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My wife wants to go out

rangrz said:
Your endorsement of domestic violence sickens me.
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BluLait said:
Sometimes, they can be so fucking insensitive that they deserve... at least a slap in the face.
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Imagine if your gf went out, got a std, didn't say anything, and then passed it on to you... who wouldn't be pissed? ...moreover, imagine if your SO when out, slept with someone, got AIDS, and then passed it on to you.

If she wants to sleep with other men, she needs to man up and leave the person she's been with for 14 years and has four kids with. ...she doesn't need to mope around and try to manipulate her partner into giving in and allowing her behavior.
 
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It's not just she wants to sleep with other men. She said she wanted meaningless or anonymous sex out of the blue. That would trouble me too.
 
I appreciate all the advice I'm trying everything to keep this family together but I can't be with anyone else I was 451 pounds now I'm 205 and I know I can get girls I never could before but my wife is the only one I want to be with why can't she feel the same way
 
draven1321 said:
I appreciate all the advice I'm trying everything to keep this family together but I can't be with anyone else I was 451 pounds now I'm 205 and I know I can get girls I never could before but my wife is the only one I want to be with why can't she feel the same way
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I'm sorry she's putting you through this. 14 years of marriage and then she hits you with this. It seems so cold to me.
Can you see about possibly getting counseling with her? If she's not willing to go, by all means go for it yourself.
Maybe she's going through a mid-life crisis or something. Congratulations on your weight loss btw!
 
Thank you T appreciate it tried counseling before didn't work she cheated before and I took it but I can't do it again
 
Do you think perhaps she's cheating again? For her to come out with this out of the blue does seem strange to be honest.
I wouldn't want to go through that again. My ex cheated on me and things were never the same between us afterwards.
 
She said she wants to but will not do it unless I say ok but if I day no she will just have a void that I can't fill
 
Did she say what her reasons are for wanting to have sex with someone else?
On the surface, it doesn't make sense to me. Doesn't she realize she's jeopardizing her family?
 
I feel if she cheated in the past (and maybe even recently - using this as her cover up) than her bringing this up means your relationship has a huge problem.

You gotta worry about yourself. How this is going to effect you within this relationship. You don't want to be miserable. If your miserable, the relationship will only get worse, and who knows what she'll do at that point. Also, if the relationship gets worse and your miserable, you wont be giving your kids probably the best environment to live in. Yes its good for the kids to have both parents around all the time, but if the parents relationship sucks, then the kids are just as effected as if you weren't together any more.
 
She won't give me any reason she just said you said no and doesn't want to talk about it anymore but now I'm stuck knowing she has a void I can't feel
 
Mel22 said:
Nice. Way to criticise someone simply because they feel differently towards extramarital sex than you seem to. So because he cannot deal with his wife sleeping with another man, he is automatically not considering his children in all of this? What a silly thing to assume.
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Who said me and him have opposing views to extramarital sex? I never said any such thing. All I was getting at is how his post seemed to disregard any feelings the kids might have towards the situation. Just cause somebody wants to get up and leave doesn't mean they can just do it and take the kids too. It's not that simple.

Though this is all off topic, silly mumbo jumbo.
 
Cloudy said:
I feel if she cheated in the past (and maybe even recently - using this as her cover up) than her bringing this up means your relationship has a huge problem.
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Especially now she doesn't want to discuss it anymore, it's a troubling sign.
 
The reason I would take my kids cause I love them and don't want her binging random guys around them I'm thinking of them but can't
 
If she is posting that on facebook she is posting that not only to the world but you. You know your SO is going to read the stuff you put on facebook, so she has to know you are going to see it.

Start to think about how you feel. Worry about yourself and the kids. Maybe you'll realize the right path to take. No matter what something needs to be done. She clearly isn't happy. Your clearly not happy. She's been unfaithful in the past and when people are unhappy they are more likely to become unfaithful. You guys need a big talk on your relationship no matter if you plan on staying with her, or are gathering up all the information you need to take another path away from her. If she wont talk, its plain that she doesn't want to be fully committed in this relationship. For your sake and your kids, you need to either be in a healthy relationship, or not in one at all.
 
When women lose weight they sometimes develop a hormonal imbalance that can affect behavior. Maybe she should consult her doctor about her sudden feelings of emptiness.
 
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