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My boyfriend thinks I "cheated," but I disagree

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T. Calderone said:
Thanks Benny, I think we needed that! Ok glueglunnin, if your boyfriend says he's cool with it that's great, but I worry this is going to come up again. He may seem forgiving but only time will tell.
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She's not coming back to this thread ( maybe, to address me saying this and insist that she has merely been busy for a few days )
She started this thread because she wanted people to side with her, and as many as possible. As soon as people started giving replies of substance (Which generally disagreed with her ) she has only cherry picked the replies that she responds to, and does not address any accusations. Very fucking selfish. I hope that her boyfriend is still reading this thread and comes to realize that he deserves better. Maybe a healthy dose of reality (a world where "honest opinions" aren't the ones that you wanted) will do her maturity a favor.

For everyone that says "You were single, and he broke up with you, you should have you have every right to fuck whomever you wish" in so many words;
You're all encouraging emotional immaturity. Let's break this down

"he broke up with you, so it's ok"
Here's what you're telling people to take away from this: "The world is black and white, yes and no, you should immediately take advantage of that whenever the opportunity arises."
You should stop and ask yourself if this behavior is going to meet your needs over time. For fuck sake, have some foresight. The girl I am dating, but not in a relationship with the other night told me that what I do with other girls was "At this point, none of my business" Same black and white situation. Do I instantly think, Oh I should go fuck as many girls as possible until this situation changes? Fuck no, how is that going to help my developing relationship over time?

"You can fuck whomever you wish"
Broken down:"It's ok for you to act out and be inconsiderate, possibly even with direct intent on being hurtful, against somebody who has for whatever reason made you unhappy because you are within your right"

If I see an open bar stool at a packed bar, and another guy has been waiting on it, and I run up and jump in the stool. I didn't touch the guy! i didn't do anything illegal! I was within my right; it was first come, first served. Nobody officially had any right to that bar stool. But I'm still a fucking dick for doing it.

But hey, let's encourage people to debase the ethics that make us civilized, because it is to the advantage of our immediate wants.
 
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Are you for real. You don't fuck someone else soon as you break up?

Hell I keep a chick lined up in case that happens. I try to stay having some sort of sexual relationships. I had maintained casual sex with one partner on and off for like ten years. I had like 3 gfs at once and I got caught. I ended up with one.

After that I moved on to some other women. Casual sex. I do the same shit she does, but I am a man. So if you think that's immature, well at least I am having sex and enjoying it, so fuck it. I don't honestly give a shit sometimes.

That being said if I find someone I like I stay true to her and don't fuck around. I find that is a rare thing and rather fleeting. Of course monogamy with a partner you truly care about is optimal, but lets face it. Its not gonna be the person your with now most likely. Life is a series of relationships till you find one that works and you stay in it while its good and hopefully you find someone who its for life. If you are that lucky.
 
You can fuck whomever is willing when you're single, have at it if it makes you happy. However, for many people, this may result in debasement of the self.

I had mentioned that I fucked my friend's ex, but they had always hated each other, and Brett mentioned that he always thought he should have dated me. This analysis has been borne out to be true. Also, my friend had been living with, and using me, for months. At a certain point, I really wasn't bothered with what he'd think. Still, this is overall a poor strategy to pursue, as it will end up hurting all involved, despite the logic involved. Emotions and hurt do not respond to logic.

Chalk it up to inexperience.
 
I fucked up many peoples emotions with what I did in the past.

I don't shag other men's women anymore. But yeah I did some two timing stuff to some two timing women.

All is fair in love and war.

Human beings are wired to fuck. Its that simple. You can listen to nonsense about right and wrong or you can just live.

Its not really that bad if everyone knows what they are getting in to.

The most important thing is to make it clear exactly what type of relationship you have with someone.
 
Roger&Me said:
beat that fucker's ass, but i'm not supposed to say that in this forum bc a bunch of goody two-shoes

inb4 "violence is never the answer"
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well if someone can make you so angry that you do something that can seriously reduce your employability then you're a fool basically.

have you not seen cheaters? people leave that show with no dignity whatsoever. it hilarious and they make an embarrassment of themselves
 
Animal Mother said:
She's not coming back to this thread ( maybe, to address me saying this and insist that she has merely been busy for a few days )
She started this thread because she wanted people to side with her, and as many as possible. As soon as people started giving replies of substance (Which generally disagreed with her ) she has only cherry picked the replies that she responds to, and does not address any accusations. Very fucking selfish. I hope that her boyfriend is still reading this thread and comes to realize that he deserves better. Maybe a healthy dose of reality (a world where "honest opinions" aren't the ones that you wanted) will do her maturity a favor.

