Hi Missy,
I wish I could offer a magic wand to make it all go away. My heart goes out to you and your family. I am the only addict in my home. My wife is being extremely supportive in helping me taper off of heroin. I have had an on and off IV habit for the last 4 years and I couldn't count how many times I've tried going cold turkey only to end up going through my phone bill to find my dealer's phone number because I'd deleted it. I've chosen a taper because structure helps me. I wrote out daily doses with milligrams and times of day to dose and my wife is keeping the dope locked in the safe with the key tied to her belt loop to keep me from "accidentally" dosing early. I'm dropping 10-20 mg per day over the course of two and a half weeks and dropping one daily dose weekly (5x per day, then 4x per day, then 3x per day, then 2 days of scheduled 2x per day at the lowest dose at the end of the taper). I check off each dose as I take it so that I feel like I am counting down to the end of this hellish cycle. Im no expert and I can only hope that this works for me, but maybe if you and your husband can help each other do the same sort of structured taper, you could increase your chances. Whatever you do, I wish you two all the best. I know, all too well, how devastating heroin can be on a family. Hang in there and keep talking. There's a lot of experience in this forum. Kevin.