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my girlfriend confessed me something about her past,something that keeps bugging me.

17-20 times in a day with 3 guys is one thing lol ..but 17-20 with 3 different dudes isn't bad ..I'm assuming they had some kind of relationship (like bf gf ..then when one ended she went to #2 then 3 now you?...)

if she dated them each for a month that's not that bad ..means she very passionate/horny/lustful (something) or they were bad even ..

She's not a whore , she's not loose though you could have her do keggles or whatever or wait a month no touching and it'll be as tight as ever lol ..

if you can't get over it you may want to leave as it will always bother you then and she can't do anything about it ....

btw i I dated a girl when I was 15 so was she ..virgins only bc we wanted that first time BS ...well 3 months (during it her family moved and she still visited a lot like most the month here 1 week home) ...we prolly went at it 3-4 a day lol ...so do the math lol..(we were crazy horny obviously ..)

I can't believe people still expect virgins ..I just expect not diseases and less than 5 (as I get older the number goes up) serious relationships ..I don't even know what to expect hook up wise lol (haven't thought much about it got a gf for like a decade no joke) .
 
there is no such thing as a loose pussy. the vagina is a muscle that stretches out when it needs to and returns back to its normal shape. vaginas return back to normal after giving birth to a child, so no a dick would not make it "loose"
and just because she views sex differently than you do, doesn't make her a bad person and should not change your perception of her whatsoever. you cant blame her for having a life before you came in the picture. blame yourself for being narrow minded.
 
My first was with a gal who already been with 3 men, and she had it at least a 100 times. It was no problem and we ended up dating for 2 years. I wouldn't sweat it
 
That ain't shit. If you're over 20, I dare you to find a good girl who hasn't had sex at least 20 times in her life. Her pussy won't be virgin tight, but it should be by no means loose. I still have a tight ass pussy, and I've had more sex than your gf. It'll be ok.
 
1 CAN I SAY SHE HAD TOO MUCH SEX KNOWING THAT SHES DONE IT 17-20 TIMES ?
No, she had the sex it was her choice. You weren't in the picture you cannot complain.

2 DOES IT MEAN SHE HAS A LOOSEN P*** ?
Nope, pussies snap back to their wonderful tightness unless seriously harmed. It's a good thing.

3 WILL SHE EVER BE ABLE TO FEEL IT THE SAME WITH ME?
Probably, she's with you right now. I've had problems with jealously in the past PM me if you like we can chat about it. The long and short of it comes down to she's with you, she wants YOU. If she wanted one of the other 3 she'd still be fucking them.

4 WILL SHE COMPARE ME TO THE THREE MEN SHES BEEN WITH?
She might, but it will be internal. You're new to the whole thing so ask her what she likes where to touch and lick and stick it. And don't think that those moves came from anywhere but you and her. They are unique to your relationship, I promise.

5 AND LAST HOW SHOULD I FEEL ABOUT IT. IT HURTS SO MUCH
I think you're feeling what you're feeling. You can't help that. If you can CALMLY explain to her why you're hurt (Use "I" statements.) maybe she'll understand and your relationship will be better for it.

Good luck shoot me a pm if you like.
 
inneedforanswers said:
1 CAN I SAY SHE HAD TOO MUCH SEX KNOWING THAT SHES DONE IT 17-20 TIMES ?
2 DOES IT MEAN SHE HAS A LOOSEN P*** ?- Nope, it tightens back up.
3 WILL SHE EVER BE ABLE TO FEEL IT THE SAME WITH ME?
4 WILL SHE COMPARE ME TO THE THREE MEN SHES BEEN WITH?
5 AND LAST HOW SHOULD I FEEL ABOUT IT. IT HURTS SO MUCH
please all answers are welcome, guys help me get over it ,its killing me as im writing this.:(
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1) No, that is not even that many partners.

2) Doubt it. Pussies tighten back up quick. I would say a loose pussy would be more biological and not related to how many previous partners a woman has had.

3) Yes, she will feel your cock in her cunt. I doubt you will last that long your first time but she will understand. If anything she will teach you a few moves.

4) She might but that should not be a factor. I do not really think about how a woman compares to another so much as how happy I am in the relationship and how satisfied I am with the sex. There is a reason past relationships end. Its because it was not working out for one or both parties.

5) You shouldn't give a flying fuck that she has had sex with other men before you especially since it was only a few. She is dating you now. Women tend to lose their virginity before men.

All in all OP you are really worrying over nothing. The fact that your gf is honest with you about her past is a good thing. 3 sexual partners is not that many.

I think you are just feeling nervous because you are a virgin. I think once you have sex and get good at it you will feel alot better.

If anything this girl might teach you a few things.

