Messy situation and relationship.. Help?

[omnipresenthuman]

Don't let your life be preconditioned based on the life of someone who doesn't have respect for themselves...this makes me think of a weird aspect of karma...when you engage in self-destructive behavior on your own, in behavior which specifically only affects you in a negative way, then that is one thing...but when you engage in destructive behavior which definitely brings others down into your own problems, essentially spreading your bad karma around, that's much worse.

If you just want my basic advice as a guy though, hard drugs and relationships aren't a good mix. Sure, you two can do some drugs together every once in a while, but when you're talking about serious physically-addictive drug habits, whether opiates or benzo's or stimulants, that's a real slippery slope to tread on...either get clean immediately with him to salvage your relationship or just break off and salvage your own life because you can't seriously want to wait around years for him to quit, right? Unless you have kids, there's no point to stay around unless he gets sober...

 

[kace]

Yeah...he just told me how someone who works for Narcotics Annoymous recently offered to help him get clean, get a script, offered him rehab and even a holiday as a reward for being clean! He said 'no' to him. Wtf! If someone offered me any of that I would hug them and be entirely grateful. This person chose my bf as he helps specific people from time to time. I can't believe he refused this amazing opportunity.
I have asked him why he said no to the guy, but he doesn't know... I really want to help him get through this, but it's hard if he doesn't care like you guys say.
I am going to the NA meeting next week, meet the man who offered to help him and get advice. I've warned my partner that we can't be together if we aren't on the same level with regards to recovery. I'm not happy sitting around using heroin everyday, if he is, then he will be doing it alone when I manage to get a script. I don't want to break up with him, I love him, I hope he takes meeting with the NA guy again seriously.

 

[Mysterie]

basically you cant change ppl, but you can inspire them to want to change...

i hope you start thinking of your own self before him, if he isnt trying

try get out in a gentle friendly fashion if possible, a gradual decrease in time you see eachother and are affectionate etc

its fucked he is choosing heroin over you though and thats a sign you should gtfo (sorry if that comes across as blunt but its true from my perspective)

 

[Flow]

I recently found this channel on youtube full of positive videos that really help me when I'm feeling less than awesome about myself. I know it may seem cheesy but this guy brings up a lot of valid points in his videos!