My Wife Always Loves To Go Out

[B1tO'RoughJack]

You are not wrong for whinging - you are expressing your thoughts and feelings.

However - "at her age".

Says it all really - this is YOUR problem.

Her problem sounds like maybe she likes the drink a bit too much, and she acts like a spoilt princess - some underlying emotional problems to work out.

How to do with your problem - Bruv, act like the man you are, and not a boy - assert yourself and state what you want. I feel ya though, I personally don't like confrontations all that much either, unless I know I'll come out on top.

Work out compromises through reasonable calm discussion.

Do not take her shit if she is being unreasonable, walk away if she acts like a drama queen -don't get sucked into it. If she procrastinates while out - remember that she is hammered and having a "good time", time warps in an intoxicated persons mind - use calming breath, be nice and patient, but give her 3 chances (don't tell her), before making your way to leave, telling her that you are driving home/getting a taxi. Next, stand your ground.

Make it clear(when you are both sober and calm) you do not like going out on the town like she does but do it because you love her - this will help with the compromising.


Ya see me?

I'm 27, my wife's 29. She loves to go out to bars / nightclubs with me. She tends to love drinking and once she starts we always stay until close regardless of when she has previously said we would go home, also regardless of whether I need to work or wake up early the next day. At the moment, we will go out like this once every 3 weeks. I HATE going out to bars / nightclubs. I would rather go out for a nice dinner, maybe a drink or two and go home. When we go out like this, we could go to a bar / nightclub at 7pm and leave at 2 or 3am depending on what time they close. Dinner and drinks for me would be a couple of hours max. If we don't go how she wants and at least once approx every 3 weeks, she blows up, there are arguments. If we do go, she is very happy the next day. If I was single I would probably love to go to bars and nigthclubs for hours, mostprobably trying to pick up.

Am I wrong for whinging or is she wrong for loving this type of entertainment at her age?

GOOD LUCK

 

[purplefirefly]

No one is wrong here. I'm 29 and I still love going out. I am extremely social and it's a lot of fun for me to be out dancing or whatever. I like going with my friends and I like going with my boyfriend. I wouldn't be upset if my boyfriend didn't want to go...unless it became a pattern and he consistently avoided going out with me. A relationship is always about give and take.

Going out once a month really isn't unreasonable. Maybe you can keep trying new spots until you find one that you both enjoy.