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MY girlfriend caught ME masturbating!

schwiftee

schwiftee

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So a few nights ago my gf was sleeping and I was up using the computer watching some porn and pleasuring myself. well she got up o pee and even though I tried to put it away and act like I was playing a game , she knew what was up and acted all disgusted and has made a couple derogatory comments the past few days.

Now she is absolutely beautiful; we have great sex and time together in gereral. She is just more of a prude. She really doesn't ever masterbate. And thinks it wierd that I do it. We been together for a while. Live together. And I was just trying and being sucessful in getting her to experiment more with sex, but now I feel as I've really set things back. Like I'm like the worlds biggest pervert in her eyes.

I think I'm just never going to do it in the house again if shes home.
 
^ oh coz there really was no question there otherwise you would have just reread it I suppose. I guess what I'm asking is this a sign of something larger? Are we just not going to be compatable?
 
she was asleep and had work early in the morning and I on the otherhand had the day off. and I'm more of a night owl and she just the opposite. See thats another thing. I don't think shes the one.
 
if your sex drive is higher than hers, then you have to deal with it. nothing to be ashamed of.
would she prefer that you left her due to the slight disparity in your sex drives?
 
She needs to get over herself. Everyone masturbates. In civilized nations, most men masturbate to pornography.
 
Just own it, that's what I do. So what if she "caught" you? You have needs and going to work with intermittent tent pants is; physically uncomfortable, socially awkward and psychologically frustrating. The male sex drive triggers a need, sex is more than just a desire for men. Men need to maintain an equilibrium with satiety.
I would take care of myself in the shower before work if I realised that my equilibrium had moved from its centre and had reached defcon 3 (don't let it get to defcon 5, because men start going nutty then), if she walked in during, I'd just continue.
I think that it would be interesting to conduct a study on men that abstain from orgasming and then periodically measuring sleep stage patterns, memory function, motor skills, concentration, full hormone panel (prolactin, free Testosterone, estrogen, cortisol etc..), blood lipids, cardiovascular profile etc....
It's a fairly obvious study to do, I bet that it has been done.
 
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^ its funny you mention that. i really get off on these pornos where these guys run up to these cute asian girls in ppublic (usually sitting and reading) and cum all over them. its like surpise.. faceshot! you know its fake coz the girls after acting all violated have a tissue or towel to clean up.

I would love to run in there and do it to her while shes sleeping. But she would go berserk.
 
if it is incompatible sex drives, she should be very glad that you masturbated rather than went elsewhere. anyone who makes you feel guilty for doing something perfectly normal is likely to have a negative effect on your self image- not something 'the one' should be doing.
 
I think it's gay that she'd have less a problem with you staying up all nights playing video games than masturbating after a day of no sex.
She doesn't sound like too much of a hedonist, which is always a drawback in my book, so you gotta deal with that.

I think you should just be like "yeah I jerked it! There are many millions of women out there who I can get off to, what are you doing to distinguish yourself little lady? Being prude doesn't help matters." No actually I'd probably rather not tell her that, but that's the attitude I have about it.
Does she have an eating disorder?

Being with a prude yet beautiful girl is such a distraction and drain of time, money, energy, and frustration. You have to take steps to mitigate that situation or else cut your losses and move on.
If she can be salvaged from the whole "I think I don't want to have a good time because I'm so above that" mindset you should at least try. Key word is she THINKS she doesn't want to have a good time, but it's up to you to prove her wrong.
 
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MynameisnotDeja said:
That was really mean of her to put you down for it like that. What a bitch. I would agree with your assessment that she likely is not the one.
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Agreed. I wouldnt begrudge somebody the right to voice their opinion about whether they want pornography in their house or not. If somebody was certain they didnt, then that would have to be respected. And a serious conversation would ensue. Not name-calling though. She has demeaned your entire relationship with her immaturity.
 
hydroazuanacaine said:
^I think Hillary Duff might have something to say about your choice of words, buddy.


OP, your girlfriend finds masturbation to be strange and disgusting? I have a hard time believing that she is otherwise a great catch.
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What are you talking about? I used the correct form of "it's." There ain't shit wrong with that post, It might be one of my greatest ever, in fact.
 
Matsuo Munefusa. said:
Agreed. I wouldnt begrudge somebody the right to voice their opinion about whether they want pornography in their house or not. If somebody was certain they didnt, then that would have to be respected. And a serious conversation would ensue. Not name-calling though. She has demeaned your entire relationship with her immaturity.
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If it was a thing of some specifically offensive pornography, yeah I'd get it. But I sort of read the situation as that she found the act of masturbation itself to be wrong or offensive.

Heh just cuz shes a prude doesnt mean she aint the "one." not that I even believe in the One!!
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Yeah, well he said it. I just agreed.
 
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