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My boyfriend thinks I "cheated," but I disagree

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It's not cheating. I also don't think it's a terrible thing to do. I don't see anything wrong with hooking up with someone while you're single. So it's your ex's and current bf's friend... he'll have to get over that.
 
So it's your ex's and current bf's friend... he'll have to get over that.
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Will he though? That's some great ammunition to use whenever your gf pisses you off. It's hard to forget that shit especially when has to interact with his friend or mutual friends. The relationships rocky to begin with. It obviously eats him up inside. I don't think what the op did was inherently wrong, after my first post I really didn't think about her being distraught. The real scumbag is the friend to be honest.
 
bennyZA said:
Will he though? That's some great ammunition to use whenever your gf pisses you off. It's hard to forget that shit especially when has to interact with his friend or mutual friends. The relationships rocky to begin with. It obviously eats him up inside. I don't think what the op did was inherently wrong, after my first post I really didn't think about her being distraught. The real scumbag is the friend to be honest.
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If he cannot get over it, there's a gun shop at every corner, and plenty of prison cells to fit his kind.
 
bennyZA said:
Will he though? That's some great ammunition to use whenever your gf pisses you off. It's hard to forget that shit especially when has to interact with his friend or mutual friends.
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Exactly what I was thinking. Next quarrel, this will surely come up and it won't be pretty.
 
Ksa said:
If he cannot get over it, there's a gun shop at every corner, and plenty of prison cells to fit his kind.
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Am I missing something? What is his kind? I didn't really see anything to lead me to believe he deserves death. If he cannot get over it, why not break up...
 
bennyZA said:
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Am I missing something? What is his kind? I didn't really see anything to lead me to believe he deserves death. If he cannot get over it, why not break up...
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It's true, there's psychopaths who just can't get over things like this lol. What do you want me to say? You keep saying he can't get over it. So be it lol :D
 
Thanks Benny, I think we needed that! Ok glueglunnin, if your boyfriend says he's cool with it that's great, but I worry this is going to come up again. He may seem forgiving but only time will tell.
 
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Say that you wont shoot me if I ever can't get over something in regards to any past, present or future gf. Can you promise me that?
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I thought you said her ex-bf won't get over the fact that she went out with his friend.
 
Yea there is limits and you can't smash homies. I would kick my so called friend's ass and then humiliate you if I were him. You didn't necessarily cheat but as a man our pride is up there. I'm not saying it's not a two way street. If he did the same then he deserves to be destroyed as well. He probably sees you as damaged goods now. Let's be real I wouldn't spend money or wanna cuddle with you after knowing my friend got your pussy effortlessly. That's just me though. I'm not being disrespectful, just honest
 
Honest?

If your already out fucking around at this short time, at least do it with someone he doesn't know.

Otherwise I have some other thoughts about this, and if I can't say something nice, then......

It was wrong, morals shouls lead you a couple months away from a break up and morals should keep you to someone not known by your x BF.

It's just wrong on so many levels.

This should open this poor guys eyes.

At least save him some self esteem and tell him your no good for him. This poor guy is too blind to see.
 
Not Again said:
At least save him some self esteem and tell him your no good for him. This poor guy is too blind to see.
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Badroll7 said:
Yea there is limits and you can't smash homies. I would kick my so called friend's ass and then humiliate you if I were him. You didn't necessarily cheat but as a man our pride is up there. I'm not saying it's not a two way street. If he did the same then he deserves to be destroyed as well. He probably sees you as damaged goods now. Let's be real I wouldn't spend money or wanna cuddle with you after knowing my friend got your pussy effortlessly. That's just me though. I'm not being disrespectful, just honest
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Yea man, I could never get back with a girl after something like that. All her bf's other friends are probably ragging on him saying 'I can't believe he was desperate enough to get back with whats-her-face after she banged his friend during their break.'

