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need advice on confronting someone about a threesome

curiosity

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Ok so heres the deal, i've been talking to this girl online for about a year and half now and we're crazy about eachother and shes supposed to come visit, she's a virgin but in the time that she's visiting she want's to have a threesome (me,her,and another girl) but we need to find the other girl for this, so i geuss my question is how would you go about this? I'm assuming it's much better if i find the girl seeing as if she does she has to bring her along for the whole trip and this trip isnt just to see me she plans on making a few stops along the way along with a possible music festival etc etc so to bring another person along for the whole trip just for that one request does seem a bit excessive enless they were already planning on going on the trip with them, all advice is greatly appreciated :)
 
Tranquilo.
She's coming to visit you and let go of her virginity with you. You've known her for a year and a half. Amazing!

If I were you- RELAX- if you treat her well she will be back for more. At that time think about setting something up.
 
I like the word "confront", I'd probably use "approach" or even "proposition"...

I feel like its easier for women to find other women to have a threesome with, she could post an OKcupid profile looking for another F for FFM or something.
 
Lol yeah I was also gonna comment on the choice of words...
You can post an ad online as ^have mentioned, or honestly you could just go out clubbing with her when she does get there, you're bound to find someone up for it. IME, as Disraeli_Beers said, it's much easier when you're looking for another woman.
 
Tranquilo.
She's coming to visit you and let go of her virginity with you. You've known her for a year and a half. Amazing!

If I were you- RELAX- if you treat her well she will be back for more. At that time think about setting something up.

I told her we'd only partake when she's sure she's ready for something like that anyway so there's definitely no pressure but with her plans for the future with school and everything and how far she lives it looks like after this summer I may not be able to see her for quite a number of years, enless I of course go see her but I don't even have my license yet and i've still got a lot of schooling to do, not to mention my summers are the rush at work :\ and she told me she really wanted to do something crazy this summer since it's her last summer before her schedules jam packed for said number of years
 
Lol yeah I was also gonna comment on the choice of words...
You can post an ad online as ^have mentioned, or honestly you could just go out clubbing with her when she does get there, you're bound to find someone up for it. IME, as Disraeli_Beers said, it's much easier when you're looking for another woman.


Haha. Yes

also pof.com

I like the word "confront", I'd probably use "approach" or even "proposition"...

I feel like its easier for women to find other women to have a threesome with, she could post an OKcupid profile looking for another F for FFM or something.

I find the idea of posting an ad online kind of risky xP I mean people who have casual encounters so often that they make ads on the internet would probably mean theres a fairly large chance of getting an std no? and the clubbing idea does sound like a bit of a better idea i geuss, but i'm not your typical "player" or however you'd want to label it i'm not very experienced in the sense of one night stands and such
 
time to stock up on liquor/mdma buddy.

im curious how old you guys are because that could have a huge impact on how to get this going.
 
time to stock up on liquor/mdma buddy.

im curious how old you guys are because that could have a huge impact on how to get this going.

She doesn't drink or use drugs, she is very open minded though, she used to drink and does want to party atleast once while she's down but not so sure about the mdma, although if she was interested i'm sure it'd make for a great time, i'm 19 and shes 18

curiosity, I like the fact that your posts are all very long, unbroken sentences. :D. That's all I've got to offer.

xD thank you
 
Yeaah if you could get on MDMA that would probably help things a lot...
Still though, my advice is go clubbing, you don't need to particularly be a 'player' to find a chick, just be charming and funny and go for someone who looks open-minded. I'm sure there'll be at least oen person in that club who won't mind going back with you.
 
Yeaah if you could get on MDMA that would probably help things a lot...
Still though, my advice is go clubbing, you don't need to particularly be a 'player' to find a chick, just be charming and funny and go for someone who looks open-minded. I'm sure there'll be at least oen person in that club who won't mind going back with you.

due to my shyness i'm usually more awkward then funny/charming, maybe if i drink enough though i geuss
 
Lol yup, that's when alcohol is your best friend. Just tell yourself that even if you can't find someone for the threesome, at the end of the night you still have an awesome chick to go home with, so it doesn't matter that much if you can't find another one...just be yourself!
 
Lol yup, that's when alcohol is your best friend. Just tell yourself that even if you can't find someone for the threesome, at the end of the night you still have an awesome chick to go home with, so it doesn't matter that much if you can't find another one...just be yourself!

That's truuee, and as awesome as that is, thinking that, due to my shyness will just be another excuse not to try xP even though it's not that big a deal I still do want to have one atleast once in my life, just to see what it's like :P
 
You just have to push yourself! Even if you're terrified and so shy and whatever, just force yourself to go up to whoever and set the balls in motion, so to speak (heh). Honestly, social skills just take practice. I used to be horrible at picking people up in bars because I'd always go with my ridiculously hot best friend so it would be really intimidating for me, but she encouraged me to just go for it without thinking abotu consequences and honestly, results are positive more often than not. You just have to force yourself to overcome the initial barrier :)
 
nice one xD. and yeah I geuss that's something I should probably start working on, I mean i've definitly improved from a few years ago but not quite to that level, maybe i'll practice in the mean time and hopefully i'll be good enough by the time she comes down,thank you for all the advice :)
 
Yeah trust me, it's just a matter of getting over the 'but what if they reject me?' part and realising that it doesn't actually matter if they do cuz you'll never see them again anyway, so you may as well try! Good luck :)
 
first off there is no confrontation.

Secondly - why not wait til she gets there, then hit the town, and ask her to pick someone - or even hotter, you pick someone when you guys are out together, and you send her over to chat the gal up and fill her in, then you can have your cute gal bring her over to you, like seductress bringing you a harlot, like a king. I know that's the way I'd do it. If they say no, just pick someone else and go with the same plan again, a woman would have her guard up much more, especially if she's young if a dude approached her, than if another lass did.

What you reckon, ladies of SLR?
 
first off there is no confrontation.

Secondly - why not wait til she gets there, then hit the town, and ask her to pick someone - or even hotter, you pick someone when you guys are out together, and you send her over to chat the gal up and fill her in, then you can have your cute gal bring her over to you, like seductress bringing you a harlot, like a king. I know that's the way I'd do it. If they say no, just pick someone else and go with the same plan again, a woman would have her guard up much more, especially if she's young if a dude approached her, than if another lass did.

What you reckon, ladies of SLR?

English wasn't my best subject in school. but yeah I geuss that might work aswell but from my knowledge she's equally as shy as i am and she usually feels the need to get to know someone pretty well before asking a question of that sort, otherwise yeah that'd probably be a great idea, thanks though :)
 
Who says she has to lose her virginity and have a 3 way on the same night?

If I were in your shoes, I'd worry about her virginity first. Sex her up until she is comfortable with the whole process. Then maybe the next day or a couple of days later, find the third partner.

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