Need help getting a girl...

[Tokyan]

So long story short there's this really cute girl I used to work with and I think we get along pretty well. I never really flirted with her though because she had a boyfriend at the time. Anyways, the other month she broke up with her boyfriend so now I wanted to work up to asking her out.

I want to do something really cute and creative to ask her out and I don't think she has any clue that I'd even want too. In the end I came up with this idea of doing a "secret admirer" sort of thing... Basically, I was going to do something every Thursday while she works, so that when she gets off she comes out to her car and finds something I've done. Yesterday I went out and got a dozen roses, wrote cute little lines on paper attached to the roses and spread the roses over her car. I have no idea what she thought about it, although I am sure she has no idea it's me.

The idea is I'd do something like that for a few weeks to build it up and then the last week I'd go into her work and just hand her something instead, thereby revealing I was the one the whole time and somehow working into it asking her out.

The problem is, I have literally no experience with winning a girl over even though I'm 21. I've only had one gf and we were together for 4 years and it just sorta happened. So basically I just want to know if this is a completely retarded (and/or creepy) idea and I should just do something else instead?

Also, if it actually is a decent idea... Anybody have ideas for things to do on her Thursdays? The only other idea I've come up with so far is burning a cd for her with a bunch of cute songs like "When You Are Near" by Carolina Liar... I think it'd be hard to pull off though without being creepy though.

 

[verso]

Damn! You must really like this girl to put so much thought into all of this. I think it's sweet, but maybe you're coming on a bit too strong? If it were me, I'd take it real slow and keep it causal, maybe ask her out for a few drinks or take her out to lunch or dinner. I'd do that for a while before pouring your heart out.

I think that, in some ways, it's related to the whole girls-like-bad-boys thing. A guy who puts it all out there is a guy to be walked all over, and that's not the most desirable trait.

I've come to find that, in my experience, women grow more interested when you sort of keep to yourself and appear less interested than you really are. I know, I know. It defies all logic, but what can I say?

Anyway, I'm sure that others will chime in soon, hopefully a few of our bluelight ladies

 

[hiphophippy]

Okay, first of all don't make it something cute and creative. Unless you are both weeaboos you'll fucking creep her out. Hit on her casually then disappear. Maybe a week or two later ask her to go out with you. Never appear open or like you're really interested in being with her.

 

[llama112]

I personally am not into all that cute and creative stuff. Some girls are, some aren't. The thing is, if she doesn't really like you, then it will come off as creepy.
I would suggest going slow. Just asking her out. Ask her on a date. Say, hey want to see a movie with me on Friday? Something like that.

 

[Darksidesam]

Okay, first of all don't make it something cute and creative. Unless you are both weeaboos you'll fucking creep her out. Hit on her casually then disappear. Maybe a week or two later ask her to go out with you. Never appear open or like you're really interested in being with her.

Harsh but true, however i still find girls very hard to work out . . . lol

 

[MyFinalRest]

I'd get that idea of "I don't have any experience" out of your head because the only way "experience" could really count for something is if every woman was the same - they're not.

Some girls really fall for that " unexpected roses on the car from a secret admirer" type shit, some don't. If she's the type that likes it when a guy acts "uninterested" in her she's probably immature, a ho, a narcissist, or some other pathology.

Some people like a straight up approach (like myself) some people like subtlety and are put off by anything forward at all. (I like a little subtlety here and there but, I don't care for it that much and find it immature when it becomes crippling). You just won't know unitl you know. If she turns you down though when you ask her out or acts uninterested in you, then that is a good time for you to act uninterested.

 

[i against i]

she's probably a ho ... or some other pathology.

haha!