For everyone that says "You were single, and he broke up with you, you should have you have every right to fuck whomever you wish" in so many words;
You're all encouraging emotional immaturity. Let's break this down

"he broke up with you, so it's ok"
Here's what you're telling people to take away from this: "The world is black and white, yes and no, you should immediately take advantage of that whenever the opportunity arises."
You should stop and ask yourself if this behavior is going to meet your needs over time. For fuck sake, have some foresight. The girl I am dating, but not in a relationship with the other night told me that what I do with other girls was "At this point, none of my business" Same black and white situation. Do I instantly think, Oh I should go fuck as many girls as possible until this situation changes? Fuck no, how is that going to help my developing relationship over time?

"You can fuck whomever you wish"
Broken down:"It's ok for you to act out and be inconsiderate, possibly even with direct intent on being hurtful, against somebody who has for whatever reason made you unhappy because you are within your right"

If I see an open bar stool at a packed bar, and another guy has been waiting on it, and I run up and jump in the stool. I didn't touch the guy! i didn't do anything illegal! I was within my right; it was first come, first served. Nobody officially had any right to that bar stool. But I'm still a fucking dick for doing it.

But hey, let's encourage people to debase the ethics that make us civilized, because it is to the advantage of our immediate wants.
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Let me start by saying that I actually haven't been on bluelight because I've been to busy talking to the people that actually matter in my life. So, you're damn right about that one. Let me continue by saying that it's really quite funny how you're so sure of your assumptions as to why I made this thread and certainly did not just ignore the people that disagreed with me. I however, regardless of anyone else's opinion (I asked for others' opinions because I was curious, and so was my boyfriend) will do what I wish with my body, as I do not have to adhere to your morals and do not conform to your narrow minded ideas of "Civilization." With that being said, I had sex with his friend without the intentions of him finding out, which I've stated previously in this forum but you seem to be too biased about me to listen to anyone else including myself. I also stated previously, and will state again, that I have the right to do what I will with my body, when I want to and however I want to with whomever I want to. Should I do it in a respectful, safe, and considerate manor? Sure. But not when he's the one who broke up with me. He made it clear to me that he wanted nothing else to do to me, that our relationship was over. There was no relationship at the time that I had sex with Tyler. As a matter of fact, there is no relationship now. Because my boyfriend at the time I made this thread had cheated on me, with his tattoo artists' pregnant fiance. Even after I broke it off with him for cheating on me, I forgave him and remained friends with him regardless of his actions as a boyfriend to me. Please, tell me more about how I'm uncivilized and immature.

Also, I understand from your username that you are some kind of "mother" of sorts, but you are most certainly not mine, nor are you ruler of the universe. So before you go making some really sore assumptions and biased opinions about someone, maybe you should become more knowledgeable of the issue at hand and the person who is ACTUALLY HANDLING THE ISSUE. God damn, you take shit so personal. You don't have to worry about me ever fucking YOUR man, because if I did I don't think I'd be able to deal with your nagging and bickering. Jesus H. Christ, man. you have to be some kind of hungover to be that opinionated over something that doesn't even effect you (as far as someone else's relationship). Which I wouldn't be surprised by.

But hey, let's judge others and try and put them down because I'm probably way past my prime and hate myself more than anyone else ever could.

Have a jolly motherfucking Christmas.
 
You didn't cheat on him, but you completely betrayed him by fucking his friend right after the break up. If you truly respected or valued him (or yourself) as a person, you would not have been able to do this.

And now he's cheated on you with a pregnant woman? You've both deeply betrayed each other. Time to muster up some self-respect, sort your shit out, and find a healthy relationship. This is no good for either of you.
 
lovegluegunnin said:
Let me start by saying that I actually haven't been on bluelight because I've been to busy talking to the people that actually matter in my life. So, you're damn right about that one. Let me continue by saying that it's really quite funny how you're so sure of your assumptions as to why I made this thread and certainly did not just ignore the people that disagreed with me. I however, regardless of anyone else's opinion (I asked for others' opinions because I was curious, and so was my boyfriend) will do what I wish with my body, as I do not have to adhere to your morals and do not conform to your narrow minded ideas of "Civilization." With that being said, I had sex with his friend without the intentions of him finding out, which I've stated previously in this forum but you seem to be too biased about me to listen to anyone else including myself. I also stated previously, and will state again, that I have the right to do what I will with my body, when I want to and however I want to with whomever I want to. Should I do it in a respectful, safe, and considerate manor? Sure. But not when he's the one who broke up with me. He made it clear to me that he wanted nothing else to do to me, that our relationship was over. There was no relationship at the time that I had sex with Tyler. As a matter of fact, there is no relationship now. Because my boyfriend at the time I made this thread had cheated on me, with his tattoo artists' pregnant fiance. Even after I broke it off with him for cheating on me, I forgave him and remained friends with him regardless of his actions as a boyfriend to me. Please, tell me more about how I'm uncivilized and immature.