Also you cannot hold someone's past against them. Its not really a confession so much as a fact. Its really no big deal unless you want to make it one and psych yourself out when their is no problem.
 
euphoricnod said:
5 AND LAST HOW SHOULD I FEEL ABOUT IT. IT HURTS SO MUCH
I think you're feeling what you're feeling. You can't help that. If you can CALMLY explain to her why you're hurt (Use "I" statements.) maybe she'll understand and your relationship will be better for it.
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i did all that but still feels the same i dont know why,i just cant figure it out on my own.other than this everything is perfect.
 
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I don't see why the OP should even feel hurt about his partners past.

Its not like she needs to apologize for anything and also he should appreciate her honesty.

All talking about it is gonna do is ruin the relationship.
 
Its good on her part that she is honest with you and had the guts to speak this truth. Now its your turn to prove that you also love her. Sex has nothing to do with this. The main thing is that is she honest with you while being in relationship with you ? If yes then don't ever give a second thought about this and never think of it.
 
jessiki said:
Its good on her part that she is honest with you and had the guts to speak this truth. Now its your turn to prove that you also love her. Sex has nothing to do with this. The main thing is that is she honest with you while being in relationship with you ? If yes then don't ever give a second thought about this and never think of it.
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Jessiki is spot on here. I would take her advice for surley :D For Shizzle!... (yeah, I know that's so 2001)
 
inneedforanswers said:
hey everybody :)
I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half now. I am still a virgin. I have always wanted to hold myself for the love of my life. I have always remained chaste because I want to save myself for the person i love.recently i asked her some questions about how her life was before me...the more i fall in love with her the more i want to know about her,now i cant even picture my life without her,i love her with all my forces and she knows it.everything about her is amazing,like i said just above she told me something about her past which i didnt really like,she said she (SLEPT WITH THREE GUYS AND HAD SEX 17-20 TIMES WITH THEM !) it hurts knowing about her sexual past i feel jealous and sometimes it angers me knowing the stuff she did with them. I feel disgusted sometimes but I'm in love with her and I can't let her go. It just hurts to know she has already givin herself up to someone else.my questions are the following :
1 CAN I SAY SHE HAD TOO MUCH SEX KNOWING THAT SHES DONE IT 17-20 TIMES ?
2 DOES IT MEAN SHE HAS A LOOSEN P*** ?
3 WILL SHE EVER BE ABLE TO FEEL IT THE SAME WITH ME?
4 WILL SHE COMPARE ME TO THE THREE MEN SHES BEEN WITH?
5 AND LAST HOW SHOULD I FEEL ABOUT IT. IT HURTS SO MUCH
please all answers are welcome, guys help me get over it ,its killing me as im writing this.:(
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stop being so judgemental. get over yourself. you HAVE HER and you love her, so being jealous is just teh fear of losing her. you will lose her if you act like this blood. seriously.

Accept her past is HER PAST, and have a beautiful future. I would suggest researching how to make love to her properly, like the kama sutra etc. Either way I am sure she will not have had very good sex with these 3 guys if she only had it 20ish times.

NO YOU CAN NOT and will not, or should not tell her she had too much sex. in my opinion you have had too little sex relatively, women are historically supposed to be chaste(excuse for the sexism, it's just how it's gone) and men get ourselves to a good level of sexual skills before becoming chaste so as to conserve energy, BUT that's just my opinion and that should have nothing to do with anything.

nah it does not mean she has a loose pussy. a cunt is elastic and it stretches to pass a human head through it...then rips in most cases but stretches back. So no, she will most likely be quite tight 20 times is a very small amount of times to have sex, that's like a week's worth of sex for someone with an average libido - I could do that in 3/4 days right now!

Let's ENSURE SHE DOES NOT HAVE IT THE SAME with you, but BETTER THAN ANYTHING SHE HAS HAD BEFORE> do not watch porn teks, just find the "perfumed garden", the "tao of loving", the "kama sutra", practice with edging - learn her signals of different stages of arousal, learn teks, learn how to blow her socks off so she compares you to her other lovers, saying "they were all shit, and you're a sex GOD!"

she will compare you yes. get over it. make it a good situation by being a sex god, as above.

how should you feel? accept how you are feeling, get to the root of where that feeling comes from. it has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you. find the root and nip it in teh bud, otherwise it could taint your shit.

lastly, (this will be hard to do) let her go. in your mind, let go of her, then you will not be overbearing. it might not be possible to do, but learn how to detach. attachment is your bane...love her for who she is and how she's become who she is, but seriously, just try and let go if you can. have your own life, and prepare to have things with her end. know this - everything changes, the only certainty in life is change, and that everything is temporary. this will stop you feeling needy and projecting that image, just be yourself, have your own life, and try and include her in it. just prepare, be aware, and learn to be a good lover whjo rocks his woman's socks off, and trust me you will have her all over you like a sexy rash.

Peace, and good luck - sounds like you need it.
 
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