Not sure if I'm a complete asshole for writing this or just a concerned human being, but I actually sent this text message to someone today:
I feel scummy, but I can't keep my moth shut, that kid's gonna be fucked.
if it needed to be said then good for you for saying
i will say, (btw i am in no way of condoning having a child for this reason cuz 9/10 it doesnt work but) sometimes things that big can turn someones life around n change things for the best, granted not always and i dunno the person you were talking to but it all depends on the individual.
im not saying what you said was wrong but i just figured id throw it out there
Sooo....
i got a couple things to share.
the other day at work i was talking with this chick. it came up in conversation and i told her me n my fiance split up, well almost immediatly after i told her she started getting kinda flirtatious, ive talked to her plenty before but she never acted like this towards me, and eventually she ended up asking me for my number, i didnt offer it up myself nor was i really trying to get anything going. well she txtd me the other night and we got talkin and i suggested we hang out, then she asked me why i wanted to hang out, i thought it was an interesting question given the fact that she asked for my number to hang out, well i decided to be up front so i told her that i was recently out of a serious relationship and that i was looking for anything more then something strictly physical, and she replied "like sexual" and i said yea and then she txtd me back and said she "i have a bf, i thought you knew" and first off no i didnt know cuz you never mentioned anything about him and second i cant figure why she woulda came across that way or asked ME for my number given those circumstances. so i stopped txting her right then, i mean perhaps she was interested and wanted me to say i didnt care if she didnt but thats not my style i guess
another odd situation with a different girl happened tonight, there is a different girl at work who i am fairly close with, i mean we have been friends for awhile now and we were talking at work the other day and even at work i told her i was purely looking for something physical and she suggested we hang out. so she came over tonight and i assumed we were gonna fuck, i mean with the other girl i felt like she was coming on to me but i didnt explicitly tell her i only wanted to fuck until she txt me but this girl i said from the start thats all i was looking for and her reaction was pretty much "kool lets hang out" (not those words specifically but yall get the point) well she was over tonight and we started foolin around, well not really but started kissing/playing/making out or whatever, i was trying to get stuff goin and then all of a sudden when i tried to get things a little more serious she shot me down n said she wasnt looking to have sex. she's kool and we're kool and we ended just talkin and shit and for me its like if you dont wanna fuck thats kool im not gonna try n make you or anything
but its like shit, with the 1st girl i felt like she was coming on to me, and the 2nd girl its like i told you all i wanted to do is fuck and you said lets hang out and you came over and then werent down.
i can understand some girls just not wanting to simply fuck and thats it but i made my intentions pretty clear and i just dont understand why A) a girl would flirt and ask for my number upon finding out i was single if she had a bf and B) why a girl would be down to hang out after explicitly knowing my intentions but not being ok with them
any insight? any feedback? i dont want a relationship i dont really wanna play mind games or act like im interested if i only want one thing, i know thats not how the game is supposed to be played but i dont wanna play games i just wanna be up front and honest n get the same in return
was a being naive, unreasonable, stupid, foolish or whatever?