Also, I understand from your username that you are some kind of "mother" of sorts, but you are most certainly not mine, nor are you ruler of the universe. So before you go making some really sore assumptions and biased opinions about someone, maybe you should become more knowledgeable of the issue at hand and the person who is ACTUALLY HANDLING THE ISSUE. God damn, you take shit so personal. You don't have to worry about me ever fucking YOUR man, because if I did I don't think I'd be able to deal with your nagging and bickering. Jesus H. Christ, man. you have to be some kind of hungover to be that opinionated over something that doesn't even effect you (as far as someone else's relationship). Which I wouldn't be surprised by.

But hey, let's judge others and try and put them down because I'm probably way past my prime and hate myself more than anyone else ever could.

Have a jolly motherfucking Christmas.
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Judging by your response, you seem to be taking this more personally than AM.
 
You were split up, you fucked someone. That's fair play.
 
It wasn't right

But since I'm with a girl who I caught cheating once I guess I can't say anything
 
Animal Mother said:
she has only cherry picked the replies that she responds to, and does not address any accusations. Very fucking selfish.
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Lol, read this exchange I've had with her. It says basically the same thing you say:

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lovegluegunnin said:
I was wondering if I was the only one who could smell what the misogynist was cooking.
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I am misogynist because I quote the Bible? Well, since in Islam, rape is punished by death according to Sharia, then you must be a Muslim sister! Let's make assumptions about one another see where this goes.

Sister truth is truth. The way you operate is, if the truth pleases you, it's the truth, if you hate it, it is misogyny. Are you kidding me?
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You should also keep in mind that she's very young and it's normal for a teenager to be selfish and have a geocentric view of the world where everybody revolves around oneself.
 
You fucked one of his friends.. It's not cheating when you already broke up but I can understand why he said that

I guess he's just a bit worried that you'll leave him again because you already proved once how easily you can find a new partner to have sex with
 
Tristurbed said:
You fucked one of his friends.. It's not cheating when you already broke up but I can understand why he said that

I guess he's just a bit worried that you'll leave him again because you already proved once how easily you can find a new partner to have sex with
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She's 16. According to US law, having sex with an adult (not saying her bf is an adult, pay attention) is considered rape, because the minor does not have the ability to give consent at that age. If her boyfriends are adults, it's gang rape basically, one raped her and he tossed her to the other, both go to jail. Her guilt? Zero. She's a blame-less lamb, like Jesus Christ himself. If her boyfriends however are minors too, then none of them has the ability to give consent, so they rape each-other, creating between them a scene of child pornography, an abomination, according to American law. If they taped it they would be arrested.

She doesn't even have the ability to give consent for sex, and you want her to have the right or wrong discernment to know whom to give consent to? How does that even work? You are a 10 y.o. child who doesn't know how to drive your father's car and even driving is not allowed to you, then your father demands you to know when to yield, when to slow down etc.? It's madness. First you learn to give consent (age 18) and then you learn whom to give it to.

You are an American, hug your constitution and don't have double standards. An American can't accuse someone of having sex with a minor, frowning with an air of superiority while watching the news, and then expect a 16 y.o. to know whom to have sex with. Why the double standards? You have a law in place, follow it.
 
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Mr.Scagnattie said:
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It depends on the state. A lot of states, 16 is the consent age. Others it's 17, others 18. No state in the US is younger than 16 though.
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Aha! Correct brother, correct! So I assume that, in the states where the law is 16 y.o., the men/women have a genetic mutation where they mature and grow smart faster. Either that or the law is wrong.
 
