I feel pretty bleak right now and needed to see what some fellow addicts think of this instead of just a therapist.
Let me say that the title isn't 100% the whole situation, but it's a big part of it.
I have a lot of problems right now like multiple substance abuse issues but I also have generalized anxiety disorder, depression, OCD, and some other things that would take more time to explain.
I have a lot of time on my hands and I'm not working over the summer and I'm so depressed that I just get fucked up too much and I know the best thing for me would truly be to quit drugs and alcohol forever but it's hard for me to literally say "I will NEVER use ANY drug EVER again or EVER have a sip of alcohol again starting today RIGHT FUCKING NOW".
Is anyone else with me that that would be hard to say?
And when I ask that question, it's better if the people who answer whether or not it would be hard are people who probably do realize that they have drug issues that make other mental health issues they have worse.
The thing is...I have stopped certain drugs for periods of time...Kratom for a year, weed for 988 days LOL (I counted), alcohol only for 3 months once but a few months here and there, etc.
I am able to say things like "I'll stop doing X drug for X amount of time" and I don't ALWAYS succeed, but sometimes I do.
I am able to say "I am going to stop doing this drug or that drug now or soon within the next few weeks, and then go as long as I can", and I am often able to go a while.
But I have not ever been able to say "I will quit all drugs forever right fucking now."
Because to me to say that just makes me freak the fuck out!! I feel I have a BETTER chance of success if I say "I am NOT saying this has to be FOREVER...but I know it is better if I DO quit forever....but because that's too hard to say, I am just going to say I will go as long as I can."
In fact, SOMETIMES I feel it is easier to stop using a drug if I say "I CAN use this drug EVENTUALLY again...just NOT NOW OR ANYTIME SOON."
It's a lot easier for me to stop something if when I start to crave it I tell myself it's not forever...and then it might end up being forever...but telling myself that makes me flip out and want to get high or drunk!!"
So, can someone else who has drug issues and mental issues tell me: am I crazy? am I wrong?
This therapist told me that that "I am wrong to say that I won't quit forever, that the only way to stop using drugs is to say FOREVER."
I think it isn't necessary to say you are quitting drugs "forever" to quit, and that some people are able to stop just by saying they'll go as long as they can.
I know drugs make my problems worse, but then this therapist told me, not only that he wouldn't see me again cause I wouldn't quit all drugs right now, but because "you have more than one major problem in your life right now, and I don't think I can help you cause I am just used to helping people who have one major issue at a time."
Am I crazy or is that a psychologist ADMITTING that he is VERY limited in his ability to help people?!!
What kind of people with REAL problems only have ONE single issue at a time??!!
It's like, imagine some guy goes to see a therapist and he has a drinking problem, a divorce, a daughter who won't talk to him, PTSD from fighting in a war and obsessive compulsive disorder, and doctors like this motherfucker would say "sorry, you have too many problems, I can't help you."
And I know that I should quit all drugs for as long as possible, and that my best chance for happiness in life is to quit all drugs forever (except MAYBE psychedelics) because they mess with my life too much and I already have a lot of issues to deal with to the extent that making them worse is just ridiculous....but I DON'T believe that to quit drugs you HAVE to use the word "forever."
This guy says you DO have to say that word.
I feel let down by this guy and kind of insulted being told I am too messed up for him to deal with me.
I figure the only people who can relate to this are addicts, so please guys, let me know what you think.
Thanks.
Let me say that the title isn't 100% the whole situation, but it's a big part of it.
I have a lot of problems right now like multiple substance abuse issues but I also have generalized anxiety disorder, depression, OCD, and some other things that would take more time to explain.
I have a lot of time on my hands and I'm not working over the summer and I'm so depressed that I just get fucked up too much and I know the best thing for me would truly be to quit drugs and alcohol forever but it's hard for me to literally say "I will NEVER use ANY drug EVER again or EVER have a sip of alcohol again starting today RIGHT FUCKING NOW".
Is anyone else with me that that would be hard to say?
And when I ask that question, it's better if the people who answer whether or not it would be hard are people who probably do realize that they have drug issues that make other mental health issues they have worse.
The thing is...I have stopped certain drugs for periods of time...Kratom for a year, weed for 988 days LOL (I counted), alcohol only for 3 months once but a few months here and there, etc.
I am able to say things like "I'll stop doing X drug for X amount of time" and I don't ALWAYS succeed, but sometimes I do.
I am able to say "I am going to stop doing this drug or that drug now or soon within the next few weeks, and then go as long as I can", and I am often able to go a while.
But I have not ever been able to say "I will quit all drugs forever right fucking now."
Because to me to say that just makes me freak the fuck out!! I feel I have a BETTER chance of success if I say "I am NOT saying this has to be FOREVER...but I know it is better if I DO quit forever....but because that's too hard to say, I am just going to say I will go as long as I can."
In fact, SOMETIMES I feel it is easier to stop using a drug if I say "I CAN use this drug EVENTUALLY again...just NOT NOW OR ANYTIME SOON."
It's a lot easier for me to stop something if when I start to crave it I tell myself it's not forever...and then it might end up being forever...but telling myself that makes me flip out and want to get high or drunk!!"
So, can someone else who has drug issues and mental issues tell me: am I crazy? am I wrong?
This therapist told me that that "I am wrong to say that I won't quit forever, that the only way to stop using drugs is to say FOREVER."
I think it isn't necessary to say you are quitting drugs "forever" to quit, and that some people are able to stop just by saying they'll go as long as they can.
I know drugs make my problems worse, but then this therapist told me, not only that he wouldn't see me again cause I wouldn't quit all drugs right now, but because "you have more than one major problem in your life right now, and I don't think I can help you cause I am just used to helping people who have one major issue at a time."
Am I crazy or is that a psychologist ADMITTING that he is VERY limited in his ability to help people?!!
What kind of people with REAL problems only have ONE single issue at a time??!!
It's like, imagine some guy goes to see a therapist and he has a drinking problem, a divorce, a daughter who won't talk to him, PTSD from fighting in a war and obsessive compulsive disorder, and doctors like this motherfucker would say "sorry, you have too many problems, I can't help you."
And I know that I should quit all drugs for as long as possible, and that my best chance for happiness in life is to quit all drugs forever (except MAYBE psychedelics) because they mess with my life too much and I already have a lot of issues to deal with to the extent that making them worse is just ridiculous....but I DON'T believe that to quit drugs you HAVE to use the word "forever."
This guy says you DO have to say that word.
I feel let down by this guy and kind of insulted being told I am too messed up for him to deal with me.
I figure the only people who can relate to this are addicts, so please guys, let me know what you think.
Thanks.
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