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My GF Gets Angry

chasingabee

chasingabee

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i have a problem with my girlfriend as she gets angry mostly at me but also other things. for example, if we are in the car and im giving her directions and i make a mistake and we miss a turn off, she will get really angry and start swearing and being really nasty to me. or if she asks me to hang out the washing and i forget or something like that, she will get really angry. but its also other things like the other day she brought home some shopping in her bag and a yoghurt had burst inside it and she got so angry she was swearing and was basically impossible to deal with for the rest of the day and would snap if i tried to talk to her. every holiday we have gone on together has been ruined for me because she gets angry and in a bad mood about little things and blames it on me.

when i talk to her about her anger, she says its my fault because i "dont listen". but i think her level of anger is far out of proportion to the things that happen to make her angry. i mean, i am only human and bound to forget things or make mistakes. i feel like i am walking on egg shells sometimes being careful not to slip up so she doesnt get angry. yesterday i suggested to her that she read a book to help her to overcome her anger problem but she totally refused and pretty much denies that she has any problem at all.

we have been together 6 years and actually for the most part we have a good relationship and she has a lot of good characteristics as well so it would be very hard for me to dump her. but a lot of the time i fantasise about what it would be like to have a different girlfriend who was more chilled out and i didnt have to worry about her ruining our holidays.

so what do you think i can do about it?
 
Has this been happening for all six years you've been together? Wow, I can't imagine dating someone like that, who just got mad all the time and then blamed it on me. I would think seeing a psychologist or counselor would help her but I think you'd have a hard time suggesting that! :P
 
llama112 said:
Has this been happening for all six years you've been together? Wow, I can't imagine dating someone like that, who just got mad all the time and then blamed it on me. I would think seeing a psychologist or counselor would help her but I think you'd have a hard time suggesting that! :P
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Yeah same here, that's crazy. 8)
 
maybe she is getting tired of you (your relationship) and actually wants you to be the one to break it off with her?
 
Every time she does that, be like you need to calm down over there and I'll deal with this. I can't have you screaming and cussing all over the place.
 
my way of dealing with people who treat me with aggression is to remove myself from that aggression.

if someone starts shouting at me i'd be like "until you can talk to me like an adult i'm going out"
 
skittlesxo said:
maybe she is getting tired of you (your relationship) and actually wants you to be the one to break it off with her?
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Good call. That is a real possibility OP. Is there any way to sit down and talk with her, or does she blow it completely out of proportion and start a fight because you even bring it up?
 
Man, this may not be healthy, but...


I'd guilt the fuck out of that bitch. Bait her into blowing up about something that even she is going to realize is ridiculous an hour later, and act like it's traumatically affected you. I know that most people in here won't condone manipulation, but godamn it is effective sometimes.
 
Listen to yourself. You're obviously unhappy.

I will say that there isn't any reason anyone should constantly be angry with you. If you love and care about someone, you know how to handle their emotions. No matter what dumbass shit you did or forgot to do, there isn't any reason your significant other shouldn't be able to talk to you about it and communicate in a civilized, polite, and respectful way.

It's hard to admit that you're unhappy sometimes in a situation like this. But as someone else said recently here in SLR, there's no need trying to rationalize anything about situations like these. It comes down to the fact that you're not getting what you need out of the relationship, and it doesn't seem like she's very receptive when you try to talk about it. So what's the point?

If you feel like she's being irrational, stand up for yourself, remove yourself from the situation, do whatever you need to do to let her know you won't put up with it. Most importantly, don't lose sight of your own actions. Are you doing something wrong? If you don't think so, fucking end it.
 
thanks for replying, youve given me some things to think about

i never said that shes constantly angry but, she says that its lots of little things that build up until she explodes.

yesterday i was trying to discuss it with her again over skype. she totally denies still that she has any problem. she always turns it back round at me saying that i "dont listen". maybe she is right but i dont know what she means about it. i asked her what i can do to listen better and she says she cant help me and i have to work it out for myself.
 
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Wow she sounds pretty fucking miserable to be around. And she pins all her frustration on you? Maybe you could look into...
-Anger management classes
-Get her a punching bag
-If all fails and she doesn't straighten up, grow some balls and bail. You deserve to be happy.
 
Just remember that you don't owe her anything, i.e. you have no obligation to stay with her. You're not married. The amount of time you've been together doesn't factor into a decision to stay or leave. She's the one for you, at this point in your life, or she's not. So do what's right for you, and don't feel obligated (if you have been).
 
It seems like she has anger issues, which is not good, and not healthy. You have two choice, either deal with it, or move on. Or tell her, she needs to work on her anger, or you won't put up with it. But say it in a cool way, and not as a threat. Like Oh i love you, but ur anger is becoming too much for me..
 
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