionate, open, accepting, etc., in order to attract a girl... I believe the person I am is a person worth being with, and if the girls who I like know what I'm like, yet still don't want to further a relationship with me, then so be it... I will do my best to get some interest in me to blossom, but untimately I'll be doing what I want to do which I think she'll like, I'm not going to go out of my way to please her if it means sacrificing something I believe... And I don't mean I won't make comprimises and sacrifice some small amount of my happiness in order to make her happy, because doing so would make me happy, and in certain circumstances it would be fully worthwhile... But I'm never going to sacrifice who I am to try to please someone else...
If that means I finish last, then I'll see you all at the finish line, I'm taking my time...
If I'm too boring for someone, we don't have enough similar interests... If I'm not attractive enough, she's too superficial, or I'm just not her type... If I'm not smart enough for her, she's a friggin' genius... If I'm not confident enough for her, then she's confusing confidence with bravado...
Ultimately if there's something someone wants out of a relationship with me, unless they make it clear, I'm just going to do what I think is right, and if that doesn't meet with her criteria, then she'd better let me know or it's just not going to work out... and that goes both ways...
Anyway, there's more to come, but I can't use all the material for the book DJC and I are writing... (hurry up with it will ya DJC!
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I hate being told that I just have to be patient, that I'll find her one day, but I believe it's true, but I'm not going to find her if I just sit around and wait for her to come to me...
Anyways...
I havn't had much luck with relationships in the past, mostly because I was too hesitant and too unsure of myself... It's only really been recently that I've been able to take that extra step and try to get what I want, rather than waiting for it to come to me... Where girls are concerned, things havn't worked out the way I'd have liked, and yeah, in one case it might have been because I was lacking in confidence and didn't make my feelings known when I should...
I don't believe I should have to be any less considerate, kind, helpful, caring, generous, honest, loving, compassionate, open, accepting, etc., in order to attract a girl... I believe the person I am is a person worth being with, and if the girls who I like know what I'm like, yet still don't want to further a relationship with me, then so be it... I will do my best to get some interest in me to blossom, but untimately I'll be doing what I want to do which I think she'll like, I'm not going to go out of my way to please her if it means sacrificing something I believe... And I don't mean I won't make comprimises and sacrifice some small amount of my happiness in order to make her happy, because doing so would make me happy, and in certain circumstances it would be fully worthwhile... But I'm never going to sacrifice who I am to try to please someone else...
If that means I finish last, then I'll see you all at the finish line, I'm taking my time...
If I'm too boring for someone, we don't have enough similar interests... If I'm not attractive enough, she's too superficial, or I'm just not her type... If I'm not smart enough for her, she's a friggin' genius... If I'm not confident enough for her, then she's confusing confidence with bravado...
Ultimately if there's something someone wants out of a relationship with me, unless they make it clear, I'm just going to do what I think is right, and if that doesn't meet with her criteria, then she'd better let me know or it's just not going to work out... and that goes both ways...
Anyway, there's more to come, but I can't use all the material for the book DJC and I are writing... (hurry up with it will ya DJC!

I hate being told that I just have to be patient, that I'll find her one day, but I believe it's true, but I'm not going to find her if I just sit around and wait for her to come to me...