lovegluegunnin said:
Let me start by saying that I actually haven't been on bluelight because I've been to busy talking to the people that actually matter in my life. So, you're damn right about that one. Let me continue by saying that it's really quite funny how you're so sure of your assumptions as to why I made this thread and certainly did not just ignore the people that disagreed with me. I however, regardless of anyone else's opinion (I asked for others' opinions because I was curious, and so was my boyfriend) will do what I wish with my body, as I do not have to adhere to your morals and do not conform to your narrow minded ideas of "Civilization." With that being said, I had sex with his friend without the intentions of him finding out, which I've stated previously in this forum but you seem to be too biased about me to listen to anyone else including myself. I also stated previously, and will state again, that I have the right to do what I will with my body, when I want to and however I want to with whomever I want to. Should I do it in a respectful, safe, and considerate manor? Sure. But not when he's the one who broke up with me. He made it clear to me that he wanted nothing else to do to me, that our relationship was over. There was no relationship at the time that I had sex with Tyler. As a matter of fact, there is no relationship now. Because my boyfriend at the time I made this thread had cheated on me, with his tattoo artists' pregnant fiance. Even after I broke it off with him for cheating on me, I forgave him and remained friends with him regardless of his actions as a boyfriend to me. Please, tell me more about how I'm uncivilized and immature.

Also, I understand from your username that you are some kind of "mother" of sorts, but you are most certainly not mine, nor are you ruler of the universe. So before you go making some really sore assumptions and biased opinions about someone, maybe you should become more knowledgeable of the issue at hand and the person who is ACTUALLY HANDLING THE ISSUE. God damn, you take shit so personal. You don't have to worry about me ever fucking YOUR man, because if I did I don't think I'd be able to deal with your nagging and bickering. Jesus H. Christ, man. you have to be some kind of hungover to be that opinionated over something that doesn't even effect you (as far as someone else's relationship). Which I wouldn't be surprised by.

But hey, let's judge others and try and put them down because I'm probably way past my prime and hate myself more than anyone else ever could.

Have a jolly motherfucking Christmas.
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Firstly, I'd like to make it very clear that you're a dumb bitch, but, I don't have to, because you've once again done that one your one.

You have been on bluelight, and you have been posting, and you also have posted on SLR since I made that post. So we've established that you will do things to intentionally hurt people and that you are a liar. The lying part makes us call into question anything further that you can say. Don't try to deny it either, because they is a fucking LOG of it on the internet. We know when you posted what and what which time. It's also pretty clear to most that you aren't up to par in debating somebody, so you cherry pick your arguments. When you get called out on all of your stupidity, you pretend to not be around for however long it takes you to come up with something that I am sure looks VERY INTELLIGENT TO YOU, and spell check it a few times.

You have again avoided the points that are made to you, and returned with name calling. That's how you are immature ( and quite possibly dull as well )
My "narrow minded" views, are based on an entire generation span of life experience, that you do not have. The "views" on civilization and the morals that make us that way, are pretty well set and enjoy by millions. It's not exactly open minded to do something intentionally hurtful towards somebody that you were supposed to care about. Nor is it mature, like I said.

Also, if you would have paid attention, or perhaps use the resources at your fingertips to find answers to things you don't understand ( Strange sounding user names ) then you would have realized I am a guy.

I gave you an opinion just like you asked for when you started this thread. Perhaps you could explain to me how it's biased? Oh what? you can't because that doesn't make sense? Oh, don't worry, I knew that ;)

The greatest part of your post is that Jolly Christmas comment. Like you had just given a grand debate winning speech and expected a standing ovation or something lol
 
This is so not "cheating" that I am surprised the dude didn't run right out, buy a ring, and propose.
 
Ksa said:
She's 16. According to US law, having sex with an adult (not saying her bf is an adult, pay attention) is considered rape, because the minor does not have the ability to give consent at that age. If her boyfriends are adults, it's gang rape basically, one raped her and he tossed her to the other, both go to jail. Her guilt? Zero. She's a blame-less lamb, like Jesus Christ himself. If her boyfriends however are minors too, then none of them has the ability to give consent, so they rape each-other, creating between them a scene of child pornography, an abomination, according to American law. If they taped it they would be arrested.

She doesn't even have the ability to give consent for sex, and you want her to have the right or wrong discernment to know whom to give consent to? How does that even work? You are a 10 y.o. child who doesn't know how to drive your father's car and even driving is not allowed to you, then your father demands you to know when to yield, when to slow down etc.? It's madness. First you learn to give consent (age 18) and then you learn whom to give it to.

You are an American, hug your constitution and don't have double standards. An American can't accuse someone of having sex with a minor, frowning with an air of superiority while watching the news, and then expect a 16 y.o. to know whom to have sex with. Why the double standards? You have a law in place, follow it.
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Like laws really matter? I mean I don't have sex with minors and am not really interested in anyone who is not within five years of myself. I had a gf who was 17 when I was 20. Does that make me a rapist? Her parents loved me and wanted me to marry her.
 
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