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Sex My wife & I are old by many standards

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My wife & I are old by many standards, married 46 yrs, spent most our lives together, good times and not so good, I think the secret our relationship is based on respect the genuine need to support each other going through life together.

I’ve always enjoyed sex, my wife on the other hand is not as focused on sex as I am. Through the years I’ve tried elevate her desire for sex, trying different things to bring excitement into our relationship but somewhere along the way life stuff happened, kids, family, mental health issues all played a part in not having time for each other. We still loved each other but the romance and intimacy was lost for a considerable length of time.

After an unintentional overdose and 3 week commitment to local psych ward I returned home. My wife, I love her so, without a word took her clothes off and gave herself to me. Not a word was spoken but her actions confirmed her commitment to me. I spite of our differences in terms of how often we have sex, she is in control, if it were up to me, we would have sex more often based on spontaneity rather than a scheduled day and time.

Lately, I've lost my libido, I don't think it is related to medication, but I tire easily and sometimes I get out of breath doing simple things like getting dressed. I have a doctors appointment Monday to discuss what's going on.

The older you get keeps getting better and better.
 
My Mrs and I have been together 35 years now, and at first the sex was great, though my personal inadequacies prevented it from becoming as great as it could be. Plus, she was a victim of sexual abuse by her stepfather, which made me feel somewhat dirty from touching her.

Then we both developed heroin habits, which totally ruined my libido, but made her even more horny, which led to an incompatibility and many upsetting incidents in the bedroom.

Now that we're both off that shit, I'm now as horny as a dog, but she's going through the menopause and has completely gone off sex.

And that's why I'm a dedicated wanker...
 
My Mrs and I have been together 35 years now, and at first the sex was great, though my personal inadequacies prevented it from becoming as great as it could be. Plus, she was a victim of sexual abuse by her stepfather, which made me feel somewhat dirty from touching her.

Then we both developed heroin habits, which totally ruined my libido, but made her even more horny, which led to an incompatibility and many upsetting incidents in the bedroom.

Now that we're both off that shit, I'm now as horny as a dog, but she's going through the menopause and has completely gone off sex.

And that's why I'm a dedicated wanker...
Yep such as life, so unpredictable. My wife went through menopause, hot flashes and night sweats. I'm glad I'm a male. Although now I miss being horny.
 
My wife & I are old by many standards, married 46 yrs, spent most our lives together, good times and not so good, I think the secret our relationship is based on respect the genuine need to support each other going through life together.

I’ve always enjoyed sex, my wife on the other hand is not as focused on sex as I am. Through the years I’ve tried elevate her desire for sex, trying different things to bring excitement into our relationship but somewhere along the way life stuff happened, kids, family, mental health issues all played a part in not having time for each other. We still loved each other but the romance and intimacy was lost for a considerable length of time.

After an unintentional overdose and 3 week commitment to local psych ward I returned home. My wife, I love her so, without a word took her clothes off and gave herself to me. Not a word was spoken but her actions confirmed her commitment to me. I spite of our differences in terms of how often we have sex, she is in control, if it were up to me, we would have sex more often based on spontaneity rather than a scheduled day and time.

Lately, I've lost my libido, I don't think it is related to medication, but I tire easily and sometimes I get out of breath doing simple things like getting dressed. I have a doctors appointment Monday to discuss what's going on.

The older you get keeps getting better and better.
We have a similar situation, 40 years married I’m the male and my wife really never showed that much extra love if you get my meaning. Between work and my ed I never really wanted it because she didn’t ask for it. But we were great together. Recently I started to change this and went off my ssri and went on TRT. We both started learning about hormones and she started DHEA and it made a big difference along with her other supplements. TRT also got me started my level was so low for over 20 years no wonder we didn’t try. Today I’m ready but don’t know how heat started since she said she just wanted to cuddle. But the other day I decided to get close and well with no pressure I got hard and after a half hour she started moving etc. she stated I’m all tingling. It was time to try because Ed sucks and she needs to be ready too. That’s where we now, I got viagra and it’s been working with masterbation sometimes. Practice make perfect. I hope you try the TRT therapy. It got me f n horny but don’t go over 1100, it works the opposite way like mine did. There is a sweet spot. Also use biodentical not synthetic, bio is much more natural and a lot less side effects. Ps I’m 70
 
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