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My girlfriend doesn't want to do anal..HELP!!!

It is HER BODY, HER CHOICE. Not everyone wants to do anal sex and nobody should be forced, coerced, manipulated, quilted, etc.into doing anything sexual that they do not want to do or consent to.

I did not read the entire thread, but maybe she tried it even just with a finger or a vibrator or whatever and learned that she does not like it so she has no desire to do it again.
 
Kellsee said:
I don’t blame her. I don’t want nothing crammed up my ass either

Men always be tryin to slip that up on ya too…like you ain’t gonna know
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A LOT, and I mean A LOT of gay men, some bisexual men, and even some hetero guys want something up their ass be it fingers, a tongue, a dildo, vibrator, or for the gay and bi men a cock. My black gay uncle who is a top said how in his experience most gay men are bottoms as I had asked him why on a website we both were on decades ago, when I listed myself as top that it was odd that men who also said they are "top" would email me pics of their asses and beg me to fuck them. He told me how those men are versatile or bottoms but afraid to be honest. My white gay uncle is a total bottom and he told me crazy stories about in the 1980s meeting men at work, in college classes, on the street, in gyms, bars/discos and the next thing you know he was getting pumped full of a stranger's cum. He has had unsafe sex with at least one or probably more men who were poz, HIV+, and not on AZT or meds and somehow he was not infected. I guess he is just lucky?

I am bisexual but while technically a top/giver I have never done anal sex with a woman and if she did want it I would use a vibrator or dildo as I have a very long and very thick cock and I worry about hurting someone. I have never taken anal sex or been bottom/passiv for anal intercourse but I tried a finger, prostate vibrator, and was rimmed by a guy I very briefly dated and did not enjoy it. I was told that I don't have the pleasure areas there and to be honest I would rather just do oral sex, touching, S/M, Bondage, etc. I have fucked 1 man he was my now ex Boyfriend and he became obsessed with wanting my cock up his ass as much as possible, got super demanding, and this was one reason why our relationship ended as it made sex boring, scripted, routine, etc.
 
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I certainly do  not pass judgment on anyone who enjoys anal (or anything else between consenting adults) but the bottom line (see what I did there?) is that nobody should be pressured to do anything (sex, drugs, whatever) that they don't want to do.
 
PriestTheyCalledHim said:
A LOT, and I mean A LOT of gay men, some bisexual men, and even some hetero guys want something up their ass be it fingers, a tongue, a dildo, vibrator, or for the gay and bi men a cock. My black gay uncle who is a top said how in his experience most gay men are bottoms as I had asked him why on a website we both were on decades ago, when I listed myself as top that it was odd that men who also said they are "top" would email me pics of their asses and beg me to fuck them. He told me how those men are versatile or bottoms but afraid to be honest. My white gay uncle is a total bottom and he told me crazy stories about in the 1980s meeting men at work, in college classes, on the street, in gyms, bars/discos and the next thing you know he was getting pumped full of a stranger's cum. He has had unsafe sex with at least one or probably more men who were poz, HIV+, and not on AZT or meds and somehow he was not infected. I guess he is just lucky?

I am bisexual but while technically a top/giver I have never done anal sex with a woman and if she did want it I would use a vibrator or dildo as I have a very long and very thick cock and I worry about hurting someone. I have never taken anal sex or been bottom/passiv for anal intercourse but I tried a finger, prostate vibrator, and was rimmed by a guy I very briefly dated and did not enjoy it. I was told that I don't have the pleasure areas there and to be honest I would rather just do oral sex, touching, S/M, Bondage, etc. I have fucked 1 man he was my now ex Boyfriend and he became obsessed with wanting my cock up his ass as much as possible, got super demanding, and this was one reason why our relationship ended as it made sex boring, scripted, routine, etc.
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My reason for not ever having had anal sex (fully signed up heterosexual). I'm not exactly small and it seems like it would be painful, so have never suggested it. If the woman requested anal sex, I'd ģo along with the request, but with necessary precautions.
For me, sex has never been about hurting someone. I did spend a short time with someone who was a sub and even then, I never felt comfortable, at some of her requests. That pretty much ended the relationship. I get off on giving my partner a massage etc. Just a case of making them happy and content and not something that makes me feel uncomfortable
 
jasperkent said:
I certainly do  not pass judgment on anyone who enjoys anal (or anything else between consenting adults) but the bottom line (see what I did there?) is that nobody should be pressured to do anything (sex, drugs, whatever) that they don't want to do.
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If it's consenting adults, go for it (including some of the more extreme acts), but trying to get someone to do something they are uncomfortable with is a no go for me and I believe should be the hard and fast rule about requiring consent (and 'blackmailing' your partner into doing something they don't want to do is not consent).

People should be aware that non consensual sex is the sort of thing that gets you half a dozen years in one of his majesty's hotel, like HMP Acklington, or if it was really bad HMP Frankland (a cat A prison, near where I live, that hold really fucked up lifers, like Rose West).
If you love the person, consent is absolutely essential. If you don't have consent, you are a rapist. Sorry, but it's that simple...
 
Hell, even as a teenager it really annoyed me when guys pressured the hesitant ones to smoke weed or whatever. Fuck that shit. You do you, I'll do me, and we can still be friends.

For the record, peer pressure was never an issue for me. At 12&13yrs-old I was a paperboy. I learned about drugs by reading the newspapers. I couldn't wait to try them.

The first time I smoked a cigarette I was alone.
The first time I got drunk I was alone.
The first time I smoked weed I was alone.
The first time I dropped acid I was alone.

Interestingly, the LAST time I did all these things (and other things) I was alone.
 
incidentally, i'm not sure how this got to 200 replies when the very first one takes the win...
 
ChemicallyEnhanced said:
Because convincing you that they are having a good time is literally their job lol
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My daughters mother thoroughly loved anal sex and would get really wild and vocal, was not just putting on an act. The woman im with likes it for half the time generally and then i try to finish, its the damn opioids im on makes me take awhile to bust. She says that after ten mins of having your ass pounded every moment feels stretched out, like her butt. Really love anal, its a great time i think its a dominance thing.
 
Probably because it's painful for a lot of them. Two of my ex-girlfriends were willing to try it, but it just didn't work.

I mean, I wouldn't want anything up my bunghole so I don't blame them. My doctor wants me to get a prostate exam and it's striking terror in my heart!

 
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