OP, you definitely had the right to do your thing once your man broke up with you, but poor choice. Your bf sounds either desperate or he doesn't have much self respect, or both. I don't mean to sound harsh, just calling it like I see it, and I would say the same to anybody else in the same situation as him.
 
OP is your bf still friends with the dude you fucked? even worse, do the three of you guys still hang out together?

if so i'm going to go out on a limb here and call him a totally beta l00ser. and his "friend" was a total douche and not a true friend for fucking you. you don't fuck your bro's ex-gf. its totally not cool, and is grounds for instant termination of a friendship.

this whole situation is fucked up, honestly i pity everybody involved.
 
Roger&Me said:
OP is your bf still friends with the dude you fucked? even worse, do the three of you guys still hang out together?

if so i'm going to go out on a limb here and call him a totally beta l00ser. and his "friend" was a total douche and not a true friend for fucking you. you don't fuck your bro's ex-gf. its totally not cool, and is grounds for instant termination of a friendship.

this whole situation is fucked up, honestly i pity everybody involved.
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So if fucking his ex-gf is grounds for friendship termination, what punishement is there if she was still his gf, or his wife and he had kids? What do you do then?
 
Let's say I have a friend who's a bad fuck. Bad body, bad equipment, no manliness, couldn't get a woman off to save his life. And let's say I loved a woman who fucked this friend while we were broken up. Do you think I'd give a rat's ass that the woman I love fucked this loser? I might not trust him again after that, and I might question the woman's character for trying to hurt me this way, but if I loved her, felt she was rare and special, and this was a first offense, I'd probably take her back. It wouldn't mean I was pathetic or had poor self esteem. It would mean I know how I can make her feel and my friend is no threat to me.

When I have a connection with a woman, that's every guy, as far as I'm concerned.

Who cares who she fucked? He's following his heart. I respect that.
 
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So if fucking his ex-gf is grounds for friendship termination, what punishement is there if she was still his gf, or his wife and he had kids? What do you do then?
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beat that fucker's ass, but i'm not supposed to say that in this forum bc a bunch of goody two-shoes

inb4 "violence is never the answer"
 
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Well I am not one to judge. I have fucked hours after a gal wanted to "take a break." We did get back together and she was really pissed about the chick I fucked. She hated her guts. She got over it, for the most part. Everyone once in a while, she would bring it up and I would be like yo, you wanted to take a break. She didn't know I had this gal on my D blowing up my phone and didn't think I would fuck anyone.

I knew this one gal who was screwing around with my buddy for almost two years behind her bf's back. Well anyways I asked him if he still had feelings for her and he said no. I had no respect for her bf and my friend didn't seem to care, so I fucked her. So dude went thru my phone when I was on the can. I come out and he is crying "She never let me take a picture of her." Pics were already forwarded so it got out and I had two dudes and two chicks pissed at me. Anyways the bf calls me up (on speakerphone) and starts talking shit. I didn't know he was on speaker till later.

I told him I didn't appreciate the call and that I was dating someone. I told him it didn't matter what happened with me so much as the fact that he couldn't man up to the guy who had been fucking her for two years. I told him I didn't want to drag this out, so if he wanted to do something about it, to come get some. He called me back and apologized and said he was gonna kick the other guys ass. Weird thing is he kept calling me and asking me to get high with him after he broke up with that whore.

So anyways the other guy went apeshit on me and tried to run me over and came in my house looking for the chick and I am sitting there with my gf. When he realized that it was a one time shag he left. I guess he didn't want to fight. I didn't really either.

Anyways girl calls me up hysterical saying she ain't got no place to go and see really wants to see me. I was just like be cool, he will take you back and he did.

But yeah that's what happens. After typing this, I kinda feel like an asshole.

If a girl fucked someone else after I dumped her, I wouldn't care. Now if it was a lot of people or someone who was just disgusting or like my best friend, I probably wouldn't even take her calls. But a one time infidelity which isn't even an infidelity, its forgivable. I have been forgiven and forgave.

All is fair in love and war.
 
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